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posted by junecleaver_48
Our daughter is having a destination wedding. She wants to send her invitations NOW for a NOVEMBER wedding to enable her friends to plan their vacations. I believe we should send engagement announcements NOW, letting everyone know the wedding will be in Cancun and the date. What is the proper & polite way to do this? Thank you
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posted by wynelle
"Save the Date" Cards are usually sent anywhere from 18 months to 6 months in advance, when planning a wedding that may require more extensive travel or be occuring at a date (such as a holiday weekend). These can be easily made or have made to match the invitations, and usually include the date and any special information such as a destination resort, special airline arrangements, etc. "Save the Date" cards are only sent to those who will be receiving invitations.
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posted by feb-bride
Technically, engagement announcements aren't proper.
Your daughter should send out save-the-dates, not the actual invitations.
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posted by chriss
I agree. We used save-the-date cards 6 months in advance, and then the invitations went out one month in advance.
Can't blame your daughter for being excited - I wanted to send some sort of announcement to the world as soon as we got engaged!
, but save-the-date cards (1.) will allow out-of-town guests to make their reservations early, and (2.) will follow with an invitation so they don't forget as the wedding gets closer!
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posted by syringa
Definitely go with save the date cards on which you include travel information. Engagement announcements are for newspapers.
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posted by Treppi
Hello to everyone I am new here...
interesting thread, but I would like to know one thing (as you can see I am Italian ....here we might do thing different way)
if you sent a card with save the date isn't like an unofficial invitation?
otherwise they safe the date for what?
thank you... don't laugh at it
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posted by suechick
Treppi,
In some senses, yes! It is sent to those that will be invited to your wedding so they "save the date" as the date for your wedding.
It is used A LOT for popular dates (Valentines Day, July 4th) and when it is a destination wedding, so people can make travel arrangements.
You only send them to people you are inviting obviously.
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posted by syringa
You also only send them to people who will need time to make travel plans to attend the wedding, not to neighbors and local family and friends.
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posted by HeatherR
I disagree - Save the Dates should be sent to ALL who are invited to the wedding. It's not just for providing hotel information, but for literally "saving the date." Could you imagine if one of your in town guests talked with an out of town guests and they hadn't received one? Save yourself the trouble and send them to all guests.
A save the date could certainly be called an "unoffical" invitation, but should state somewhere that a "formal invitation will follow."
Heather
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posted by labeadel
I only sent out the save-the-dates to out-of-town guests. I agree with Heather though that if your guests in-town talked with an out-of-town guest that did receive the save-the-date, they would be hurt. We are lucky because we won't have that problem. Our in-town guests don't know any of our out-of-town guests. And we sent ours out purely for travel arrangement purposes.
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posted by wedbyjean
They are to be sent to more than just out-of-town guests, since Save-the-Date cards serve another purpose than just for travel -- they avoid the "if I had only known they were getting married on that date, I wouldn't have made other plans."
Jean Neuhart
Weddings From The Heart
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posted by Treppi
Thank you all for the explanation
So I safe the date then later on I will get the official invitation…
That mean that I got plenty time to buy the present… LOL
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posted by feb-bride
When I got married, I sent informal notes to the out-of-town guests who I really wanted to be at the wedding. Everyone else in my family was local and I'd already told them verbally when I was getting married.
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posted by octoberblonde
I agree with FebBride and Chriss on this one. No engagement announcement. Rather a Save-the date card which is what you want the guests to do.
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posted by msjgrad
My fiance and I don't fly. Where are some exotic (if any) and exciting places in the United States to honeymoon? We've been to Key West already. By the way, I live in Ohio. So....the shorter the drive the better..ha ha
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posted by SuzyBride
How about a cruise? There are some that leave from the NY area. I believe the Holland America line departs from there.
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posted by wynelle
New Orleans? New York City? Macinaw Island?
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posted by suechick
Niagara Falls? A trip through Western NY wineries? Washington DC??
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posted by Lilianevii
I sent out save-the-date cards. If you go to Vistaprint.com you can actually create your own cards and they send envelopes too.
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posted by TheaterDiva1
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How about a cruise? There are some that leave from the NY area. I believe the Holland America line departs from there.
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That's pretty much what we did - Carnival, 8 days, stopped in San Juan, St. Thomas and Tortola.
Also, how about Lake Michigan (or any of the Great Lakes)?
-Maggie
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posted by Krissy11
I actually disagree with most people when they say not to send invitiations out yet.
When you are havinga destination wedding it is already not the "traditional" way so you can break away from the traditional timelines for the most part. If you want to send out invitations and have all the necessary info for travel booking, send them now! You may not want to expect replies right away because some people may not know if they can attend until closer to the time but there is no harm in sending them out with lot's of notice! I am! Mine are going out 10 months before my DW!
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posted by syringa
I disagree with Krissy. When you send out invitations so early, they get misplaced or people forget. They figure that they have months to reply, then they get busy and they don't or they can't find the invitation. It is much better to send out a save the date card 10 months early and then send the invitations 6 to 8 weeks before the wedding.
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posted by wynelle
I agree with Syringa. That is the purpose of the Save The Date card. If the STD card has the date, the Cruise Line and the specific cruise, then the guests can check with the crise lines to determine costs, etc. Then, when the invitation comes at 6-8 weeks prior to the wedding, the guest is prepared.
If someone sent me an invitation almost a year prior to a wedding, I would misplace it.
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posted by 080605bride
Put-In-Bay in Ohio?
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posted by Marge129
Where on Earth is that?
~Margie
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posted by NovemberGal
Ohio.
I'm so sorry, I had to do it!
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posted by 080605bride
It is in Lake Eerie around Sandusky, Ohio. They have bed and breakfasts and you just relax and do whatever you want. It is really cute.
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