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tnbride · #1 01-18-2007, 01:03 PM

Didn't know where to post this but, do all of you have a cordinator? If you don't then when are you going to set up all of your decorations? Or who is going to do it. I really wanted to do it myself so I could make it just how I want it but I don't think I am going to have time. AND my caterer has the table cloths but I need them way before so i can get the centerpieces on and stuff, do you think they would let me come get them a day early?

maroki13 · #2 01-18-2007, 02:09 PM

I had family and friends helping set up my decorations. I had a couple family members who worked on the reception site, and a couple family members who worked on the chapel. I, too, needed my tableclothes early so we could start decorating. Our caterer let us pick up the tableclothes the day before the wedding (Friday) and my family put them on the tables and had everything decorated early Saturday morning. (The wedding was at 1 pm, reception started at about 2.)

It helped that my reception was at a hotel, and most of my family was staying there, so they just woke up early in the morning and started decorating. Also, I had two aunts who I asked to be "greeters" at the reception; they left the ceremony as soon as it was over and drove to the reception site to light all the candles and set up all last minute details, and welcome guests when they arrived.

As far as making sure everything is how you want it; I showed my mom how I wanted all of my decorations (the only family member in town before the wedding) and she helped decorate the reception site in the morning, as well as supervised the chapel decorations. I, too, was worried about everything turning out how I wanted, but honestly I was so caught up in the day I wouldn't have noticed if something had been a little bit off.

AshyBekka · #3 01-18-2007, 02:14 PM

We had a coordinator, but she was mostly in charge of herding and making sure people were there on time. The majority of the reception decorations were floral, and were put up and taken down by the florist.

(Pictures here: http://www.photoreflect.com/pr3/Thum...?e=2376811&s=0 )

I didn't really want a whole lot aside from flowers at either the church or the reception venue though, so if you're wanting additional stuff, you might just check with your venue to see how much time before/after you have, and ask some family members to be in charge of that-you don't want to have to deal with decorating on your wedding day.

Julz518 · #4 01-18-2007, 02:25 PM

I'm still planning, but I hope to have a friend (who otherwise wouldn't be invited - like a friend of my sisters) be my day-of coordinator.

With our venue, we will be able to set up Friday night, so that shouldn't be a problem. I know a few venues I looked at only gave you a few hours in the morning to set up, in which case I probably would have hired someone. I mainly need someone to herd people around, and keep all the contractors in check, etc.

tnbride · #5 01-18-2007, 02:41 PM

Our venue doesn't care when we come and decorate. The ceremony is outside and the wedding is inside this barn pavilion. at the rehearsal, nobody needs to go into the reception barn do they? We can just practice down at the gazebo right? Cause before the rehearsal I want to get the reception all set up.

breezy · #6 01-18-2007, 02:47 PM

Our wedding was Sat. We spent all day Fri. setting up.

feb-bride · #7 01-18-2007, 04:00 PM

Here's what I did when I got married. Sorry if it ends up a little long-winded.

We got married at 2:00 p.m.; we were allowed to be in the reception hall at 8:00 a.m. the morning of the wedding. I showed up at 8:00 a.m. and some of my friends/family were there as well (my dad, step-mom, step-sister, best friend, a couple of my step-mom's friends). My dad loaded up all of the reception supplies/decorations in his truck the night before the wedding. Everyone helped to unload the truck. I made sure that the tables were set up according to the floor plan, and then I decorated one table myself so that everyone would know how I wanted them to look. I was out of there (with my best friend) by 9:30 a.m. to go back to my dad's to get ready.

Once the reception was over, some people on my mom's side of the family stayed to help clean everything up. My husband and I didn't have to do anything; it was great! My dad returned all of the rental items the next day, so I didn't have to worry about that, either.

My step-mom served as my "wedding day" coordinator. She made sure that everyone had their bouquets, boutinnieres, corsages, etc. She made sure the vendors knew where to be. She basically made sure that everything ran smoothly, and she did a WONDERFUL job.

tnbride · #8 01-18-2007, 04:14 PM

Did you do your own hair and makeup? Our wedding is at 2 also but we are doing all our pictures before so we have to be there at about 12. I gues i would have time to just do the ceremony site and have the reception all done the day before. I pray it doesn't rain bc then we will have to have the ceremony in the pavilion and it doesn't look nearly as good and we will have to just move all the tables our of the way.

TheaterDiva1 · #9 01-18-2007, 04:14 PM

I had the banquet manager helping us out. A couple of days before the wedding, we had our final meeting with her, dropped off the decorations, centerpieces, etc. and outlined everything going on that day (at least, I think DH did... my dad and uncle showed up at the same time, and I was in the other room going over the ceremony with them).

feb-bride · #10 01-18-2007, 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by tnbride

Did you do your own hair and makeup? Our wedding is at 2 also but we are doing all our pictures before so we have to be there at about 12. I gues i would have time to just do the ceremony site and have the reception all done the day before. I pray it doesn't rain bc then we will have to have the ceremony in the pavilion and it doesn't look nearly as good and we will have to just move all the tables our of the way.

In my case, we didn't have to decorate the ceremony site because that was included in the price I paid to use the chapel.

My best friend's sister came to my dad's house; she did my hair and make-up. I was at the ceremony site by 12:30 p.m. I changed into my dress and was ready for pictures by 1:00 p.m. My pictures were done in about 25 minutes, and my husband arrived for his pictures at 1:20 p.m. He was kept in front of the chapel until I was able to get into the bride's room.

imstilldreaming · #11 01-18-2007, 04:19 PM

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Originally Posted by tnbride

Our venue doesn't care when we come and decorate. The ceremony is outside and the wedding is inside this barn pavilion. at the rehearsal, nobody needs to go into the reception barn do they? We can just practice down at the gazebo right? Cause before the rehearsal I want to get the reception all set up.

Did you get the all day package with the night before for the rehearsal? We only got the 6 hours (because really, people aren't going to be there for that long) and I don't know when we can start decorating. The time of our wedding is going to make it impossible for anyone else to have a wedding that day, so I don't know if it's going to matter.

I am putting together a team of friends and family to set up and take down things. Our caterer is letting me pick up our tablecloths the day before.

tnbride · #12 01-18-2007, 04:41 PM

Oh Jen i forgot about that package deal. I can't remember, i think we may have gotten the 6 hour too. Uh why wouldn't we be allowed to just go set up, its not like there is going to be another wedding that day,like you said. I think if we ask him then he will just let us.

imstilldreaming · #13 01-18-2007, 06:30 PM

Yeah, we reserved our time from 12 to 6. I guess it's -possible- that someone could have a wedding in the evening, but not likely. I have a million questions to ask, I need to just get in touch with him instead of procrastinating!!

AshyBekka · #14 01-18-2007, 06:54 PM

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Originally Posted by tnbride

Did you do your own hair and makeup? Our wedding is at 2 also but we are doing all our pictures before so we have to be there at about 12. I gues i would have time to just do the ceremony site and have the reception all done the day before. I pray it doesn't rain bc then we will have to have the ceremony in the pavilion and it doesn't look nearly as good and we will have to just move all the tables our of the way.

We had two hair people and a makeup person come to the hotel. Because we did a room block, they offered us a conference room with breakfast snacks downstairs for free, so we were all set up there. It was fun to have people come in and out and chat while we were getting dolled up!

birdie · #15 01-19-2007, 01:38 AM

Our wedding is in the evening and we have the entire venue from 9am to midnight so we'll set up the morning of. They are, thankfully, making it easy on us!