Athiest Wedding
This is a thread that was started in our old BlissWeddings.com forums by girlybard on 10/01/05. Feel free to add your comments by pressing Post Reply.
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posted by girlybard
Ok, so I'm an Athiest and I want to have a wedding. Obviously, I don't want a religous wedding. I don't want it in a church, I don't want a priest, and I don't want scriptures. But, I do want it to be just as meaningful and memorable. What ideas do you guys have for me? Where could I have my ceremony? What are some things I could say? Who should perform the service for me? Any ideas?
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posted by munchkin
hello hello,
I am also an atheist. We are getting married in a huge park here, with a marriage commissioner presiding. No readings, just our vows, which we are writing ourselves. Our music will be normal radio type stuff.
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posted by girlybard
Is your family really religous? My mother is convinced that she'll get me married in a church.
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posted by bebe0315
I am not Athiest, but we are not getting married in a church or having a 'traditional' wedding. We are getting married outside in a forest setting. We don't know about the officiant yet, but you can have a friend/person of your choice get ordained on the internet and be your officiant. Maybe if you include some traditional (but non-religious) elements to your ceremony you can compromise with your mom. Of course, if mom is not paying, she doesn't have a whole lot of say, IMO!
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posted by munchkin
my immediate family isn't too religious, but my extended family is. I've been told I'm going to hell numerous times, and that my marriage won't be real, I'm awful cuz I'm living with my FH before marriage, etc.
If you don't want to get married in a church, don't. It is your wedding, and if you're like me and you feel very very uncomfortable in a church, you should not get married in one. Why start your life in a place that makes you unhappy. This is one thing you shouldn't have to compromise. People would never tell a religious couple they couldn't get married in a church.
My friends joke that they need to carry a bottle of water with them to put out any flames that may spark if I enter a church.
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posted by syringa
Not all states recognize people who have been licensed over the internet as being legally able to perform weddings, so check with the office where you will obtain your marriage license before asking a friend to officiate. The most common officiant at a non-religious wedding is a judge. They will come to your location, such as a park, museum, hotel, etc.
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posted by suechick
You can do non-religious readings too!
YOu can do love poetry or even passages on love/marriage!
I have read on here: The Art of Marriage, and someone even sent me a copy via email.
You can handle the readings no problem.
I think you should go with a judge, they are non-denominational, but you know for sure they are legally recognized.
*sue ;o)
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posted by girlybard
I was thinking that maybe I'll have my dad get "ordained" on the internet. I'm really close with him and I want someone who I love to be the one marrying us. It's more meaningful that way, IMO.
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posted by suechick
I would find out who/what will ordain him on the internet, then call the local Hall of Justice and see if it's recognized in your area as a legitimate officiant. If so, go forward with your father being the officiant!
Good Luck
*sue ;o)
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posted by feb-bride
If your dad is going to get licensed to perform your wedding ceremony, make sure it's legal where you live. Otherwise, your marriage won't be valid.
You can always get married in a wedding chapel if your mom is set on a church-like setting. Wedding chapels are designed specifically for wedding ceremonies - NO church services are held in wedding chapels. You can use whomever you want to perform the ceremony.
In my case, I got married by a retired judge in a wedding chapel. I'm not Athiest, but my husband and I don't believe in organized religion.
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posted by TheaterDiva1
DH and I aren't really religious, so we had the ceremony at the reception site. My uncle's an ordained minister, so he performed the ceremony (it just made it more special having someone in the family doing it, instead of some random minister who doesn't know us). If I didn't have that advantage, we would've looked into getting one of our friends ordained online so he could do it.
-Maggie
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posted by kolibree
Hi! We are getting married outside at an Inn, in the gazebo. We're doing the wine ceremony, we didn't want alot of religious stuff either.
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posted by mrsyarwood2b
I asked my boss to get ordained online so that she could marry us. This is my second wedding and my FH's third, so we didn't see the need for a lot of traditional elements.
We are getting married in an old, rural building that is very intimate and romantic, but not at all religious.
Aimee "Yarwood"
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posted by tracy22
I'm agnostic, as is my fiance and we are getting married at the Spa where I work.
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