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imstilldreaming · #1 03-10-2007, 03:48 AM

We invited a (not very close) friend of FH's from college to our wedding (April 14th).

Yesterday, we got an invite to his (April 1st, in Florida). Three weeks notice.

BEST PART: There was no way to RSVP...no card, phone number, website... but oohhh yes...you guessed it!! Registry info!

So...what do you ladies think? A polite way of saying 'we don't really want you to come, but please, check out our registry.'

maroki13 · #2 03-10-2007, 03:51 AM

Maybe they received your invite and thought "Hey, we should invite them to OUR wedding! They probably won't come, but might be good for a gift. So let's go for it!!

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I wouldn't send anything.

ljeagle · #3 03-10-2007, 04:55 AM

Most weddings around here don't send RSVP cards. So maybe it's not a sit down dinner its just like a meat and veg tray deal.

justnmary · #4 03-10-2007, 03:23 PM

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Originally Posted by imstilldreaming

We invited a (not very close) friend of FH's from college to our wedding (April 14th).

Yesterday, we got an invite to his (April 1st, in Florida). Three weeks notice.

BEST PART: There was no way to RSVP...no card, phone number, website... but oohhh yes...you guessed it!! Registry info!

So...what do you ladies think? A polite way of saying 'we don't really want you to come, but please, check out our registry.'

No....you were just an afterthought, but if you'd care to, please send a gift!

justnmary · #5 03-10-2007, 03:24 PM

They sent it out of obligation (cause you sent them one) but instead of wasting the stamp, they thought they'd get a gift in return for their time and trouble.

Heather · #6 03-10-2007, 03:27 PM

I would send a huge gift and see if they send one for yours. If they don't, write a letter and ask for it back. Tell them you meant to send it to a couple who actually wanted you at their wedding.

Seriously, I would just send a congratulations card, no gift.

m_t_rose · #7 03-11-2007, 12:54 AM

I would call them and tell them you did not receive any RSVP info and wanted to know how to RSVP

Kim&Bob2004 · #8 03-11-2007, 03:21 AM

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Originally Posted by justnmary

No....you were just an afterthought, but if you'd care to, please send a gift!

Yeah I too think it was a thing of "oh wow, we got theirs, let send one of ours to them, oh and maybe we will get a gift too...."

I would do as Heather suggested, send a nice card and if you like send a small gift card but nothing more (oh hey does McDonald's still sell Gift Certificates?

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m_t_rose · #9 03-11-2007, 04:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Kim&Bob2004

I would do as Heather suggested, send a nice card and if you like send a small gift card but nothing more (oh hey does McDonald's still sell Gift Certificates?

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That would teach them.

Marksbride · #10 03-11-2007, 06:23 AM

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Originally Posted by m_t_rose

That would teach them.

imstilldreaming · #11 03-11-2007, 10:19 PM

I knew you guys would appreciate that.

FH doesn't get it and definitely still wants to send them a nice gift.

jrcowedding · #12 05-16-2007, 05:02 AM

As we've worked through our guest list, we've included more people because we want them to know that we care...NOT that we want a gift. It's not easy to narrow down lists, nor does it ever seem to end. So, I've added people as time goes on and, NEVER, have I thought "it's for the gift."

We are not including registry information because I believe it's rude and our RSVP information is listed as a website.

So, I think a congratulations card (and a gift if you feel it necessary) is appropriate. Don't assume their invitation was negative or reactive. It's not worth it and you'll feel better in the end!

NovemberGal · #13 05-16-2007, 03:15 PM

A nice thought, but since it was three weeks before the wedding, with NO way to RSVP, AND including registry info...I'm still inclined to think it was a gift grab.

But I'm cynical.

It doesn't make me feel bad, either!

ladedah · #14 05-16-2007, 03:44 PM

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Originally Posted by jrcowedding

As we've worked through our guest list, we've included more people because we want them to know that we care...NOT that we want a gift. It's not easy to narrow down lists, nor does it ever seem to end. So, I've added people as time goes on and, NEVER, have I thought "it's for the gift."

We are not including registry information because I believe it's rude and our RSVP information is listed as a website.

So, I think a congratulations card (and a gift if you feel it necessary) is appropriate. Don't assume their invitation was negative or reactive. It's not worth it and you'll feel better in the end!

Have you already sent out invites....and just keep adding people?? Because you want them to know that you care? Not to be rude or anything...but I don't get it?!?! If you wanted them to know that you care you would have invited them in the first place....OR....you are just know starting to write your guest list and are adding people as you go along, which doesn't really apply to this particular instance....

I would be lovely if you introduced yourself in the bridal journals sections....