How long does it usually take to prepare? - The PASH Wedding Forums and Message Boards

snowhite · #1 07-20-2007, 04:35 AM

I heard some friends said 6 months! Maybe hers is a really really big one. I just want a normal one, or maybe even a bit smaller. How long do you guys think it will take?

Kim&Bob2004 · #2 07-20-2007, 05:22 AM

Depends on the wedding. We did ours in about 4. But that was 4 months of constant planing. A lot take longer. I would say bare bones would be 3 months. Need to get the dresses, invites and mail them and get RSVP's back, order the cake, reserve the location (s)..............

What were you thinking?

neebelung · #3 07-20-2007, 12:14 PM

I'd say 3-4 months MINIMUM.... but if you can give yourself 9-12 months, you won't be in as much of a panic.

If you're shooting for a specific date and you won't have as much time as you'd like to plan, (and can afford it) you might look into hiring a wedding planner to help you.

ladedah · #4 07-20-2007, 02:18 PM

I took 13 months....

it took me six months just to get my dress.....but I know people who have done it on much less time...

AshyBekka · #5 07-20-2007, 02:43 PM

I spent almost exactly 12 months planning. Not everything takes an incredibly long time, but it can get stressful if you don't allow some time for things. Also, you'll want to book your venues as soon as you pick them out-you'd be amazed at how competitive it can get for churches and reception locations! Sometimes 6 months isn't even enough in advance to book (it surprised me too!). It also takes time to get in invitations, your dress, the BM dresses, etc. etc., so it's not that you're planning every single day for 12 months, but just that there are certain things that you need to plan ahead for so you get everything in on time.

(Being here is a good place to start though!

)

feb-bride · #6 07-20-2007, 04:29 PM

We were engaged for a year before we got married. Since I have a full-time job and three kids, I wanted to make sure I gave myself enough time to get everything done without getting burned out.

Sh@ks18 · #7 07-20-2007, 04:32 PM

Im sure you can plan it in 2-3 months, if you find a dress off the rack for you and your bridal party.

The major problem you'll run into is finding the church and the hall on the same date. If youre doing the reception at home, then i'm sure you can do it in 3 months, just as long as the church isnt too booked.

NovemberGal · #8 07-20-2007, 05:28 PM

I gave myself about 9 months, but it came together really in 3 or 4. And that wasn't large--140 people, at a church with reception in private rooms in a restaurant. Nothing complicated. It really does vary.

morganova · #9 07-20-2007, 06:20 PM

I agree - the majority of stuff you can pull together in just a couple of months. The time-eaters are ordering your dresses and reserving a location. And it is kind-a fun to spend some time checking out all your options and seeing what's all available before making your decisions about stuff. All depends on what you're into, I guess.

syringa · #10 07-20-2007, 08:59 PM

The size of your wedding is not as important as having the opportunity to get the location and vendors of your choice. The better locations and vendors book up quickly. Even a simple wedding should be planned well with attention to the details. Also consider that many gowns have to be ordered and that can take as long as 4 months. If you order your invitations, plan on it taking about 3 weeks to get them, then they have to be addressed and they should be in the mail 6 to 8 weeks before the wedding.

breezy · #11 07-20-2007, 09:59 PM

I agree if you can find a dress of the rack, time become less of a demand.

I think how much time you have to dedicate to planning plays a HUGE role too.

I think 3-4 months minimum. 6 months was good for us.

MrsIvey · #12 07-21-2007, 03:14 AM

We got engaged Oct 05 but didn't set a date until Sept 06, but I bought my dress in April 06 because i got a great deal on it. I started buying stuff in January or whenever I found it on sale since we paid for almost everything ourselves. So I would say depending on how much you plan on spending and who is contributing.

Complicated Woman · #13 07-21-2007, 03:26 AM

We had a year (362 days, to be exact...

) and it was more time than I needed. Seven to nine months would have been perfect, IMO.

ETA: Hey, what's with the link in the sig? I smell spam.

AshyBekka · #14 07-21-2007, 03:35 AM

Whoa! I think that's new! I don't remember that sig when I first responded...

On a side note, I lived in Bondi five years ago, and worked at an adorable cafe right on the boardwalk...Snowhite, you willing to respond, or just being shady??

2nd Time Around Bride · #15 07-21-2007, 04:16 AM

I was engaged in March ..and my first phone call was to the minister and church ...then hall..then photographer...Our wedding date is Oct 13th/07
Some places dresses have to be ordered in and that takes 7 months ..plus alternations if needed...I'd give yourself lots of time ...
Unless you are having a small family wedding...

NovemberGal · #16 07-21-2007, 05:02 PM

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Originally Posted by AshyBekka

Whoa! I think that's new! I don't remember that sig when I first responded...

On a side note, I lived in Bondi five years ago, and worked at an adorable cafe right on the boardwalk...Snowhite, you willing to respond, or just being shady??

The sig was there by the time I read this thread, but I was giving the benefit of the doubt because our rules actually allow an ad link in the sig lines. But given that she hasn't come back to respond....

TheaterDiva1 · #17 07-21-2007, 09:55 PM

We took a year to plan ours. However, we weren't planning the whole time, but where we were, most vendors book that far in advance, plus I got my gown then too. Then we took a break in planning, and resumed maybe four months out.

snowhite · #18 08-02-2007, 09:09 AM

Hi everyone, I didn't see anyone reply for a while, so I completely forgot about the post.

My friend planned for their wedding for two years! They got married this April. It was really a good wedding. I am sure they spent a fortune for that.

I think our one will be a small but romantic wedding.

snowhite · #19 08-02-2007, 09:20 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by NovemberGal

The sig was there by the time I read this thread, but I was giving the benefit of the doubt because our rules actually allow an ad link in the sig lines. But given that she hasn't come back to respond....

Hey, I am not a spammer! I just left and have come back now.

snowhite · #20 08-02-2007, 09:33 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by AshyBekka

Whoa! I think that's new! I don't remember that sig when I first responded...

On a side note, I lived in Bondi five years ago, and worked at an adorable cafe right on the boardwalk...Snowhite, you willing to respond, or just being shady??

Hey AshyBekka, you didn't respond me but I responded some one else in "Fashion Style" section about the Bondi wedding.

I go to Bondi almost every weekend in summer.

snowhite · #21 08-02-2007, 09:38 AM

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Originally Posted by breezy

I agree if you can find a dress of the rack, time become less of a demand.

I think how much time you have to dedicate to planning plays a HUGE role too.

I think 3-4 months minimum. 6 months was good for us.

Acctually, I prefer to rent a luxury wedding dress that I can never afford to buy rather than to own an average one, because I will wear it for only one day, and as long as I look beautiful on that day, who cares if I really own it?

Anyone agree?