This is a thread that was started in our old BlissWeddings.com forums by natansgirl on 4/18/02.
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posted by natansgirl
Hello all!
I have the pleasure of being Given Away by my (single) Mom and want to honor her with a mother/daughter dance. Does anyone have suggestions for:
1) A song?
2) Where to find it? I would prefer to download it or find it somewhere, but I will purchase if necessary!
Thank you for your consideration and Best of Luck!
natansgirl
n&j happily ever after...
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posted by Jeff Allen
I have selected this question to answer yours from my data bank of previously answered questions. I hope its contents will be helpful as follows:
Q: I will be escorting my daughter down the aisle and giving her away. Her father passed away and he was the ONLY other male that could have had a special dance with her. She is so very upset that it will appear that no one cares about her to the new family. The groom's dance with his mother will just make it more obvious. The two of us have come through so much together but dancing together (as some have suggested) just does not seem appropriate. I do not want it turned into something humorous (also what others have suggested). Walking her down the aisle and giving her away, in my opinion, is a mother's privilege.
A: I was very touched by your question. There are many queries like this and each requires an answer coupled with compassion. I do agree that although it happens, I have never felt comfortable recommending the Bride dances with another female family member. I will never tell them not to do it but I do not believe there will be broad based acceptance by those present at the reception. There may even be those who are not courteous or polite, particularly after a drink or two and apparently, your daughter does not need this type of attention. At this time, a gesture of ?welcome to the family,? can be made by the Groom's Dad. The dance will conducted at the same traditional time alone or collectively with the Groom and his Mom. This will certainly be both touching, bonding. This dance moment will be well received by the Groom's family and guests. This should be a perfect way to fill what seems to be emptiness for this important moment. The knot will have been tied at the ceremony so she will in fact have a new Father-In-Law. It is an honor to dance with the bride at this time and the Groom's Dad will probably offer no resistance.
At my website is a selection of songs that are appropriate for a dance with any family member. There are no lyrics in these songs that mention either father or mother but they do express a range of personal feelings with varying intensity. If it is a question of dance ability or know-how my Slow Dancing Video can be used by any and all wedding party members regardless of any time limitations or geographic separation, the mail is a wonderful thing and most everyone has a VCR. If I can be of any further assistance, please don't hesitate to Email.
Jeff Allen
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Mother/Daughter Dance
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