An age issue

[totalblizz]

I need advice!!!!!

My daughter will be 8 going on 9 at the time of the wedding and my son will be 3 going on 4. Isn't it alittle odd to have her as flower girl and him as ring bearer with the huge age and height difference? or does that not matter. Any suggestions?

[munchkin]

I personally don't think it matters at all. They're your children and they're very important to you, so I doubt anyone will say anything about it.
If you are worried though, could you make her a junior bridesmaid instead and not have a flowergirl? Most juniour bridesmaids are around that age.

[justnmary]

I was also going to suggest the Jr. Bridesmaid.

[totalblizz]

So does this mean that I should have a jr groomsmen as well. Otherwise it will be uneven. which is ok with me.. I will have my god-daughter Tori be the flowergirl. she is 4 years old.

[justnmary]

It's not necessary. I had 3 Jr's. in light blue dresses, the 2 youngest walked together, the third walked alone. Then I had a regular BM, Maid of Honor and Matron of Honor. The three older were the only ones escorted by men.

[NovemberGal]

Originally Posted by justnmary

It's not necessary. I had 3 Jr's. in light blue dresses, the 2 youngest walked together, the third walked alone. Then I had a regular BM, Maid of Honor and Matron of Honor. The three older were the only ones escorted by men.

This is exactly what I had--three unescorted junior maids, DH's nieces. My two MOHs and two BMs were each escorted, but even for the adults you don't HAVE to have even numbers of men and women if you've got three you really want and your fiance has four, for example.

[AshNJam07]

Or you could have your daughter be a junior bride, and wear a dress that's like mommy's!

[Sh@ks18]

I would just keep her as a flower girl and your son as the ringboy.

Our RB was 2 and FG was 6. I think 8/9 year old is still an okay age for a FG

[totalblizz]

Thanks, I will give it some thinking... I too was a fg at 10 years old in my uncles wedding and the rb was about 6

[TheaterDiva1]

I can see keeping your daughter as a flower girl. If you do make her a Jr. BM, you don't need an extra Jr. GM - just have her walk alone.

[southern belle]

when my dh and i were married we wanted no one in the wedding ceremony except our kids. we knew we were combining our two families into one. i my step daughter was my flower girl, she was 8 at the time, and a very tall eight years old. my daughter who was 16 was the moh. my step son who was 6 was the ring bearer. to us it was perfect. i never thought about sizes or ages, we just knew what we wanted.