Stress!!! - The PASH Wedding Forums and Message Boards

ladedah · #1 01-04-2006, 06:42 PM

Okay, I seriously have had two panic attacks today....I do not know what is wrong with me..I am not normally a stressful person but I'm feeling overloaded and just need to release some of it to you all so that my FH won't get all of it when I get home...

The List:

1.) We have one support staff at work, she is on maternity leave a month early (because of bed rest), she'll also be gone a month longer...not a big deal but I am the lowest on the totem pole of workers so I get her job and mine..extra work no extra pay...PLUS...it's tax season, so my work load is already increased.
2.) I have another licensing test to take on March 1. I have been studying but I don't feel prepared..I had to sign up for my test today..thus the panicking.
3.) I still have lot's of wedding stuff to do, which I realize some can wait until all of the craziness mentioned above has subsided..but some can't...I have six weeks to address 250 invitations, not to mention I need to get our maps/information cards to the printers, send our engagment picture to several papers,....oh goodness...*getting lightheaded*..

My FH has been very helpful and patient while I've been studying and working late...But I just need some good down home stress relievers...otherwise I will start getting stress cravings....and believe me, not fitting into my dress will not make the stress sub-side...

ljeagle · #2 01-04-2006, 06:59 PM

Take a deep breath and relax. It wont get done if u rush it. See if your MOH or BM can help with the invites. That would help out alot...

PlanetClaire · #3 01-04-2006, 07:05 PM

I feel your pain!!

I get overwhelmed too when I think of ALL that I have to do and take care of over the next few months. What helps me is to break it down into smaller tasks and give myself a time frame to do them. I especially like to break it down to, where feasible, one or two things to do a day. That way you aren't looking at ALLLLL that you have to do and it seems more manageable. And where possible delegate or get some help from trusted, reliable friends and family!

Take care of yourself! Try to squeeze in some excercise, a nice hot soak in the tub, a massage- to help combat the stress!

hang in there!!!

labeadel · #4 01-04-2006, 07:40 PM

One thing that DH and I did when I started feeling this way was we sat down and had little meetings. It helped me get everything out that needed to be done and kept him informed, so I didn't snap at him one day for asking a stupid question. We wrote out notes, assigned tasks just like a regular meeting. It was extremely helpful, and it helped us still feel connected during such a crazy time.

Also, I know it's hard sometimes, but try doing your best to leave your job at the office when you go home. And just do a few invitations at a time, if that's possible. If you have nobody who can help you, just sit down every night and do 10-20 of them. And I did it while drinking a glass of wine and watching a fun movie or an episode or 5 of Friends. Try to do things that make you laugh when you get home. And try to go for some walks (if you're not in a cold area) and take hot baths. Hopefully some of this will help. And ask FH for help if you need it. If he's anything like mine, he'll be happy to help if he can.

Complicated Woman · #5 01-04-2006, 08:34 PM

Oh, ladedah, take a deep breath, girl. I would be really stressed if I were you, too. We're here to listen when you need to vent. In the meantime, take a long hot soak in the tub, curl up with a book or a movie and FH and try to take your mind off of it all.