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05-01-2007, 02:20 AM
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Groom & Male Attendants At Shower?
Alright, ladies... help me out.
FH says he and the groomsmen are supposed to be at the bridal shower.
I have been at several parties where the groom 'popped in' at the end, but never the whole groomsmen team.
ETA: It is a 'garden party' theme, floppy hats and all. I say if they are supposed to be there, i get to make them wear pink floppy hats 
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05-01-2007, 02:24 AM
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I don't think they are required, or usually even invited to attend.
I've actually never heard of it.
DH didn't come to my shower, and neither did any of his attendants. They didn't seem that interested in attending either.
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05-01-2007, 02:28 AM
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The guys should be there ONLY if it's planned as a co-shower. If your attendants are throwing this for you, then your guy (only him) should show up at the end and say hi to everyone and to help carry gifts to the car, etc.
Since this is a garden party, I highly doubt your BMs planned it for both of you, so he should not be showing up with his guys. Especially not with his guys.
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05-01-2007, 03:01 AM
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Nope, DH came at the end to help load the bounty into the truck and that was it!  I would definitely say he is NOT invited unless otherwise specified. Sorry, Chris! No boys allowed! 
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05-01-2007, 04:12 AM
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Going to add to the agreement here and say that unless it's a co-ed shower, then no, he nor his attendants should be there. If he's feeling left out, talk to his BM and have him throw a 'manly' shower with a theme like tools or something the same day. 
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05-01-2007, 05:04 AM
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I've never heard of the groomsmen being at the shower, unless it's a couples shower. Hence why it's called a bridal shower!
Like others said, only the groom should show up, and that at the end to help with the packing up of the gifts. Otherwise, no boys allowed! 
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05-01-2007, 11:53 AM
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Thaaaaaaaaaaaank you.
You ladies would've cracked up.
FH: "no really, thats the way it is... ask your board"
Me: "Okay, i'll put a poll up"
*puts poll up*
This morning:
FH: zzzzZZZZzzzz
Me: YOU WERE WRONG, YOU WERE WRONG!!
FH: zzzzZZZZzzssnoortHUH?
Me: You were wrong. The ladies rallied against you and voted you off the island.
FH: Leave me alone.
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05-01-2007, 12:42 PM
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Originally Posted by anna32182
Thaaaaaaaaaaaank you.
You ladies would've cracked up.
FH: "no really, thats the way it is... ask your board"
Me: "Okay, i'll put a poll up"
*puts poll up*
This morning:
FH: zzzzZZZZzzzz
Me: YOU WERE WRONG, YOU WERE WRONG!!
FH: zzzzZZZZzzssnoortHUH?
Me: You were wrong. The ladies rallied against you and voted you off the island.
FH: Leave me alone.
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05-01-2007, 12:42 PM
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made me think of...
You are the weakest link!
GOODBYE! 
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05-01-2007, 12:56 PM
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I have never heard of the Groom or his attendants attending the BRIDAL Shower. Usually they do just "pop in" at the end. I have been to a shower where the groom, his dad, and the bride's dad were all "there" but they weren't part of the festivities. I've never been to a shower the groomsmen attended...
However, some people do have WEDDING Showers, which are co-ed and so both the bride and groom attend. In this case, then the hubands of the women invited to the shower should also be invited, as well as other local single male relatives/friends who are invited to the wedding.
I think it is up to the person throwing the shower whether it is a BRIDAL shower or a WEDDING shower. So you should tell your FH to talk to her.
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05-01-2007, 05:58 PM
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Originally Posted by Heather
The guys should be there ONLY if it's planned as a co-shower. If your attendants are throwing this for you, then your guy (only him) should show up at the end and say hi to everyone and to help carry gifts to the car, etc.
Since this is a garden party, I highly doubt your BMs planned it for both of you, so he should not be showing up with his guys. Especially not with his guys.
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Pretty much exactly what I was gonna say.
My cousin had a "Br-oom" Shower Last year, so guys & girls were there I thought it was cute they called it that!
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Me: You were wrong. The ladies rallied against you and voted you off the island.
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05-01-2007, 07:36 PM
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I've never heard of the men showing up at a BRIDAL shower. If it's co-ed, it's no longer called a bridal shower anyway.
My husband didn't even show up at the end to help load the gifts. Then again, he was at home with our sons, so I didn't exactly expect him to show up.
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