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doodlebug1981 · #1 12-14-2005, 05:11 PM

Alright, I just begun thinking about how I'm going to do my invites. They are DIY so I'm practically on my own except the little bit of instructions they come with. Need ya'lls help

1. Does the reception info go one the ceremony invite if everyone your inviting to the wedding is also invited to the reception? Will it fit alright? Could it sound like this or is this too lengthy?

"The pleasure of your company is requested at the reception (<-- with a capital?? Is shown that way in a book.

) immediately following the ceremony... blah blah location info"

2. How many of you are putting your FIL's on the invite just out of kindness? They aren't paying toward the reception, which is totally ok since they are REALLY helping out with the house.

3. Do you put a name with the return address or just 123 Wedding Lane...? If you do, whose's do I put, mine, my dad's, just my last name?

4. Last one, for now, when are you asking that your responses be in?

Marge129 · #2 12-14-2005, 05:16 PM

1. Does the reception info go one the ceremony invite if everyone your inviting to the wedding is also invited to the reception? Will it fit alright? Could it sound like this or is this too lengthy?

"The pleasure of your company is requested at the reception (<-- with a capital?? Is shown that way in a book. ) immediately following the ceremony... blah blah location info"
I would put the reception info on a separate card so the ceremony invitation isn't crowded. The reception card simply can say "Reception to follow at.... "

2. How many of you are putting your FIL's on the invite just out of kindness? They aren't paying toward the reception, which is totally ok since they are REALLY helping out with the house.
I used the phrase "Together with their parents" to save any drama

3. Do you put a name with the return address or just 123 Wedding Lane...? If you do, whose's do I put, mine, my dad's, just my last name?
If you put a name on the return address, it should be the person who will be receiving the response cards.

4. Last one, for now, when are you asking that your responses be in?
For a May 1st wedding, I requested responses be back by April 10th. This was because the reception hall needed a final head count 2 weeks in advance... and it gave me 1 week to follow up with those who didn't RSVP on time.

Complicated Woman · #3 12-14-2005, 05:34 PM

If you want, you can print the reception info on the invites with a left corner copy, which isn't quite as formal as a reception card. It would go something like:
"Reception to follow at six thirty in the evening
Anytown Hotel Grand Ballroom
123 Main Street Anytown, NY"
And you'd print it in the same font, slightly smaller, on the lower left hand corner of the invite. Here's a pic of an example:

and you can look at this website: http://www.foreverfavors.cceasy.com/index.cfm for more ideas and printing examples, they're an internet based company so when you enter information, it puts together a sample for you. I've found it to be helpful.

Tom and I are planning on going with, "The parents of the bride and groom" to save hurt feelings and having 6 names on the invitation, since my mom is remarried, my dad has a serious live in, etc. Just easier.

I'm not going to put a name, just a return address, I think. IDK about RSVP dates either, I'm not even thinking about that yet!

555Ann555 · #4 12-14-2005, 05:43 PM

1. Does the reception info go one the ceremony invite if everyone your inviting to the wedding is also invited to the reception? Will it fit alright? Could it sound like this or is this too lengthy?
"The pleasure of your company is requested at the reception (<-- with a capital?? Is shown that way in a book. ) immediately following the ceremony... blah blah location info"

I'd put it all together if they're being invited to eveything. To give you an idea ours go...

Together with their parents,

Ann Fenton &
Moreno Donnachie

request the pleasure of your company as they are united in marriage on
Friday, 5th May 2006.

Their wedding will take place at 1.30pm in
Saint Ignatius Chapel,
Young Street, Wishaw.

The celebrations will continue afterwards at
The Bentley Hotel, High Road Motherwell.

R.S.V.P no later than 14th April, 2006.

They know then that they're being invited to both, but over here (you must all be so sick of reading about Scottish wedding traditions by now!) we don't invite anyone to witness the marriage if they aren't invited to the reception but we do have people come in the evening that weren't invited to the ceremony.

2. How many of you are putting your FIL's on the invite just out of kindness? They aren't paying toward the reception, which is totally ok since they are REALLY helping out with the house.

We were planning on just having our names, but at that point we thought we were paying for everything. We have complicated family circumstances, Mo's dad died years ago, my mum is divorced & re-married & my father will not be invited so the most simple option for us was to put 'together with their parents' we hope anyone who knows the circumstances will undersatnd & anyone who doesn't won't think anything of it! I would probably put my FIL on it if they are helping you out in other ways, but I might check with my parents to see if I'd offend them by the inclusion.

3. Do you put a name with the return address or just 123 Wedding Lane...? If you do, whose's do I put, mine, my dad's, just my last name?

I put my name on the RSVP cards because I'm the one that will be adding up & organising the guest numbers. But if someone else is doing that job for you I'd put their name & address.

4. Last one, for now, when are you asking that your responses be in?

I've asked for the 14th April which gives me 3 weeks until the wedding. I will have to double check with the hotel to see when they need the final numbers, thining about it I may make it a week earlier giving me four weeks until the wedding...

