This is a thread that was started in our old BlissWeddings.com forums by clairon13 on 3/31/05. Feel free to add your comments by pressing Post Reply.
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posted by clairon13
and since everyone has such good opinions, here's another question. i am one of a set of triplets. one sister is already married, so i was thinking of her being matron of honor and my other sis being maid of honor. easy solution to not having to "choose" a sis. i would like to have 5 bmaids, but my groom has only 4 people that have been involved enough in his life to ask to stand up with him in support of our marriage. is it ok if his best man escorts both of my sis and the two sides are uneven? i'm definitely new to wedding planning, and while i'm having a blast (when family isn't stressing me) there are questions like this one that i don't know how to go about doing them.
~misty~
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posted by bebe0315
We have 9 on my side and 7 on the grooms side. We will have the adults in the wedding party walk in pairs, but the 3 jr bridesmaids and 1 jr groomsman will walk alone. I personally didn't want them to walk in pairs at all, but FH wanted them to because there are so many and it would take forever to get them all down there one at a time - I agreed after he explained it so we did it his way. Your wedding party sounds a bit more managable than mine (lol) so could you have the GM's walk in with the groom, and the BM's come in individually?
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posted by Shaks18
There's no male cousin or friend from your side? Thats what i was going to do since we had more girls than guys.
I just figure it would be nice to have an even number just so one girl wouldnt feel left out when the bridal party is slow dancing or in pairs and there's just one girl left alone
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posted by feb-bride
Don't have someone in your wedding just for the sake of even sides. There's nothing wrong with the best man escorting both sisters.
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posted by clairon13
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I just figure it would be nice to have an even number just so one girl wouldnt feel left out when the bridal party is slow dancing or in pairs and there's just one girl left alone
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that's why i wondered if bestman could walk both girls down, and i'm assuming dancing won't be an issue b/cs from my guest list, i am sure quite a few are willing wallflowers
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posted by TheaterDiva1
We had an uneven bridal party also (he had two best men, while I only had one MOH). After the ceremony, both best men escorted her doen the aisle, and walked into the reception the same way.
-Maggie
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posted by syringa
Your idea of the best man escorting both MOHs is reasonable. You don't have to have the same number on each side, particularly if it means asking someone to be in the wedding party just to keep the sides even and not because he is close to the groom.
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posted by Sereniti71
I agree with those who stated you don't have to have even numbers. I think it is more important to have those who are important to you standing by your side. There are 2 bestmen and one MOH in our party. I did not add a second MOH/another bridesmaid to make the numbers even. The bestmen will escort the MOH during the recessional. She will walk down the aisle alone, as the two bestmen will be standing next to the groom at the start of the ceremony.
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posted by feb-bride
If you're afraid of having one bridesmaid "stranded" during a wedding party dance, you can always opt to skip the bridal party dance entirely. Another option is letting the bridal party dance with their spouses/dates instead of forcing them to dance with a person they barely know.
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posted by suechick
The last wedding I was at had uneven sides, so for the bridal dance they did a fast song, instead of a traditional slow song. This gave everyone the opportunity to dance around in the group, and no one felt left out.
*sue ;o)
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posted by clairon13
i've never even heard of the bridal party dance... all the recent weddings i've been to just spotlighted the b&g, and then the respective honored dads/moms. is it traditional to have all the attendants dance? when does that happen? what if you know your bm's don't dance!?!?
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posted by feb-bride
I've only been to one wedding with a bridal party dance, and it was almost 10 years ago.
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posted by munchkin
All of the weddings I've been to had bridal party dances. My FH and I are thinking of having our attendants dance with their SOs, because there are 5 guys and only three girls in our party.
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posted by syringa
It seems to be a regional thing. I have only coordinated one wedding in the last 25 years that had a bridal party dance.
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posted by wynelle
I think that allowing the bridal party to dance with their own SO and/or family is lovely. For the married, they can remember their own wedding, for the "dating"... well, there is hope. We also had all of the family join us for that dance, so no one would feel awkward on the dance floor. It was to Elvis Presley and it was "I'm in Love, I'm All Shook Up."
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posted by Lilianevii
In my wedding we are planning on having 2 bridesmaids, 2 groomsman and 1 Bestman. I have decided to have my FH and his BM walk out with our pastor and have the remaining 4 walk down the isle together. Does this seem ok, or do you think it would be strange to have the groom and Bestman up there before everyone walks in together?
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posted by bebe0315
lilian - I don't think that would be strange at all! I think when the parties get uneven you have to get a little creative and just do what works best for your situation. We actually have to change our plan now. FH's cousin was supposed to be a GM, but now (for several reasons) will not be, so we have to rework our original plan. I think what you have planned sounds fine though.
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posted by TheaterDiva1
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i've never even heard of the bridal party dance... all the recent weddings i've been to just spotlighted the b&g, and then the respective honored dads/moms. is it traditional to have all the attendants dance? when does that happen? what if you know your bm's don't dance!?!?
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I've been at some weddings w/ a BP dance. We didn't plan on one, but the DJ announced it anyway. The best men's wives were BM's, so they danced together (husband/wife), MOH danced w/ one GM, and the other GM danced w/ DH's grandmother. Later during the song though, they opened the dance to everyone, which was good - I just didn't want guests to have to sit and watch another spotlight dance.
-Maggie
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posted by clairon13
the whole elongated spotlight dance is exactly why i wasn't sure if i liked the idea of a bp dance, but i like that as a segue to get more people on the dance floor... for those who are more reserved, they are more likely to get out there if there are already a few people on the floor, while still honoring the bp...good idea!
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posted by labeadel
After discussing with our DJ, we decided not to have a BP dance. Instead, we are having an anniversary dance, which is where the DJ will ask all people who have been married for one day to come onto the dance floor (B&G), then 1 year, 2 years, 5 years and so on. Since all of our wedding party (except the BM) is married, then this will basically take the place of the BP dance. We just really didn't see a reason to have it, especially since I wanted the BP to dance with their SO's, if we were going to have it. When I suggested that, my FH asked what the point of it was then. I have to admit, I think he had a point!
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posted by feb-bride
We did have a BP dance (sort of). Instead of all the BMs having to dance with the GMs, we had the bridal party members dance with their dates/spouses. The DJ opened the dance floor up to everyone midway through the song.
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