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MrsIvey · #1 02-14-2007, 03:34 PM

I am so tired of worring myself to death about this wedding...I am so lost and do not know where to go.. I have less than 5 months and an so stressed..Fells like i am doing everything myself
I told my MOH yesterday we needed to get on the ball..she said what can she do? Well what can she do?

feb-bride · #2 02-14-2007, 03:40 PM

Have you made a list of what needs to be done (something that you can check off items as you've completed them)? For me, if I make a list of things I need to do, I don't feel as overwhelmed.

As for the MOH - What exactly are your expectations of what she should be doing? When I got married, I didn't *expect* my MOH or bridesmaids to do anything to help me plan the wedding. I didn't ask them to be in my wedding for what they could do for me. I'm not saying that's what you're doing, but honestly, my opinion is that the bride/groom should not *expect* anyone to help with their wedding plans because it's their wedding. Now, I will say that my MOH and bridesmaids did help me, but because they wanted to - not because I expected them to.

If your MOH is willing to help, take a look at your list to see what things she can help with. For example, one of my bridesmaids helped me address and stuff invitation envelopes. A few women helped me make my favors. Figure out what she can do to help instead of just stressing in general. It really helps to have a plan!

Question: Where's the groom in all of this? Is there anything that HE can help with? After all, it's his wedding, too!

Sh@ks18 · #3 02-14-2007, 04:22 PM

I agree with Feb

Why dont you make a list (and post it) with all the stuff you have done and we can help you figure out what still needs to be done or if youre missing anything and from there you can assign your girls their tasks.

Heather · #4 02-14-2007, 04:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Shaks18

I agree with Feb

Why dont you make a list (and post it) with all the stuff you have done and we can help you figure out what still needs to be done or if youre missing anything and from there you can assign your girls their tasks.

That's exactly what I was going to suggest. Let us help you girl!

MrsIvey · #5 02-14-2007, 05:25 PM

Thanks girls, but I do not even know where to start on the list...I have already made STD cards, reserved the ceremony and reception site, and photographer...thats where I am stuck, I have not ever been to a wedding so I do not know what there is suppose to be like. I am having an outside wedding and a ceremony inside ...OH yeah my FMIL is making my cake and I am doing my own favors and flowers. My Fh is you know "a Guy" he thinks all he has to do is supply money and show up

BJC777SRL · #6 02-14-2007, 06:24 PM

If you sign up on brides.com they have a HUGE checklist of anything that you could include in prepping. Also Maran (maroki13) has a final checklist that she e-mailed to me to help with the final touches in June or so.

justnmary · #7 02-14-2007, 06:34 PM

The only thing(s) my MOH helped with was the dress shopping for me (all the girls got to pick their own attire in my choice of color), she planned a bridal shower for us. Other than that, she reminded ME of everything that I needed to do....cake, dj, photographer, flowers, ect......she was my moral support and she kept me from losing my mind.

You can always ask her to help address the invites, put favors together if you're having them small things like that.

tnbride · #8 02-14-2007, 07:35 PM

I am doing mine by myself too. Look on theknot.com for ideas and stuff. Or some girls have all their stuff organized in their bridal journal on this site. Do you know what your colors are going to be?

MrsIvey · #9 02-14-2007, 09:53 PM

Yes I already have my MOH and BM & Flowerfirl dresses Light baby blue is my MOH and wine (burgandy) is my BMs colors

syringa · #10 02-14-2007, 11:06 PM

Not everyone is detail oriented and able to "see" all of the little details involved in planning a wedding, particularly if you haven't even been to a wedding, much less planned one. You may benefit from hiring a wedding coordinator for the rehearsal and day of the wedding. Most coordinators offer a free initial consultation and even if you decide not to hire her, she can provide valuable information. A good coordinator doesn't have to cost a fortune and may actually save you money because of her knowledge, plus it will take a great deal of stress off you.

Sapphire · #11 02-15-2007, 10:24 PM

I went to JC penny and started a registry. They give you a planning binder, that has all the stuff listed. That, and weddingchannel.com (no affiliation) can get you started too~! Keep your cool, you'll be just fine.