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05-04-2007, 04:53 PM
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I just saw on DH's facebook that one of his high school friends that attended our wedding said 'sorry you didn't get the card with your gift, I found it later in my car'. That means that it will probably one we assumed was with another person's gift since it had no name or card and so we haven't sent her a thank you note yet! Should I just explain it and ask her to tell me what it was so we can thank her properly?
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05-04-2007, 05:04 PM
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Yes, I'd be honest about it and let her know that you didn't know that the gift was from her so you didn't send out the thank you but now that you know you would like to personally thank her. Then I would go ahead and send a paper thank you after that. What is she suppose to think? If there's no name on it, you very well can't call all 150 guests to ask, "Was this part of your gift to us? There was no name on it." That I would think would be tacky. Good luck!
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05-04-2007, 06:44 PM
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Yes, I'd be honest about it and let her know that you didn't know that the gift was from her so you didn't send out the thank you but now that you know you would like to personally thank her. Then I would go ahead and send a paper thank you after that. What is she suppose to think? If there's no name on it, you very well can't call all 150 guests to ask, "Was this part of your gift to us? There was no name on it." That I would think would be tacky. Good luck!
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05-04-2007, 07:15 PM
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She should have received a thank you note for at least attending the wedding, even if you didn't think she gave you a gift. I'm looking for an icon to shake a finger at you, lol. 
Definitely give her a call or send her an e-mail asking about the gift. Tell her you haven't finished your thank-you's yet, even if you have, and you would like to be able to properly thank her.
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05-04-2007, 07:24 PM
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Originally Posted by Heather
She should have received a thank you note for at least attending the wedding, even if you didn't think she gave you a gift. I'm looking for an icon to shake a finger at you, lol.
Definitely give her a call or send her an e-mail asking about the gift. Tell her you haven't finished your thank-you's yet, even if you have, and you would like to be able to properly thank her. |
Yes! Good point! I forgot that little tid-bit!
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05-04-2007, 07:28 PM
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No finger shaking necessary!! We haven't done those ones yet because we were waiting for our professional pics to come back. We decided to go ahead and send thank yous to the gift people so we they wouldn't be waiting like a month for a thank you, and then send photo cards thanking people for attending to everyone. So there  
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05-04-2007, 08:18 PM
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Wait - you send thank you cards to people just for attending the wedding?! I didn't know that! I guess I've never been to a wedding without giving a gift, so I've always just received the gift thank you. Ach why don't I know these things?!?!
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Yes. You should send a thank you note to everyone who attends whether they gave you a gift or not. You basically let them know that you're happy they were able to share in your day by attending and that you're grateful for their support. Things like that.
I also wouldn't say "just for attending". Thank them for taking time out of their lives to celebrate with you which is the most important part.
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05-04-2007, 08:33 PM
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Originally Posted by peckmiranda
Wait - you send thank you cards to people just for attending the wedding?! I didn't know that! I guess I've never been to a wedding without giving a gift, so I've always just received the gift thank you. Ach why don't I know these things?!?!
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I didn't know that either! That's good advice.
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05-04-2007, 09:22 PM
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We had a couple of gifts that were given with no cards because they were handed to us personally -- I guess we were supposed to remember who they were from?  I did manage to figure it out, though.
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05-07-2007, 01:51 PM
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Originally Posted by Heather
She should have received a thank you note for at least attending the wedding, even if you didn't think she gave you a gift.
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This always irks me.. FH and I have never recieved a thank-you for just attending a wedding. We've only done it a few times - when he was in the bridal party (for an OOT wedding) and unemployed. You would think being IN the bridal party would warrant a thank-you as well. We've also only received TWO thank-you notes when we DID give a gift! Out of at least 12 weddings!
Part of me is tempted to snub those people at our wedding... but I know I'll try to be the bigger person instead.
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05-07-2007, 06:41 PM
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Originally Posted by peckmiranda
Wait - you send thank you cards to people just for attending the wedding?! I didn't know that! I guess I've never been to a wedding without giving a gift, so I've always just received the gift thank you. Ach why don't I know these things?!?!
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Yeah, count me in as one of the uninformed as well. Ack!
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