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Kelley · #1 01-10-2007, 04:38 AM

I am having such a hard time planning dates for my bachelorette party and my shower. Next year, two of my good friends are getting married. One, my MOH is getting married 7/7/07 in Maui (which I can't go to because of the cost) and is also having a reception back here on 7/28/07. My other friend is gettting married 8/25/07. Between both of their showers and bachelorette parties it is so hard for me to plan my dates (I'm getting married 9/22/07). And on top of it all, all three of us are inviting mostly the same girls to both. So we are trying to plan esentially six events (not inlcuding our weddings) around each other and expecting these girls to come.

As of now, my bachelorette party is scheduled for August 16th (there really was no other option). My shower is planned for September 8th. Do you all think that that is okay? I realy can't change it to the first weekend in Sept (that's labor day), the last weekend in August is my friends wedding, the one before that is my bachelorette party, and the one before that is hers.

Please help!! I really would like to make it so that people are going to be able to come.
I need your input!

maroki13 · #2 01-10-2007, 04:46 AM

How would you feel about combining some of the parties so people wouldn't be overwhelmed with events? I don't know that I would recommend combining showers, but combining bachelorette parties might be fun!!!

Especially if the other brides are close friends of yours.

Otherwise, I'm afraid that some of the girls (if it is the same guests invited) may not make all the bachelorette parties and showers; they are a big time and money commitment.

Julz518 · #3 01-10-2007, 01:45 PM

I agree - I think it would be a REALLY good idea to combine bachelorette parties. Especially since your wedding is the latest (and just before the holiday season), you're the one most likely to get shortchanged. (Sorry!)

I also don't think it would be horrible if you had to move your shower earlier (like July). People usually have an easier time travelling in the summer, and I think they would appreciate having a spare weekend in the fall! Usually the shower is before the bachelorette party, and I think 3-5 months before the wedding is still pretty acceptable.

I also don't think you should completely rule out Labor Day, unless you know for a fact people won't come then, or you have plans. I don't think Labor Day is as big a travel holiday as are Memorial Day or the 4th of July, so it may still be possible!

Good Luck!

NovemberGal · #4 01-10-2007, 02:41 PM

I agree with everything Julz said! I'd at least maybe switch the date of the shower and the bachelorette if nothing else; it seems odd to me to have the bach. so early, but I don't see anything wrong with an early shower. But I think combined bach. parties could be a ton of fun, if you're inviting most of the same people anyway.

And I also don't think you should automatically rule out Labor Day just because it's Labor Day, unless there are specific conflicts that you know about.

Leslee&Jake · #5 01-10-2007, 05:22 PM

I think a joint thing would be lots of fun!!!

michandmitch · #6 01-10-2007, 06:00 PM

I agree with the others, I would combine bachelorette parties with one or both of the other brides. I've never been to a bach party where people took gifts, so that wouldn't be a cost burden on the guests. Plus, I think it could prove to be a very fun event!!

Kim&Bob2004 · #7 01-10-2007, 06:10 PM

combining would be cool, but I have one question, why are you planing your own shower and bach party??????? Shouldn't someone else do that?

If someone else did, that might take that stress from you.

NovemberGal · #8 01-10-2007, 08:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Kim&Bob2004

combining would be cool, but I have one question, why are you planing your own shower and bach party??????? Shouldn't someone else do that?

If someone else did, that might take that stress from you.

I don't think she's trying to plan the events, just schedule them...?

DavidsWife · #9 01-10-2007, 11:41 PM

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Originally Posted by maroki13

How would you feel about combining some of the parties so people wouldn't be overwhelmed with events? I don't know that I would recommend combining showers, but combining bachelorette parties might be fun!!!

Especially if the other brides are close friends of yours.

Agreed, That woulld be SOOOOO much fun!

Kelley · #10 01-11-2007, 12:10 AM

I really wish I could combine showers. I would love to do that! But...the other two girls are doing joint bachelor/bachelorette party with their finances. My fiance and I want to have separate ones! We think it's a fun idea to be just with your friends and we completely trust each other. I sent an e mail last night to both the other girls asking them to please give me their confirmed dates. I'm going to look for a date in July that might work. Thanks for all your advice!
Ohh yeah, I'm not planning my stuff, I'm just trying to give my MOH and my family friend who is planning my shower the dates so that they can start their planning.