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DavidsWife · #1 03-30-2007, 02:40 PM

Hi Girls

Last night I made a very hard decision. I don't know that I'm looking for anything, I think I just need to tell someONE (you girls)

I have really been struggling with Amber and Amber has been really struggling with the wedding. Not only $$$ but there is so much going on in her life right now. She hasn't told me exactly what it is. She really tends to keep things to herself, causing us to be distant and her to be distant with everyone in her life.

Last night we had a long talk, I asked her how she felt. Of course she didn't want to "step Down" but I asked her too. I asked her to because I love her and care about her so much. I just want her to take care of herself, Mentally,physically, and financially this girl is so exshausted.

When we ended our phone conversation we were both crying...

I just felt like this huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. I just hope she feels the same!

Thanks for listening! I know I made the right choice. I hope she will realize that I care for her and that this is a good thing!!!

She knows that I want her at the wedding...More than anything!

imstilldreaming · #2 03-30-2007, 02:47 PM

I'm sure that was a really tough decision but I know you will both be happier.

birdie · #3 03-30-2007, 03:04 PM

I'm sure you did the right thing!

She may be having a hard time since losing the baby. My sister had a miscarriage a few years ago. She had a hard time not only mentally, but her hormones were at abnormal levels for quite some time afterwards. Just something to keep in mind.

Yelycrazygirl · #4 03-30-2007, 03:12 PM

I think you did the right thing... I really hope things get better soon....

justnmary · #5 03-30-2007, 03:13 PM

I think you did the best thing for both of you. Just make sure you continue to keep in close contact with her so she doesn't feel like she let you down or that you no longer care about her. If her hormones are still out of wack because of the miscarriage any small thing could really throw her for a loop, so keep in close contact.

Montanabride · #6 03-30-2007, 03:47 PM

I am sorry this had to happen to you and to her. I hope she starts to feel better!

BJC777SRL · #7 03-30-2007, 04:25 PM

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Originally Posted by justnmary

I think you did the best thing for both of you. Just make sure you continue to keep in close contact with her so she doesn't feel like she let you down or that you no longer care about her. If her hormones are still out of wack because of the miscarriage any small thing could really throw her for a loop, so keep in close contact.

I agree totally.

You did the right thing, no matter how hard it may have been

ladedah · #8 03-30-2007, 04:34 PM

seansgirl · #9 03-30-2007, 05:13 PM

Marksbride · #10 03-30-2007, 07:52 PM

I'm so glad you got that weight off your shoulders.

Kim&Bob2004 · #11 03-30-2007, 11:23 PM

I know it was hard for the both of you, but I really think you did the best thing, for her especially. Just continue to be there for her.

DavidsWife · #12 03-31-2007, 03:38 AM

Thanks Girls!

I haven't talked to her since last night! I really want to give her space. I know she's upset so I will let her call me on her own time!

Thanks for all the

's I needed them!

Leslee&Jake · #13 03-31-2007, 02:32 PM

Heather · #14 03-31-2007, 03:24 PM

I'm sorry girl, just reading this now.

It sounds like it was the best solution for both of you. Are you going to ask someone else to stand with you or just let things be?

DavidsWife · #15 03-31-2007, 03:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Heather

Are you going to ask someone else to stand with you or just let things be?

I told her she was irreplacable (cant spell that hehe) and that it would be here or no-one at all! So it's just Dave's sister Alyssa!

I'm 100% ok with that!

Heather · #16 03-31-2007, 03:39 PM

You're so sweet girl.