After Wedding Shower

[imstilldreaming]

I think I put this in the right spot.


We got a call from DH's mom (hehe that's the first time I've typed DH!) yesterday saying that the church he grew up in wants to throw us a shower in two weeks. Of course we are very surprised and think it's a really nice and generous thing for them to do, (especially since he hasn't attended regularly since high school) but she asked for a list of things we still need and we honestly don't know what to tell her! Those we invited to the wedding were incredibly generous and we have nearly everything off the registry and the things we still need are pretty big things. We don't want to make stuff up we don't need just to have something to tell them but we also don't want to put just expensive stuff on there. We also don't want to have a really short list in case people think we're trying to get money instead or something.

I think there was a thread that may have touched on this before...so forgive me if this is a double post. Thanks ladies, I honestly thought I was done with all this etiquette stuff

[Emily]

Hmmm thats a toughie - I would be tempted to tell them not to bring any gifts as its really nice and thoughtful that they are throwing you a shower. People will still probably bring you a nice gift anyway - but atleast then there is no pressure on you to have a compile a list.

Or what about stuff for the kitchen?? Nice crockery dishes and bits and pieces that will be usefull but not very expensive??

Or what if you asked them to donate money to a charity instead??

[ladedah]

Originally Posted by Emily

I would be tempted to tell them not to bring any gifts as its really nice and thoughtful that they are throwing you a shower.

I would, too. I've never really heard of an after wedding shower before, so I would be compelled to say thanks we'd love to get together and meet everyone, but we have all we need, the thought is enough.

[imstilldreaming]

Originally Posted by ladedah

I would, too. I've never really heard of an after wedding shower before, so I would be compelled to say thanks we'd love to get together and meet everyone, but we have all we need, the thought is enough.

I know, I've never heard of one either! I think we'll do that and see if they'll let us get away with it. Southern church people can be pretty stubborn

[Heather]

I agree with Ladedah too. I would feel pretty awkward about it, but the gesture is really sweet.

[maroki13]

I agree with everyone else. I think that you can say that the gesture is sweet but you really don't need gifts, although I'm sure you'll probably end up getting gifts anyway (and maybe some you don't want). I'm not sure the best thing to do......

Let us know what you guys decide!!