why are u selling your dress! - The PASH Wedding Forums and Message Boards

Mrs.Levitt · #1 12-22-2005, 02:57 PM

Why are so many brides turning around and selling their dresses weeks after the wedding. I see dresses in the classifieds, on ebay, all over the place. What ever happened to saving your dress, call me old fashion but all the time, money, and daydreaming I am putting into my dress makes me want to save it forever. I don't understand the whole selling thing, its different if the wedding was called off or you ended up divorcing but if things went well and all is good why are you selling. What's your opinions and what do you plan to do with your dress?

Heather · #2 12-22-2005, 03:20 PM

I don't know what I'm going to do with my dress. I just had it cleaned and preserved, but now it's just going to sit in a closet for the rest of its life. I don't think I could bring myself to sell it though... I wouldn't mind lending it to a good friend, or to someone that really, really needs it. There was a time on here one of our girls was having issues with her dress. I offered to send mine to her. I guess because I love it so much, I would rather see it put to good use, rather than sitting around in a box. That probably doesn't make much sense, but it's hard to explain...

bebe · #3 12-22-2005, 04:16 PM

I could never sell my dress! I would lend it to someone though. The veil and jewelry I don't care about so much (it's a good thing since my veil already got ruined) but the dress is staying. Fortunately it's not a huge poufy thing that will take up a lot of closet space. Wanna hear (again) what a dork I am? My sisters and I all plan on taking group bridal portraits together once we are all married, so I will have to bust it out and wear it at least one more time. Yes, I know, we are sick.

Jennifer · #4 12-22-2005, 04:39 PM

I am trying to sell my first wedding dress...to no avail. I'm tempted to give it to the first person that wants it. It's a really pretty dress but I have no use for it.

However, the dress I have now will be heirloomed and stored on the off chance my little girl wants to wear it...and if she dosn't...then I'll let my granddaughters play dress up in it! LOL How is that for planning ahead?

Marrying_the_Good_Husband · #5 12-22-2005, 04:48 PM

I'm with you, Jennifer! I have no idea what to do with my FIRST wedding dress. It's just SO big and taking up so much room. I had it in my closet until Dave moved in, now I have the garment bag thrown on the floor of my storage area (soon to move to the basement when we start house construction). I would LOVE to sell it, but I guess I'm too lazy to go through the steps of how to do so! Anyone? Anyone? It's very Victorian looking--this was BEFORE digital cameras, but if someone WERE interested I'd go through the trouble of scanning a photo in!

My dress for this wedding? It's just very simple. It wouldn't take up much room to keep--very light chiffon sheath. Would I *need* to keep it "forever"? No, not really. But it's little enough that I could--but I'm NOT going to any trouble of "preserving," etc.

Jennifer · #6 12-22-2005, 04:53 PM

My first dress is sitting in a cleaners somewhere in the window with a for sale sign on it. FH never wants to see it so I like that they will sell it there. That way if it sells great...if it doesn't...oh well...I'm not storing it.

wembley · #7 12-22-2005, 05:13 PM

Didn't someone mention that they made a quilt out of pieces of their wedding dress, along with other family members' dresses? I think that would be very neat to have pieces of dresses and then be able to add and pass it on. That way your dress could live on for years and years to come.

It is special to keep the dress though. My grandparents celebrated their 50th wedding aniversary a couple years ago and they were able to put my grandmother's dress on display next to pictures of them at their wedding.

I just think that it's is a very special dress that I love but putting it in a box for the rest of it's life, never looking at it again except for dusting the top of the box, doesn't seem like the best option either. I know it's a neat option to have if my daughter wants to wear it but I also know that I think my mom's dress is beautiful but not for me. Times and fashions have changed. I wouldn't fit in it if I wanted anyway. Who's to say that my daughter will be any different, or that I will even have a little girl.

I guess I don't know what I want to do with my dress yet but I have plenty of time still. I do know that I would be nervous to just by a dress on ebay or something like that though. I looked at a lot of dress pictures but it was a whole different ball game when I put the dresses on and actually tried them.

Jennifer · #8 12-22-2005, 05:23 PM

I wanted to do the quilt thing. But I haven't found a place that does it yet.

Jennifer · #9 12-22-2005, 05:33 PM

I stand corrected! I just found a place...it's expensive though!

http://www.weddingdressquilts.com/process.htm

Marge129 · #10 12-22-2005, 05:53 PM

My first wedding dress ended up in the garbage

If the marriage would've lasted, I would have kept the dress, though. I'm gonna have to grab a few pictures of the stupid thing when I'm at my Mom's this weekend. I don't think you girls have ever seen it in all its glory.

ljeagle · #11 12-22-2005, 06:09 PM

I know there would be no way I would ever sale my dress mom made 4 me. I say it stays with 3 of my other sisters dresses at my parents in the close vault. I know you are saying a close vault! Mom makes a lot of stuff for people and things that take a lot of time and money mom puts it there so no dust or in case of a fire it don't get burnt.
My grandmother did take all her daughter wedding dresses prom dresses and first dress she made them when they were born and made a quilt for each of them. I have only seen it a few times it is not something u put on your bed. Well at least not in my family. I guess it will stay put away till my parents are gone and then us 5 sister will fight for it. lol

cru5h · #12 12-22-2005, 08:15 PM

I don't place sentimental value on my dress. I'm pretty far removed from having sentimental attachments on *things*, and I hate clutter. The combination of those 2 makes it pretty certain I'll be selling my dress after the fact. I can't keep a dress I'll never wear again. I totally understand people getting attached to their dresses, but that's just not how I am. I also think it's great that other brides make it more affordable to the rest of us when they sell their dresses.

feb-bride · #13 12-22-2005, 08:42 PM

I really want to clean and sell mine, but my husband is against it. He wants me to save it for our daughter.

