Bridal Shower Problems - The PASH Wedding Forums and Message Boards

crizdad · #1 01-31-2007, 09:04 PM

My fiancee is having problems with her MOH throwing her bachelorette party. Her other bridesmaid is wanting to help out with the party and the MOH won't let her. My fiancee thinks the MOH is going as far as not wanting to invite the other bridesmaid and some other close personal friends.

She thinks the MOH is complaining about the whole event which is causing my fiancee to not even want a party anymore. She said she would just be happy with going to a club, drinking and dancing but the MOH is wanting to throw that party at her house with games and whatnot.

Any comments or suggestions?

BJC777SRL · #2 01-31-2007, 09:09 PM

MOH sounds horrendous

Anyways, what if the other bridesmaid throws a second shower/party/whatnot, and doesn't invite MOH, since that's how she's being about it.

Julz518 · #3 01-31-2007, 09:51 PM

Hmmm... first let me say that I think it is sweet that you are looking for advice for your fiance

This is kinda tough, b/c ettiquette states that the bridal shower/bachelorette party should not be expected by the bride, so she can't really ask for her BM's to throw her a second one. And I guess technically she shouldn't try to tell her MOH what to do. But I just can't imagine anyone chosen to be a MOH would purposely go against the brides wishes, particularly when it involves the other BMs. And if she does, I personally don't feel she should be the MOH.

I think she really needs to sit down and talk with her MOH, and make her feelings known. She has every right to strip the MOH of that title if she feels it is warranted. 'Course that may also mean she ends up not having a party. I guess she has to decide which is more important to her - her bridesmaids feelings or her party (and potentially the MOH's friendship - if she is really a friend).

Good Luck!

BJC777SRL · #4 01-31-2007, 10:10 PM

Oh yeah, by no means was I suggesting the bride ask for a second party, but the bridesmaid seemed to want to help with the party MOH is planning, and since she's not letting her do that, I just thought it'd be nice to throw her own part if she wanted

sparklesweetie · #5 01-31-2007, 10:26 PM

That is a toughie...but like the other girls said, she needs to sit down with her MOH and tell her what she's feeling. If it all goes to pot...then, well, she wasn't a good friend anyways.

That being said, I planned my own b. party (mostly b/c my MOH had no idea how to) and I'm planning my friend's this June (again, b/c the MOH has no idea how to). So to each their own I guess.

Leslee&Jake · #6 02-01-2007, 02:15 AM

I definately think she needs to talk to her and work things out!!!

Welcome!!!