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Sh@ks18 · #1 10-24-2006, 04:27 PM

Ladies

I need your opinion on something. I had a friend appraise the diamond earrings that my ex fiance had gotten me for my 25th birthday when we were in Armenia (he bought it from there)

The diamond earrings turned out to be real and are worth about $300.

For only $30 the guy will put it on a 4 prong setting (its on a 6 prong right now) and clean it up. So I told him to go ahead and do that.

My question is: Do I keep the earrings? or Sell it?

My friend - from a guys point of view - said i should just think of it as a gift someone gave me and just keep it.

Me on the other hand, my pride is saying no way sell it, but my heart says maaaaaaaaaybe i should keep cuz its like a memory of him(which im not sure i want) and ive always wanted diamond earrings.

What do you guys think?

mommy03bride · #2 10-24-2006, 04:35 PM

i say keep them.

AshyBekka · #3 10-24-2006, 04:56 PM

Keep them-a gift is given with no strings, and by changing up the settings a little, you're sort of making them your own. Enjoy them!

Marge129 · #4 10-24-2006, 04:57 PM

I say keep them... it's always nice to have a pair of diamond earrings!

DragonYoga · #5 10-24-2006, 05:01 PM

Keep 'em.

Just a thought, but maybe this mini-dilemma is what caused your odd dream?

Heather · #6 10-24-2006, 05:04 PM

I say keep them - BUT..........

I have a beautiful diamond and sapphire ring from my ex-boyfriend. It's worth about $400 and I love it. However I never wear it because I think it would be disrespectful to Mike. I'm sure he probably wouldn't care, but I just don't feel right about it.

The last time I wore the ring I was out to lunch with Mike, his brother and his Dad. His brother noticed the ring and said: "Wow, that's a beautiful ring, where did you get it?" I was stumped and just said it was a gift from a friend from a long time ago. It was really awkward and I didn't want to embarass myself or Mike.

I think I'll sell the ring eventually, but it can be hard to let go. If they were diamond earrings though, I would have to keep them. I love diamonds.

fallbride · #7 10-24-2006, 05:49 PM

Keep them!

Sh@ks18 · #8 10-24-2006, 07:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Heather

I say keep them - BUT..........

I have a beautiful diamond and sapphire ring from my ex-boyfriend. It's worth about $400 and I love it. However I never wear it because I think it would be disrespectful to Mike. I'm sure he probably wouldn't care, but I just don't feel right about it.

The last time I wore the ring I was out to lunch with Mike, his brother and his Dad. His brother noticed the ring and said: "Wow, that's a beautiful ring, where did you get it?" I was stumped and just said it was a gift from a friend from a long time ago. It was really awkward and I didn't want to embarass myself or Mike.

I think I'll sell the ring eventually, but it can be hard to let go. If they were diamond earrings though, I would have to keep them. I love diamonds.

Thats what i was thinking, i love diamond stud earrings and i always buy the fake ones and when i finally got really ones, i was soo excited.

For now i guess ill keep them depending on how similar they look to the old setting. I guess once i get engaged again, ill have my fiance/husband buy me some new ones =) then ill sell these.

Thanks ladies

Julz518 · #9 10-24-2006, 07:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Marge129

I say keep them... it's always nice to have a pair of diamond earrings!

My sentiments exactly! But at the same time I can understand your sentimental attachment to the earings as well.

I still have a gold dolphin bracelet from my highschool sweetheart - I don't wear it so much anymore, but it was the first nice piece of jewelry that I got from a guy and he was the first really serious boyfriend I had. I have a lot of good memories with him. My FH knows that the bracelet is from him (he was in our HS clique - so he remembers me getting it and wearing it too). He teases me about "wanting to be with Kent", but he knows that's not it at all. I've thought about giving it to my FSIL b/c she likes dolphins, but I just can't part with it for stupid sentimental reasons.

PlanetClaire · #10 10-24-2006, 09:02 PM

Can the jeweler not trade them for another pair? That way you still have a pair of earrings but not those ones?

Complicated Woman · #11 10-24-2006, 09:09 PM

I have some lovely jewelry that was given to me by an ex, but I just don't wear it much. Usually Tom notices and comments on my jewelry, asking if it's new and where I got it -- jewelry is his standby gift for me -- and I'd feel funny saying "uhhhh, yeah, it's from so and so."

I like Claire's idea. Otherwise you might end up with lovely earrings that you don't wear.

Sh@ks18 · #12 10-24-2006, 09:53 PM

well since he didnt buy them from the U.S., they dont come with a certificate so i'm assuming anyone that may want it, will want to see the certification, so i'm just going to see how they look, if they still remind me of the old pair then ill probably pawn it off and buy myself a new pair

michaelsbride · #13 10-24-2006, 10:55 PM

LOL sounds like my earrings dilemma that i had....

Short story, I had gotten earrings from my ex. We decided to do diamond trade in for them. At any Marks and morgan they will do it (they can appraise them on the spot so no need for certification) but the catch is that whatever they're appraised at, you have to spend double what they're worth... so if they appraise them at 300, than you have to use the credit towards something at least 600 (so 300 out of pocket). And you could use that to get a new pair... more sparkly! :O)

We turned mine in for my wedding band and one for michaels wedding band. My old engagement ring went to my new engagement ring. In the case of the ring, it was worth a lot more then what we orginally paid for it. BUT because i wanted this new particular ring, they took the old ring for less than it was worth but still more than what we paid for it. Its confusing but we came out way ahead.

If you dont want to go that route, why not wait until you have use for them? Like already suggested, get them remade into something else like a necklace or pair it with something else for something new.... no sense in wasting good diamonds just because of who they're from!

(BTW, i wore my earrings everyday for 3 years because i had wanted them so much. When i gave them up for our wedding rings, Michael knew how much they meant to me and it certainly wasnt because of who they were from. It never bothered him that i wore them every single day because he just knew that there wasnt any reason i wore them other than always having wanted diamond earrings. And as a shower gift, my mom replaced the ones i had given up.)

breezy · #14 10-24-2006, 11:24 PM

If you've always wanted them, I say keep them... plus they are from your native country

michandmitch · #15 10-24-2006, 11:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Shaks18

I had a friend appraise the diamond earrings that my ex fiance had gotten me for my 25th birthday when we were in Armenia (he bought it from there)

I say keep them and instead of thinking of him when you wear them you can think about the time you got to visit Armenia.

Leslee&Jake · #16 10-25-2006, 01:15 AM

Diamonds are a girls best friend!! Keep them. Especially since they wiil be a little different and call them your independence earings!!