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Sapphire · #1 12-12-2006, 08:13 PM

Hello!

Problem: we were going to have a saturday wedding, but we found that it's THOUSANDS of more dollars to have it then...and my sister pointed out that people won't have time to come in and get settled for a saturday wedding. So I went with a sunday wedding, that way everyone can get there early, get settled in, relax and all before the wedding. We'd have a sunday noon ceremony, and then an early afternoon reception from about 1-5. I asked my parents what they thought and they both think that people won't stay or enjoy our reception b/c they'd want to drink...and you can't drink on a sunday and drive home afterwards for work the next day. I figured 5 is a good time to end, then everyone has a couple hours to get back home and relax for the workweek. I don't know what to do. There's either not enough time before, or after. Fiance's family is close by and his family says that they won't have a problem attending. But my mom says she's not coming b/c of having to drive all that way. Dad told her that they can take a day off on Monday if it comes to that, so I'm not sure if she's just being difficult. My parents aren't paying a cent. Rich and I (and maybe his parents contributing) are paying for everything. I'm not sure what to do about it either way.

Sharon Naylor · #2 12-17-2006, 03:40 PM

It doesn't sound to me like the timing for your Sunday wedding would be any kind of problem, and for those who want to drink, there's plenty of time to sober up afterward. If your reception went until 9pm, then there might be a problem. Your Mom, it sounds, is just being difficult, or is perhaps trying to meet the needs of guests she has in mind. Just tell her that the time you want on Sunday works well for your budget -- and that you will save thousands on the liquor bill for guests who wisely keep their drinking to a minimum. It's unfair of her to threaten not to come to the wedding -- so yes, that part is her being difficult, and I always hate it when parents try to strongarm their wishes into the wedding day with that particular tactic.

But I do encourage you to keep that Sunday timing....as Sundays are a leading trend in smart wedding planning. And I've never heard of guests not coming to a wedding because 'there's not enough time to drink.' So don't worry about that.

And lots of parents take a day off for the wedding, either on the Friday for a Saturday wedding, or on the Monday for a Sunday wedding. So your Mom is just going to have to accept that this is the plan, she can take a day off, and she needs to be a little more gracious about your plans for your wedding (whether or not she's paying for it at all).

Good luck!

Sharon
Author of THE MOTHER OF THE BRIDE BOOK

DragonYoga · #3 12-17-2006, 04:08 PM

I like the Sunday wedding idea, and the timing of everything. Very nicely done!

I totally agree with Sharon on this. Don't worry about your mom, just enjoy your wedding planning as much as possible. Remember, your wedding and reception are gonna be BEAUTIFUL.

555Ann555 · #4 12-17-2006, 05:11 PM

Just wanted to add that Sunday weddings are getting more popular in the UK too. And a lot of the big vendors will often have reduced charges on a Sunday because there is less demand for them then.

DavidsWife · #5 12-17-2006, 06:48 PM

Hey Sapphire!

Were having a Sunday Wedding! Iam not sure if Canada is much different, But it's acually less money to hold a Sunday wedding!!! Which is awesome!

I also don't think it is that big of a deal for people to get settled in on a Saturday, I looked at it as, we have quite a few people comming from out of town, they will be taking time off, and most have said they will arrive Friday or Saturday and stay until Tuesday! (Some family is comming from Switzerland) it would be silly for them not to take time out!

Acouple of things that did concern me though were, Getting a good hair dresser on Sunday and Make-up artist, And all of our flowers, So far we have not had problem! We will have to pick up the flowers the day of the wedding, But Thats totally ok!!!

Let me know how it goes!

AngelRoseFyre · #6 12-17-2006, 10:37 PM

Ok I am a little confused. Why are Sunday Weddings so much cheaper?

AngelRoseFyre · #7 12-17-2006, 10:42 PM

By the looks of your ticker, you seem to have already set the date. Have you reserved anything yet? If you have I would stick to the date you have it is a pain in the @$$ to try and move around reservation dates once you have made them, esspeccially if you have more than one.

If you havn't reserved anything for that day (or even if you have, and you don't mind a little shuffeling), I would say go with what makes you the happiest. I don't know the whole situation, so I can't tell you what day would be best for you. Maybe make on one those pro's and con's sheets and see what happens.

syringa · #8 12-18-2006, 03:04 AM

Sunday weddings are typically cheaper because that is the least busy day of the week for most facilities. Hotels, restaurants, and conference centers have business meetings/conferences/business travelers during the week, then many have weddings or parties on Friday and Saturday, which are the most expensive days of the week. Sunday is usually a slow day, so they are willing to reduce the price.

As mentioned by DavidsFiance, you may pay extra to have a florist deliver on Sunday, but it usually isn't a lot. You may also have a problem with finding a hair dresser. The other issue is that of the officiant. If you plan to be married by a minister, he/she may still be conducting church services at noon. I have had Sunday weddings at 3 or 4 p.m., however, and have not had a problem getting a minister to officiate.

Do what seems best for you and your mother will probably come around in time.

VenusElaine · #9 12-31-2006, 03:22 AM

Sunday weddings are definitely less expensive because of all the above comments! I would also agree that officiants may be a consideration, Sundays are a busy day for them. Friday evenings and anytime Saturday you will find increased prices as these are "prime time". You will also find increased prices with anything you attach "wedding" to. Check "fireyourweddingplanner.com" and learn!

VenusElaine

DenaInWyo · #10 03-25-2007, 06:32 AM

For the sake 'o Pete!

This is her DAUGHTER'S WEDDING!!! Yeah, I'd say she's just being difficult. She should easily be able to take Monday off for such an event. This is not your everyday get together.

If it's any consolation, my mother is being difficult too. She doesn't approve of the groom and is therefore giving me the silent treatment and refusing to participate in something that should be very special between a mother and daughter. It's hurtful. It sucks.

Hang in there and do your wedding the way you want it. You only get one shot at it.

Deana

ColsMOH · #11 07-20-2007, 12:18 AM

My sister is having a Sunday wedding because it will be her second anniversary that day. We're probably using the same timeline you suggested or maybe starting as early as 11.

Sunday weddings are becoming more and more popular as average wedding costs explode. They're very nice, and a lot of people do like to make a weekend or long weekend out of it. We're going to give lots of suggestions for things to do in the area with directions, prices, and hours so that guests can turn it into a real vacation. We're also going to take advantage of the wedding party being in one place (we're from all over) for once and do the bachelor/ette parties and rehearsal/rehearsal dinner over the course of the long weekend, wrapping up with a simple breakfast or brunch on Monday for all the guests that stay Sunday night.

Good luck with your wedding, and keep it your own! A lot of mothers have a way of being difficult during the process of planning.