Hey everyone, I wanted to update what was going on with the mean pastor that we were considering using for the wedding. I can't find the original thread but quick reminder for those who might have missed it...
I'm agnostic, FH is Christian and wanted to be married by a religious officiant (which I have no problem with). The only pastor we know in his town basically said that he doesn't agree with our marriage but sees it as a challenge and agreed to "take us on". I was extremely put off by this and didn't want to go through with it and really wanted to find someone else. For some reason FH was being really adamant about it, we got in an argument, and went to bed mad for the first time in our relationship. I decided I would let it go for now but if the pastor continued to make me feel unworthy of Rob, I would refuse to be married by him. Now, to the present...
Well, after sending in our original questionaire and "contract" for not having sex until the wedding (which lasted oh, 5 days) and the "contract" saying we would be attending regular Sunday services (which never even started for me - I never signed that part of the contract), he never responded. I finally emailed him to ask him if he got the documents. He said he did, and we could start counseling after Easter.
Then... a couple of weeks ago, we got an email from him that said he just realized that he has a conference the same weekend as our wedding and would not be able to marry us!!! The funny thing is that the conference starts the EXACT same time as our ceremony. (Yep, 6 o'clock on a Sunday night). Now, I'm not saying he's lying, I'm just saying it's a bit fishy.
So... his mom works at the court in his town and knows a JOP who she really likes. This woman seems very cool and, get this, she's thrilled to marry us and Rob is FINE with the whole thing. I'm so much happier now!!! Rob and I were talking last night and I asked him if he still wants to be counseled by the pastor and he just started going off about how he doesn't seem like a true Christian telling us that Rob is worthy of more than me and that we shouldn't be married, and all the other mean things he said. I gave Rob a huge kiss and said "thank you! It's what I've been trying to tell you all along!!!"
So all is well on the officiant front and we made it through our first disagreement about the wedding!
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