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michandmitch · #1 03-12-2007, 06:16 AM

Is it typical for the bride to know the details of the shower? My MOH is throwing me a shower and my mom has been helping her with the details. I know everything about it. I know when it is, where it is, who's invited, etc. Is that normal? I've only ever been to two showers and they were both surprises.

Since I know about it, should I be there to greet the guests or should I arrive after they are all there? Also, is it acceptable for my MOH to include registry info with the invitation?

feb-bride · #2 03-12-2007, 07:37 AM

There's nothing unusual about the bride knowing about her shower. In fact, until I started participating on this web site, I'd never even heard of a bridal shower being a surprise. When my bridesmaids hosted my shower, I was the one who gave them the guest list.

We included registry cards in my bridal shower invitations (but not in the wedding invitations).

Heather · #3 03-12-2007, 02:01 PM

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Originally Posted by feb-bride

There's nothing unusual about the bride knowing about her shower. In fact, until I started participating on this web site, I'd never even heard of a bridal shower being a surprise. When my bridesmaids hosted my shower, I was the one who gave them the guest list.

We included registry cards in my bridal shower invitations (but not in the wedding invitations).

Ditto to everything.

Whether you show up a bit late is up to you. I think I showed up about ten minutes after mine started, but not intentionally, lol. I attended another recently where the bride showed up about 20 minutes after it started on purpose. It was fine but people just kind of stood around looking at each other, not a lot of people knew one another.

NovemberGal · #4 03-12-2007, 02:59 PM

Ditto for me as well. And I got there a bit early, since I knew that my MOHs who were hosting didn't know several of the guests, etc.

ladedah · #5 03-12-2007, 04:08 PM

Ditto, here....I also arrived early as some of my attendants hadn't actually met in person before, either....

justnmary · #6 03-12-2007, 07:17 PM

I arrived on time for mine, but 2 out of 3 of the bridesmaids missed half the shower. The only 3 on time were my 2 girls (they came with me) and my MOH who threw the shower. THEN they both left early!!! Yea, I felt real important that day!

Marge129 · #7 03-13-2007, 02:00 AM

I knew all the details for my shower, too. I even helped do the set-up and cooking for it!

I was there before all the guests, and well after they all left. I also included the regustry cards with my shower invites.

sparklesweetie · #8 03-13-2007, 02:32 AM

I knew all the details for mine...then again, I had a pretty heavy hand in planning it. I've also run things past the bride that I'm hosting a shower for in June, so I don't really think it's unusual.

fallbride · #9 03-13-2007, 03:06 AM

I knew about mine too. I showed up a little early, only because I had to take my MIL there. It was nice to chat with family before everything started.

Marksbride · #10 03-13-2007, 01:10 PM

I think it's typical that the bride knows details. I provided the list for my shower and found all the addresses. I also know whose being invited to the bachelorette party that night.

I know the time and location. That's about all I know. My Bm's won't tell me anything else.
I'm excited!

maroki13 · #11 03-13-2007, 02:07 PM

For the shower that my MIL threw, I didn't know many of the details of the shower, but I did arrive early (about 15 minutes) before the guests arrived.

For the shower my godmothers threw me, I knew the details of the shower and arrived at the same time as all the guests....it was at a restaurant and we all arrived shortly after the room we rented was available.