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mratliff · #1 03-19-2007, 08:32 PM

My guy and I have finally decided to get married. We're doing it in July, most likely on July 7, 2007. First for us both. Here's the problem.

He's majorly shy around people and wants a very, very small wedding. Meaning me, him, the pastor and the smallest number of witnesses possible. Anything else is throwing him into fits of nervousness bad enough to make him want to reconsider the whole thing. I also want something very small, but want to include immediate family only. That'd be about 14 for his side, and about nine on mine, or fewer. We're also doing this on a very limited budget.

So assuming I can talk him into the idea of a "family only" affair, what the heck do we do then? What kind of dress do you wear for such a small, informal thing (I DO want to wear some type of dress)? My ideal plan is to have the small wedding then go to his mom's house (since she's local), have cake and/or a small dinner, and call it done. But mostly I'm lost, so any help in how to plan a small wedding, or talk a man into one, would be most appreciated!!

BJC777SRL · #2 03-19-2007, 08:42 PM

Welcome to Pash & congrats!

First off, if you're planning on July 7th (I am too

) and want any vendors (florists, photographer, baker, etc) you need to find/book them right away. It's a really popular date, and I found half the vendors I looked into back in January had already been booked.

Secondly, you wear any kind of dress you want. You're the bride. If you want a full length ball gown even though it's a small wedding, then by golly you should have it. Do you have any ideas of styles you like? Do you prefer an informal dress? I'm sure several of us would help you look for one

Sounds like everything else would be fairly simple, if you have more specific questions they'd be easier to answer

justnmary · #3 03-19-2007, 08:42 PM

My first marriage I had just my family, his family and 2 witnesses. Maybe 20 people total. We had it in the living room of his mom's house. The service was 20 minutes. We had cake and champaigne and that was it. Short and sweet. Afterwards the 2 of us and our 2 witnesses went out for a few drinks, some dinner and some dancing. My dress was a cream tea length dress from
Sears that I had paid $60 for with some pearls sewn around the neck line. Other then that, that was it. Our whole wedding cost $300. Not too bad!

feb-bride · #4 03-19-2007, 08:55 PM

You can wear whatever dress you want, regardless of how many people will be at your wedding.

Liz AG · #5 03-21-2007, 01:17 AM

First - best wishes to you!

Maybe my aunt's wedding story would help you. My uncle is a very shy, but steady guy. They had their wedding in a small chapel. It was more intimate for them. Her bridal gown was exactly what she wanted, but they both changed after the pictures at the church because they had a very relaxed reception in my Grandmom's back yard. It was more like a barbeque, except for the cake. It made a very relaxed wedding reception. We (the kids) were not invited to the wedding, but did come, eat and played games at the reception. I think my uncle got to know our side of the family so much faster that way.

happynicky28 · #6 04-18-2007, 12:41 AM

Just because you are having a small wedding doesnt mean you cant dress the way you like. YOu can have a long flowing wedding gown or a simple dress. Whatever makes you happy. Small intimate weddings can be pretty nice too. I have been to two of them and they were both held in the backyard of their home and it was very nice, decorated with flowers and candles etc..... So what kind of wedding have you always wanted etc.... think of that and then go from there.

seansgirl · #7 04-18-2007, 01:47 AM

The backyard idea is nice. It is a great way to save $$$ you can have a very intimate setting that way and your FH may be more relaxed that way.
By the way welcome to pash!!!

TheaterDiva1 · #8 04-18-2007, 04:22 AM

I don't have anything new to add... I just wanted to say Welcome to Pash!

hollymlb · #9 06-06-2007, 08:14 AM

Have it the way you want it.....the number of guests really only changes the size of the event...but its still your wedding day...have the wedding you want just make sure you and he know what you want. I go between elope and a huge affair on an almost daily basis and my boyfriend and I aren't even thinking engagement yet...I'm just here cause I love weddings and love hearing about them.

bassface73 · #10 08-16-2007, 03:32 PM

The amount of people you want to attend your wedding is always up to you guys. Just remember to get rings for the actual ceremony, as that is an important aspect. Take a look at this site, they have great stuff.

TheaterDiva1 · #11 08-16-2007, 04:02 PM

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Originally Posted by bassface73

The amount of people you want to attend your wedding is always up to you guys. Just remember to get rings for the actual ceremony, as that is an important aspect. Take a look at this site, they have great stuff.

Spammer!

And newsflash... THE WEDDING WAS LAST MONTH!!!!! (read the original post!)

And she didn't ask anything about jewelry, did she?

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