How did you "propose" to your MOH and BM?
So all along, we've been saying we weren't going to have any attendants, not even a MOH and BM. My thinking was that I simply didn't want anyone close to us, not friends, not familly, NO ONE, to feel like they had "jobs" to do on our wedding day. My vision was for everyone to just come out and enjoy the day with us, and not feel like they had to attend to us, fuss over us, or do any tasks.....
Additionally, we have such a tightknit group of friends, I felt it would be impossible to "choose," and didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings if we DIDN'T ask them, or make them somehow feel they weren't as special to us.
Mind you, FH did initially want attendants, or at least MOH and BM, but I managed to convince him of my reasoning, and so we went forth with planning NO attendants.
However, in recent weeks, we've discussed it a couple more times, and there's are two dear friends (who happen to be married to each other) whom we just adore, are very, very close to, and now we're thinking we would love for them to be a bigger part of our big day (though I'm still holding steadfast to my "no jobs! no tasks!" mantra for them).
So my question is this:
How did you actually "propose" the idea to your MOH (as well as how did your FH ask his BM?)? Did you just casually ask her, was it assumed all along that she would be in this role, or did you make a special event of it (since it IS really a monumental and vital role in the most important day of your life)?
Do you have any ideas as to how we could ask them in a really unique way (to show them how important they are to us)?
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