Don't know what to do... everything we need is expensive!! - The PASH Wedding Forums and Message Boards

MarthaA562 · #1 10-10-2006, 07:16 AM

So Joe and I have lived together for 4.5 years, just bought an 11 piece all clad cookware set, have 2 sets of fine china as an inheritance, but everything that we need is so expensive!! We have a lot of things together, but what we need new is bedware (duvet cover, duvet, pillows) and some kitchen ware (microwave, toaster oven). We also bought a 4 setting Crate and Barrel set of dishes a few years that we want to add on to for entertaining, and need flatware and steak knives. We are registered at Bed, Bath, and Beyond and Crate and Barrel... But everything we need is so expensive, it is embarrassing. I know that a lot of the people coming are already spending so much to come and our friends are not loaded... but our cheapest items are about $40 and goes up to $300. I want to add cheaper items, but these are the things that we need to complete our house. I just don't want to seem high maintenance or anything to our guests. Is there a tactful way that we can tell them that gift cards are ok if they cannot afford some of the gifts, but still keeping the etiquette rules??? I just don't want to end up with half of my bedding set of dish set and end up buying the rest myself (we are trying to buy a house and pay for this wedding all in the same year, can't affor these things!!). They both offer discounts if you purchase the remainder items after the wedding.

Heather · #2 10-10-2006, 12:44 PM

I had a hard time registering too. I was like, almost embarassed I guess. I put it off for a long time...

I would add some things like dish towels, slotted spoons, wash clothes, things that aren't expensive at all.

breezy · #3 10-10-2006, 05:32 PM

this isn't proper etiquette...
at BBB anything you return that was on your registry you get cash for, then you could apply that cash twd what you really need.
We bought our house 3 years prior to our wedding, had help with our wedding expenses ect.... I can't imagine doing it all in one year! Kudo's to you!
We wanted to register at homedepot. But they have a limited registry for items online (which we didn't need, but you might as a new homeowner)
We also wanted to register for a few camping items at REI, but they didn't have a tent big enough for our family.

Leslee&Jake · #4 10-10-2006, 05:39 PM

Just dont get crazy with the cheapier things. put things that you would use. A distant cousin of mine put silly things like playing cards, games and coloring books on her registry, everyone in our family was making fun of her.

labeadel · #5 10-10-2006, 07:22 PM

I say register for the expensive things you want, and throw some cheaper stuff on there, like Heather said. And then when people come on and all they see left are the pricier items, they will probably just get you a gift card at that point. I know when I registered that I got the option of having gift cards as an item on my registry.

fergie · #6 11-21-2006, 09:04 AM

just go for the neccessities. you don't need to have expensive houseware to be functional and happy

DavidsWife · #7 11-22-2006, 04:18 AM

Hey Girl...

The thing is, it doesn't necessarily have to be 1 person buying the girft, 2 or three people can go in on the more expensive things together...

It'll all work out...

AshNJam07 · #8 11-24-2006, 08:31 PM

Yes I agree. Some close fam members may go in together to purchase the more expensive ones. I wouldn't worry too much!!

555Ann555 · #9 11-24-2006, 11:31 PM

That's what happened with ours

A few friends put together for a huge mirror we registered for, and Mo's workmates all clubbed together to get us (and we probably shouldn't have put this on our gift list in the first place, but it was almost my favourite present ) our recordable dvd... We got quite a few gift cards for the places we registered for too

I wouldn't worry about not having enough "cheap" stuff on there, if you don't need it there is no point in registering for it

And I don't think $40 is soooo expensive for the smallest items... But maybe you could add a few photo frames, I've never needed so many in my life as I did after the wedding!

There is an "ultimate gift list" post in here somewhere where we've all listed the things we found most useful after the wedding, or that we loved the most that we received, it might be worth hunting that out for inspiration.