But - I think I'm probably going to end up selling it at some point anyway. I would not want my daughter to feel like she HAS to use my dress when (if) she gets married someday. Even if she did like it and wanted to use it, I'm really hoping that she won't be nearly as big a size as I was on my wedding day.

I'm not attached to the dress itself, and I have LOTS of pictures of me in it. I have the MEMORIES and that's all I need.

whiddle · #14 12-22-2005, 09:36 PM

Originally, I planned to sell my dress. But now, I am taking it to get cleaned next month (since August-OOPS!) and have it re-made into a christening outfits for our future children.

Heather · #15 12-22-2005, 10:32 PM

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Originally Posted by feb-bride

I would not want my daughter to feel like she HAS to use my dress when (if) she gets married someday.

I just got this image of a mini-feb-bride coming in to this forum:

"

Please help! My Mom wants me to wear her wedding dress from the early two thousands! What do I do? It's so not my style!"

ladedah · #16 12-22-2005, 10:33 PM

whiddle---I think that is an awesome idea for christening outfits.

I think it would be hard to sell my wedding dress and would like to keep it for the option of future generations, wether the styles change or not I have seen before where they have drastically changed a dress..sometimes for several different brides. I am very sentimental about things and wish there were something from my grandmother's dress that I could use for my own...but it was never taken care of..she even had a beautiful lace veil I would love to use, but the same thing...it wasn't taken care of and now is yellowed and fragile.

feb-bride · #17 12-22-2005, 10:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Heather

I just got this image of a mini-feb-bride coming in to this forum:

"

Please help! My Mom wants me to wear her wedding dress from the early two thousands! What do I do? It's so not my style!"

You're too funny!

Actually, my daughter says that she's never getting married and she's not having kids (she's seven years old). When asked why, she replies, "I'll be too busy singing and dancing to have a husband and kids."

Marrying_the_Good_Husband · #18 12-22-2005, 11:48 PM

Well, then maybe mini-Feb will be here in the Classifieds looking to perform at other people's weddings! We'll be nice to her, though!

My daughter is going to be taller than me--without a doubt. She's 9 and is already past my chin. Considering I divorced her father, she might feel there's bad karma attached to the dress anyway. And I didn't christen my children.

Marge129 · #19 12-23-2005, 12:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Marrying_the_Good_Husband

And I didn't christen my children.

I can't help but find that funny. The devil face is just too much! hehe

My Mom had her first wedding dress. I was always intrigued by it... and actually wanted to wear it even thought it wasn't from her marriage to my Dad. But.... it went in the garbage with mine.

hehehe

Heather · #20 12-23-2005, 02:04 AM

I really love the quilt idea, and it's not something I would use for day-to-day chillin'. I would hang it...

I mentioned this idea to Mike and he's still sold on shadow-boxing the whole damn thing for display, lol. I'm sure I can convince him otherwise and make him think it was his idea.

Kim&Bob2004 · #21 12-23-2005, 02:43 AM

I like the quilt and the christening ideas. Mine is hanging in the spare room..... Don't know what else to do...... But right now don't want to sell. If someone wanted to borrow it then I would consider it. Mine is more of a classic style, a style that will never go out of style, I think. :-)

Complicated Woman · #22 12-23-2005, 03:47 AM

This is premature, but -- I can't imagine being able to sell my dress. I'd just want to keep it in a box in the attic. I'm not terribly sentimental, but it seems like it'd be a fun thing to be able to pull out and show my daughters when they're little girls and for them to play dress up in...IDK. I wouldn't want to give it up, at any rate!

cl71282 · #23 02-16-2006, 05:07 AM

I know I'm chiming in WAY late on this topic, but I just saw an ad for this display hutch thing and couldn't help but picture Heather's dress displayed in her living room. It was in some bridal magazine I got for free at a bridal show this weekend. The hutch is HUGE--like a big wood piece of furniture that you'd need a big wall to really show it off. You get a manequin shaped specifically for your dress style and size, then I guess you dress the manequin. The ad was all about how this display was perfect for preserving your dress because it was all acid-free and safe lighting. lol, it made me laugh

Heather · #24 02-16-2006, 05:17 AM

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Originally Posted by cl71282

couldn't help but picture Heather's dress displayed in her living room.

What timing! Hubby mentioned today we could build the box for it right at the entrance to the guest bedroom, lol. I think he's pulling my leg.

ljeagle · #25 02-16-2006, 05:19 AM

Heather I love that smile!