This is a thread that was started in our old BlissWeddings.com forums by Marge129 on 1/16/04.
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posted by Marge129
Is it really bad to have a Father/Daughter dance but no Mother/Son dance? My fiance doesn't seem to want to dance with his Mother at the reception anyway... she's not very supportive of our wedding. If we do decide to have a Mother/Son dance, does my fiance have to have a second song to dance with his Step-Mother? Also, would it be weird for there to be a Mother/Daughter dance? My Mother pretty much raised me by herself, and I'd really like to honor her somehow. I just thought a dance would be sweet.
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posted by catina
I've been to quite a few weddings, where for one reason or another, there's just a Father/Daughter dance. You and/or your fiance don't "have to" to anything you don't want. It's your wedding and these days, almost anything goes. We went to my daughter's bes friend's wedding last year, and what she did is had a special song for the herself, bridemaids, and her mother and myself (I'm really really close with her and most of her friends and her family - she calls me "mom") and we all danced to it. It was Shania Twain's "Man I feel Like a Woman". It was wonderful! It was later in the evening and nothing special was announced, so there was no "spotlight" on us, but alot of people were watching and enjoying the show!!
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posted by 6amandaf6
You could have your Mother / Daughter dance and then your fiance could cut in and dance with your Mum? THat might be quite nice to show the joining of the families, and then you could dance with your Dad. I would definitely do at least one dance though; we didnt simply because we didnt want to be in the spotlight, but not a lot of people danced at our wedding. I think they were waiting for us to dance first.
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posted by teddy6
We are only having Father/Daughter and not Mother/Son dance. In fact I've been to many weddings where that was the case. So I think its perfectly fine.
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posted by Ekaaj
My answer is the same as Teddy's. I danced with my father, but we had no Mother/Son dance for my husband, and it wasn't a big deal. I like the idea of honoring your mother with a dance, Marge. Maybe you could have the DJ dedicate a song to her and then dance with her. We dedicated a special song to my flower girl, and she went out and danced with her mom and dad - it was so sweet! So yes, I think it's nice to honor people with a dance.
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posted by catina
Sorry Marge129, you'll have to repost for the professional to answer! I can't believe I did that!
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posted by Jeff Allen
Hi Marge,
No need to repost there were some very nice answers. IMO there are really only two dances that are essential to a wedding reception. The 1st obviously is the Bride & Groom and the 2nd is the honor dance give to the one selected to present the bride at the ceremony (typically the father). The Mother / Son dance is really a relatively new innovation to the reception scheme probably thought up by some dance instructor to sell more lessons
and is done more for respect than anything else. Personally, I don't mind a mother / daughter dance but there will likely be a few jeers or those who still feel uncomfortable with two women dancing together so the option of music with a flower presentation and perhaps a few words is a better option.
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