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11-17-2006, 03:29 AM
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My brother changed his wedding day to the day after mine.
OK so initially I was supposed to get married on May 26, here in Wyoming and my brother was supposed to get married 5 weeks later on July 5 in South Dakota. I was really upset about that for some reason, I felt like in a way, they were trying to steal my day, which of course, they weren't, and I know that.
Well my brother is in the Army and just got orders to be in training to get ready to be deployed to Afganastan (again)  the date he was supposed to get married. So they had to move it up to the day after ours.
My first thought was how the heck are we going to do our wedding in cheyenne, then move everyone to South Dakota the next day? Well they are moving it to Cheyenne too.
For some odd reason, I am completly OK with this arrangement. It will be easier on our family to just make one trip for one weekend, than make 2 trips a month apart. We also won't need to take extra time off work to attend and be in each others weddings. It will be like a big weekend party with our REALLY crazy family.
The only problem I see is there wedding is in the evening and we will have to leave the reception early to catch a plane for our honeymoon, but I already let them know, and they understand that.
Any way this is just getting crazier and crazier. My mom is stressing right now. The woman who swore she won't hire a wedding planner is now hiring a wedding planner. She says she can handle one wedding in a weekend, but not two.
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11-17-2006, 03:31 AM
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I think it's wonderful and I'm so glad you're okay with it!  (A lot of people wouldn't be.) I think considering the circumstances, this is going to be a wonderful time to be with family and friends, and to give your brother (and you!) a proper send-off.
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11-17-2006, 09:00 AM
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Wow imagine all the memories you guys are going to create just going through it all. I think youre going to have an awesome time. I'm glad youre okay with it as well and thats very sweet of you to think about everyone taking time off etc.
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11-17-2006, 11:41 AM
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You know, I can see how 5 weeks later feels like stealing your thunder, but I think the next day will definitely be an awesome bonding experience for you all! You'll really be able to share each others excitement in a special way. 
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11-17-2006, 12:41 PM
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yay! I agree with everyone else, sounds like a fab bonding time with your family!!! 
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11-17-2006, 01:47 PM
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Just imagine, you can celebrate your 50th anniversaries together! That's so awesome. I'm so glad you are good with it.
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11-17-2006, 02:48 PM
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That is GREAT that you are ok with it. It will be a huge Party Weekend! I will be wonderful for you to be able to spend the whole weekend with your family. Plus it will be nice for EVERYONE to have a party for your brother going away!
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11-17-2006, 03:19 PM
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I have a better idea, why don't you have double ceremony? Alright, so maybe that's not such a good idea.....colors and all......nevermind......
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11-17-2006, 03:43 PM
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I think that its really big of you not to throw a temper tantrum or go bridezilla or something. Not all brides would be so nice about it!! :O) I agree with everyone else that you'll have better memories because of it rather than regrets!
(btw, where in s. dakota? I'm guessing he's in Rapid?)
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11-17-2006, 03:45 PM
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I'm so glad you're OK with this! You certainly will be making wonderful memories, and NO ONE will ever forget your (and your brother's) wedding weekend!
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11-17-2006, 04:40 PM
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Wow that's going to be a HUGE PARTY WEEKEND!!!!! I'm glad that you don't feel frustrated with the idea and that you are ok with it... anyway is not your brother's fault... so that's good that they decided to do it in your town.... Great!!!!!
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11-17-2006, 05:45 PM
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Originally Posted by Gertielou
Just imagine, you can celebrate your 50th anniversaries together! That's so awesome. I'm so glad you are good with it.
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OOh, that will be fun!
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11-17-2006, 10:29 PM
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Originally Posted by justnmary
I have a better idea, why don't you have double ceremony? Alright, so maybe that's not such a good idea.....colors and all......nevermind......
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We can't do a double cerimony because we are wanting two completly differnt styles of wedding, theirs is more traditional than ours, and we want Ace to be in ours, he wouldn't really into theirs. Our colors are differnt, our venues are differnt, our bridal parties are differnt, so they will be two very differnt weddings, which I thinkis a good thing.
I don't mind sharing my weekend, but I do want my own day!!! So do they.
Kelsey (Brothers FW) called me last night, to ask about bakers and DJ's and stuff, so I think we will be using alot of the same vendors, my mom is going to go nuts here soon.
I am pretty psyced though, I think it will be fun!!!
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11-19-2006, 09:40 PM
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Hey rach! I think it's great that your handling this so well. I don't know that I would be able to!!! You a pretty rockin sister to your brother! 
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11-19-2006, 09:46 PM
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Maybe the vendors that you will both be having will give you a discount for two weddings in the same weekend for the same family hehe. Is your wedding on the Friday or the Saturday?
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11-20-2006, 01:32 AM
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Originally Posted by m_t_rose
Maybe the vendors that you will both be having will give you a discount for two weddings in the same weekend for the same family hehe. Is your wedding on the Friday or the Saturday?
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I never evem thought about looking into discounts. We should really do that. Who knows we may be able to save a little money.
Our Wedding will be on Saturday, their wedding will be on Sunday.
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12-07-2006, 01:39 PM
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I am surprised you're fine with it. Did you know that in some asian countries, getting married in the same year is not advisable for siblings? Good thing we don't have that tradition.
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12-07-2006, 05:23 PM
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Why are you surprised Jane? Rachel loves her brother, and there is a very good reason for him to have the wedding at the same time. If he was just being a prig, then I can understand why she would be upset. But I think it's awesome that they are getting married at the same time and that they are both happy with it!
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12-07-2006, 11:18 PM
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 To be perfectly honest, I don't think I'd be fine with it either!
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12-08-2006, 03:04 PM
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I'm not sure I'd have wanted to share "my" day (or even "my" weekend) with a sibling (but then I'm not close to my half-siblings), but I'm not surprised if someone else does. I'm not surprised if they don't. I think most people probably would not want to, but relationships and circumstances vary. Obviously, the circumstances here are very important. And since I don't think anyone involved is Asian (although I obviously don't know who Rachel's brother is marrying), the Asian tradition that siblings marrying in the same year is "not advisable" wouldn't hold anyway.
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12-08-2006, 06:29 PM
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To be perfectly honest, I don't think I'd be fine with it either! |
I'm not sure I would either....and I love my brother and consider him to be one of my best friends.....but of course if my brother were about to be deployed to Afghanistan...I might see it differently.
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12-08-2006, 07:32 PM
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Sure, the thought of my brother being sent to war would definately be enough to make me feel a little less self-centred! 
I think it's a beautiful sentiment that he want's to share his love of his bride with his whole family before he has to go. I'm sure it'll be a really moving weekend, and amazing for your whole family! They won't forget that week ion a hurry!
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12-08-2006, 07:33 PM
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Rachel, good for you and your family. Your poor mom though! I can see why she'd be freaking out! But I think that it's going to be a darn good time!
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