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bm4ever · #1 10-12-2006, 06:34 PM

Hi everyone!

We are in the process of planning and are in between two locations - two states. We would like to get married in September or October, 2007.

Little background: I am currently in Florida, he is currently working in NC (has been for 6 months, will be back in 11 days!!!). We were both raised in PA where we met and our families still are. We love NC and *may* be living their come April or so.

Issue: We are trying to choose whether to get married in NC or PA. I love both locations that we are looking at, but think we may prefer to get married in NC. However, our families would have to travel for the wedding then - meaning, more travel expenses, less opportunity for them to help pay for the wedding (which is fine by me, not that we have the money, but we'll find it somewhere). PA is more convenient for most everyone, and I think my mom is leaning in that direction so she can help more financially.

I know I probably was not all too clear although I tried to be, only have a few minutes to post while at work.

Any thoughts?

emmasbridal · #2 10-12-2006, 06:37 PM

I suggest PA since that is where your families are. If it's closer more of them will be able to come. If that's where both of you are from it would seem to have more sentimental value as well.

Julz518 · #3 10-12-2006, 07:16 PM

I think it is completely up to you - depending on the kind of wedding you want and what your priorities are.

It sounds like a NC wedding would be more of a "destination" wedding for your families b/c almost everyone would have to travel - so you would likely have a smaller crowd. If it is important to you that your extended families be able to attend, then NC might not be the best choice. But if you know everyone that is important to you is as likely to attend no matter what, then I guess it doesn't matter.

If you are living in NC, it might be easier to plan a wedding there... but like you said, you wouldn't have your mothers support. But planning a wedding in PA, when you aren't there could be equally as difficult.

I kind of went through this same thing: We live in PA and both of our immediate families are from this area, but I had always dreamt of having the small beach wedding. But when I started planning, I decided that having my family there is MUCH more important to me than being on the beach. (see the related thread where we discussed this here: http://www.pashweddings.com/weddingf...ad.php?t=4754). However, I also have a LARGE family and very few of them would have been able to travel for the wedding. In addition, my mother is paying for the bulk of the wedding, and has expressed that she is most looking forward to it b/c she will get to she her extended family.

Whatever your situation is, the decision is up to you!

Yelycrazygirl · #4 10-12-2006, 07:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Julz518

I think it is completely up to you - depending on the kind of wedding you want and what your priorities are.

It sounds like a NC wedding would be more of a "destination" wedding for your families b/c almost everyone would have to travel - so you would likely have a smaller crowd. If it is important to you that your extended families be able to attend, then NC might not be the best choice. But if you know everyone that is important to you is as likely to attend no matter what, then I guess it doesn't matter.

If you are living in NC, it might be easier to plan a wedding there... but like you said, you wouldn't have your mothers support. But planning a wedding in PA, when you aren't there could be equally as difficult.

I kind of went through this same thing: We live in PA and both of our immediate families are from this area, but I had always dreamt of having the small beach wedding. But when I started planning, I decided that having my family there is MUCH more important to me than being on the beach. (see the related thread where we discussed this here: http://www.pashweddings.com/weddingf...ad.php?t=4754). However, I also have a LARGE family and very few of them would have been able to travel for the wedding. In addition, my mother is paying for the bulk of the wedding, and has expressed that she is most looking forward to it b/c she will get to she her extended family.

Whatever your situation is, the decision is up to you!

Totally agreed....

Leslee&Jake · #5 10-12-2006, 10:18 PM

I think either would be a good choice, but I can see how you could really get into a wedding in PA meaning, that you could tie in all sorts of things that remind your of you and him in PA. Like a place you always loved to go together could be a reception spot. That way all of your family are closer and can come. But if the wedding is in NC then it could be smaller and more intimate.

AngelRoseFyre · #6 10-13-2006, 05:33 AM

PA is more sentimental to both of your since that is where you met grew up, and that is where your family is.

NC is your future, and you love it, and I'm sure you have friends there you want to share your day with.

Pretty much it is your choice. Are you looking to build on the past or the future? I sure there there are plenty of other factors too.

Sorry I can't be more help, but I am stumped on this one.

fallbride · #7 10-13-2006, 12:34 PM

I am a PA girl. I lived in NC for a year, and will never go back there! I say get married in PA!!! I would say if you want most of your family there have it in PA.

michandmitch · #8 10-13-2006, 01:34 PM

I'm a PA girl also. I think a fall wedding in PA would be absolutely beautiful! I've never been to NC in the fall but I can't imagine the leaves compare to the leaves here in PA. It is gorgeous right now!!

bm4ever · #9 10-14-2006, 04:15 PM

Thanks ladies for your thoughts. The NC location is in the mountains and is absolutely gorgeous this time of year! I lived there last summer with my fiancee and loved being there, small town, every one is nice to each other, it's just a great area.

This weekend, I am doing a side by side comparison of each with everything from pricing to amenities to non-wedding activities to do for guests, pros - cons. The whole bit. Hopefully something will smack me in the head and give me the right answer. I honestly never thought this would be a tough decision.

Thank you all!

justnmary · #10 10-14-2006, 04:32 PM

Good luck!!!

AngelRoseFyre · #11 10-14-2006, 07:57 PM

Good luck. Let us know what you come up with.