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mluvsk · #1 05-21-2007, 12:40 AM

I have had several people tell me the importance of having a wedding coordinator there for your rehersal and wedding day to pretty much tell everyone when to walk down the aisle-etc. etc. Just so that I am not stressed out trying to get someone to do it. Well, I was under the impression that my wedding site provided that (I swear she told me that! I guess I was hearing things), well, I just thought about it the other day and decided to call to make sure--and sure enough they do not provide a wedding coordinator for the day! Now, I fear that it is too late to find one. What should I do? Can I try to get one of my friends to do it? (even if they have had no experience?) Or should I just not have one and just hope that we can all figure it out together? Those of you who are married already, did you guys have a coordinator? Help me!

maroki13 · #2 05-21-2007, 03:23 AM

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Originally Posted by mluvsk

I have had several people tell me the importance of having a wedding coordinator there for your rehersal and wedding day to pretty much tell everyone when to walk down the aisle-etc. etc. Just so that I am not stressed out trying to get someone to do it. Well, I was under the impression that my wedding site provided that (I swear she told me that! I guess I was hearing things), well, I just thought about it the other day and decided to call to make sure--and sure enough they do not provide a wedding coordinator for the day! Now, I fear that it is too late to find one. What should I do? Can I try to get one of my friends to do it? (even if they have had no experience?) Or should I just not have one and just hope that we can all figure it out together? Those of you who are married already, did you guys have a coordinator? Help me!

First of all, don't stress.

It will work out.

I didn't plan on having a coordinater either, and then about 2 weeks out freaked out (kind of like you are doing) and tried to think of anyone I could ask at that late date. It turned out that the Best Man's fiancee was more than willing to help (she and I weren't really friends, more acquantainces) and it turned out beautifully. She was already attending the RD because her fiance was the best man, and didn't really know anyone else attending the wedding so was more than happy to take over. She did small things like tell us when to walk down the aisle, hand out flowers, be a messenger between myself and DH, pack up my bags at the chapel, etc....

Is there anyone like that you could ask? Perhaps a responsible date of a close friend or an SO of someone in the wedding, who won't know too many other people? She was still able to enjoy the reception and sit, eat, drink, and spend time with her fiance, so the job didn't keep her too busy....

imstilldreaming · #3 05-21-2007, 03:26 AM

My best friend, who had helped me plan, did all of that and I was so glad that she did. It made everything run much more smoothly. It really was a huge help.

NovemberGal · #4 05-21-2007, 03:31 AM

We got married in my childhood church, so there was a church lady who got us down the aisle, etc (of course, she sent the bridesmaids too early!

). But I did have my friend Annette, wife of one of DH's best men, acting as my non-wedding party "go to" person for the day as well. It helped knowing there was someone out there to help if I needed it, and she totally would have been great at managing the church stuff if Martha (church lady) hadn't been there. So I second the idea of seeing if a friend or responsible S.O. could take this on for you.

Marksbride · #5 05-21-2007, 12:02 PM

I'm having a good friend help me out. She's going to be my personal attendant.
Her responsibilities will include:

*Making sure everyone is ready to begin rehearsal.
*Making sure people are ready for pictures.
*Helping the Moms/Gramma's get flowers on.
*Helping me get dressed.

I provided a list for her so it should flow smoothly. It helps that she knows everyone in the wedding party and both sets of parents so she will know who to line up for pics.

Cirig · #6 05-21-2007, 02:09 PM

Ya know... I didn't have anyone- and it worked out just fine. Are you sure you need someone? What do you need/ want them to do?

mluvsk · #7 05-21-2007, 08:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Cirig

Ya know... I didn't have anyone- and it worked out just fine. Are you sure you need someone? What do you need/ want them to do?

I don't really want to pay 50 dollars an hour for someone if I don't need to. ANd you guys are convincing me that I don't. I just basically want someone to coordinate the wedding. To tell the BM's when to walk down the aisle, make sure the groomsmen are where they need to be, give out the bouquets to the girls, etc. I just don't want to get stuck trying to do that and get married at the same time. Like you guys said I am going to try to find someone that might be willing to do that for me. Thanks!

Cirig · #8 05-21-2007, 09:14 PM

I think you'll be okay, either way. At the rehersal they will instruct everyone on what to do & where to go. As for the flowers, the girls know they need them! They'll pick em up out of the box!!!

Good Luck lady!

ljeagle · #9 05-21-2007, 11:57 PM

If I lived closer I would be happy to help you out but you know how that goes. I would get a aunt sister or a friend that is not in the wedding to help you out. It is really important to have someone there that knows what is going on. Someone needs to make sure that people are being seated people are in the right place. What I do is make a line up of what songs and what part of the song each person starts to walk down if its a word in the song or the timing between each person. My aunt did it for our wedding she was great and followed every thing I had typed out but she is a wedding planner her self so she new what was going on. I don't think you need to hire any one but I would ask someone special that you can trust to help you out. Someone needs to be there to open the doors and close them also most of the time the coordinator does this.

Sh@ks18 · #10 05-22-2007, 12:16 AM

I recently helped my friend the day of the wedding and here's some of my responsibilities (no i'm not a coordinator but i am thinking of starting the business on the side)

Set up sign in table
Set up place cards
Decorate cake table
Greeted guests and helped them to their table
Set up party favors

For my brothers wedding, the flowers were delivered to the brides house and I (MOH) was in charge of passing out the bouquets and the bouteniers.
What you can do is hand the boutenier (sp?) to each bridesmaid and have her be in charge of getting it on the groomsmen she's walking with.

feb-bride · #11 05-22-2007, 08:54 AM

My step-mom was my "day-of" coordinator. She did things such as:

*Ensured that the reception hall was decorated how I wanted
*Ensured that everyone had their flowers and were lined up properly
*Answered questions that I was too busy to deal with
*Handled last-minute details

shanah_cheyenne · #12 12-12-2007, 08:49 PM

I had a friend caterer, a friend photographer, a friend minister, a friend seamstress, a mom-in-law decorator... I pretty much lucked out in the friend department everywhere. However, as far as all of the ceremony stuff (walking down the aisles, who does what) I told the minister exactly what I wanted. At the rehearsal he sat everyone down and said, "The bride gets what she wants and we're gonna practice 'till we get it right...." It worked out great and my wedding was the most beautiful one I could ever ask for. I've never been to a more beautiful ceremony or reception I swear. I just trusted my loving friends and family to help me pull it off. It was amazing.

#13 12-12-2007, 08:52 PM

Shanah, this thread is from May. Please don't bump threads that are from so long ago. The original poster is already married.