I wouldn't want to ask for the replies too early because people may have to pull out and I wouldn't want to leave it too late coz from what I hear there is always someone you have to chase up + your caterer or whoever will probably need final numbers a couple of weeks before the wedding (if not longer!)

Hope this helps!

ladedah · #5 12-14-2005, 06:33 PM

Heres what I did.....

1. I used separate cards for the reception because I didn't have enough space on my invitation, and because I wanted to say "Reception, Dinner, and Dance" so that everyone knew what was going on....I think that left corner copy is perfectly okay...

2. I put my FIL names on the invite to be nice...not as hosts because they aren't paying for the wedding (just as they aren't putting my parents' names on the Rehearsal Dinner invite)....so under my FH name on the invite I put son of Mr. and Mrs. Blah de Blah....

3. For the return address I used mine, and just started with 123 Lovers Lane...

4. I requested RSVP for three weeks prior to the wedding...for the same reasons as Ann

doodlebug1981 · #6 12-14-2005, 07:41 PM

Thanks girls. I think I've decided now. I'm having a wedding planning day today. Oh, just thought of one more thing. Do you put the return address for the guest on the RSVP return envelope? Guess that'd be a pain but who knows. Also, I'm feeling guilty for printing my envelopes out on the computer. Who else is doing this? Make me feel better

maroki13 · #7 12-14-2005, 07:45 PM

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Also, I'm feeling guilty for printing my envelopes out on the computer. Who else is doing this? Make me feel better

Me! Me! I'm doing it, because I have crappy handwriting and it will take me just as long to print them on the computer as it would take me to write them. I'm printing directly on the envelope since I figured out how to do that.

Jennifer · #8 12-14-2005, 07:46 PM

For the RSVP card you can put your address (or wherever you want the cards returned to) on the front. You don't need a return address on it.

Jennifer · #9 12-14-2005, 07:49 PM

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Originally Posted by maroki13

Me! Me! I'm doing it, because I have crappy handwriting and it will take me just as long to print them on the computer as it would take me to write them. I'm printing directly on the envelope since I figured out how to do that.

I had my mom, FMIL, FH, and MOH get together for an afternoon and address all of ours by hand. It was a fun time to all hang out...FMIL made finger foods, mom brought desserts, MOH brought punch ingredients to try out. And the whole time FH and I were planning on treating everyone to lunch!

Marge129 · #10 12-14-2005, 07:55 PM

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Originally Posted by doodlebug1981

Thanks girls. I think I've decided now. I'm having a wedding planning day today. Oh, just thought of one more thing. Do you put the return address for the guest on the RSVP return envelope? Guess that'd be a pain but who knows. Also, I'm feeling guilty for printing my envelopes out on the computer. Who else is doing this? Make me feel better

If you're addressing the RSVP envelope, I'd leave off any return address. You'll know the address is right! If they want to put their return address on it, they can.

As for the envelopes... I did mine on the computer, too! Don't feel bad... a lot of people do it.

doodlebug1981 · #11 12-15-2005, 05:02 PM

Thanks, I'm going for it I'm just feeling the glare of my FMIL. Like the eye on The Lord of the Rings, she's watching everything I do.

wembley · #12 12-15-2005, 05:58 PM

We're doing our addresses on the computer. It's so much easier and I'm thinking the post office will appreciate that over trying to read my handwriting or even worse my mom's handwriting.

I think if you have pretty handwriting, then go for it. I also think that people who say it's the tradition to only do it that way are forgetting that when the tradition started, computers weren't an option. Now they are so embrace the technology. Just make it pretty while you go.

doodlebug1981 · #13 12-16-2005, 05:53 AM

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Originally Posted by wembley

It's so much easier and I'm thinking the post office will appreciate that over trying to read my handwriting or even worse my mom's handwriting.

Yah, Mine sucks too. Or atleast its not real pretty. What font did you/ are you using. I like this one from Font Garden, Libby Script, but do you think that the post office will be able to read it ok. I sent out a test envelope to a friend to see if she'd get it.

doodlebug1981 · #14 12-16-2005, 05:55 AM

Dang, a link might help huh? http://www.fontgarden.net/archive/l/l2.htm

baconsmom · #15 12-18-2005, 06:07 PM

We're putting our reception info on a separate card - mostly because it just won't fit on the invitation itself.

We're not mentioning FH's parents.

Our wedding is Jan. 26, 2007. We're sending the invitations out in October, 2006, with a reply deadline of Dec. 1. That way, we have plenty of time to round up the RSVP stragglers and not stress ourselves out around the holidays.

And I think we're just putting his last name and our address - it's easier that way, and most people refer to me as Mrs. HisLast anyway.

wembley · #16 12-18-2005, 07:40 PM

I haven't picked out a font yet. There are lots of pretty ones on that website so I keep finding different ones I like. I need to stop looking and just pick soon.