This is a thread that was started in our old BlissWeddings.com forums by lilhoney1976 on 9/16/04. Feel free to add your comments by pressing Post Reply.
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posted by lilhoney1976
I had everything all set with my processional songs. I chose "Happily Ever After" by Case as the song I walk down the aisle to and at first I chose "He Proposed to Me" by Kelly Price as the song for my bridal party to walk to.However, I switched to "After All is Said and Done" by Beyonce' knowles and Marc Nelson. I told my fiance' about it and he said that although they were really goodsongs they are not "original" enough and we should think of something less common that hardly or noone ever used.I asked him who he knew that used them and he couldn't name even one couple. He hasn't even been to a wedding or in one in years. I personally don't know of anyone who has used those 2 songs.I was a little annoyed and disappointed because I had my heart set on those 2 songs. I don't intend on changing the bridal party's song but, I am willing to change the one for me. If that is my entrance ,and it is our moment, I don't want to ruin it for him with a song that he doesn't like. I hate to make him sound anal or even myself, because we are really not but,I guess we both want the moment to be extra special.We have plenty of time to think about it but, I'm just trying to get ideas.Well with all that being said, I wanted to ask 2 questions.Question 1: How much input does the groom have in that department?And question 2: For any R&B/slow jam listeners-any suggestions on songs?
P.S. We at least we agreeed on the first dance song(only because it is "our" song.
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posted by Marge129
1- My hubby had NO say in what songs occured at the ceremony because he didn't want to go to the meeting with the organist and soloist. I think it varies from couple to couple, there is no set rule on this one.
2- The only R&B I listen to is Usher. I don't think any of his songs are appropriate for the processional for your wedding!
Sorry I couldn't be more help!
Margie
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posted by Just Engaged!
1. My fiance is VERY involved in choosing the music for the wedding and reception - why shouldn't he be? I think it's good that your fi wants to plan this aspect with you; after all, music plays an important part in a wedding ceremony. It sets the mood and tone, and can also be very personal.
2. I'm not much of an R&B fan, sorry.
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posted by TheaterDiva1
FI and I were pretty much 50/50 on reception music, but for the ceremony I had certain preferences (classical music) and since he doesn't know classical he let me pick. Also, when he asked me to clean up the playlist for the DJ and certain special songs were blank (i.e. we hadn't picked the entrance song for BP), I went ahead and filled them in. At this point, it's too late for him to complain.
-Maggie
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posted by HeatherR
My hubby didn't care about the ceremony music. We pretty much went with traditional because my Mom really wanted to see me walk down the aisle to "Here comes the Bride." Boring, but it made my Mom really happy which was worth it.
I'm not a huge R&B fan either so I can't help you in that respect. I'm with Marge, I like Usher's "Yeah" but I doubt that would be appropriate.
Oh- our song that we danced to was "Thank You" by Led Zeppelin. What about a music only version of Stairway to Heaven? How beautiful would that be to have you walking down the aisle to that? I am a classic rock kind of girl so sorry if I'm no help at all.
Heather
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posted by Kanona
My FI and I were also 50/50 in picking reception music, but the ceremony music was left to me.
I am a HUGE R&B fanatic, but I need some time to think of appropriate and tasteful processional music in that realm. It seems to me (and correct me if I'm wrong), that you like the newer, younger R&B music. I'm an old R&B music fan, but I'll ask around and see what I can come up with
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posted by Kanona
Heather~ are you speaking of the "Stairway to Heaven" by the O'Jays???
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posted by HeatherR
I was actually thinking of Led Zep. The guitar solo in the beginning of that song is just beautiful and slow...
Heather
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posted by Marge129
Hell yeah! Stairway is one of the best songs ever written.
The only think I don't like about it is that it reminds me of HS when a friend of mine died in an ATV accident. We listened to stairway all day the day of his funeral... now everytime I hear it, I think of Robbie.
Margie
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posted by lilhoney1976
Hey, Kanona. I actually love all types of R&B. Especially the old stuff. Something old might be best anyway because it may be more "original" as my fiance'put it.
But seriously, I want something that he will enjoy as well, something that will set the tone and mood, will remind us of each other,and will be remembered as a beautiful selection of music. So, if you have any suggestions, please let me know.Oh, and to the rest of the ladies, although you guys aren't fans of R&B, you have still been most helpful and always are every time I post a question. Thanks so much!
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posted by HeatherR
What about the theme from Ghost? I can't think of the name of it...
"whooooaaa, my love, my darling, I hunger for your touch..." etc...
That song always makes me cry. There won't be a dry eye in the place!
Heather
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posted by TheaterDiva1
"Unchained Melody" by The Righteous Brothers
-Maggie
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posted by wynelle
"Unchained Melody," by the Righteous Brothers. That song is sooooooo romantic, it still puts shivers up my spine.
And don't forget "(I've Had) The Time of My Life" from Dirty Dancing. An older couple used that as a recessional, (they kissed to the slow beginning and started walking when it got more bouncy.)and all the guests were dancing their way out of the pews.
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posted by feb-bride
Wynelle - We used "Time of My Life" as our reception closer. It's also the "closer" song on our wedding video.
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posted by Kanona
Lilhoney~ what about "For You" by Kenny Latimore (even though I'm sure that's been done enough, right)...also, "With You" by Toni Terry. I'm still thinking and checking, I haven't forgotten you
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posted by Kanona
Lilhoney~ I also like "The First Time Ever I Saw Your Face" by Roberta Flack, or "At Last" by Etta James
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posted by HeatherR
oooooohhhh, I love "At Last." Beautiful song.
Heather
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posted by Marge129
Me, too.
What about "Unforgettable" by Nat and Natalie King Cole?? That's a beautiful song as well.
Margie
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posted by lilhoney1976
Hey Kanona.I used "For You" by Kenny Lattimore as my first dance song when I got married the first time.(Wow!Is that song really that old?)Anyway, I'll run "With You" by him and see how he likes it although I think I recall him saying no to that one too. Oh, yeah, he did because I remember. It was in a bridal book I had and he said that people have used that too. The Roberta Flack song you mentioned was nice but, my mother played that song to death when I was growing up so I can't use it. I don't want to be thinking about my mother when I'm walking down the aisle-lol!
P.S. Keep thinking though!
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posted by Marge129
Lilhoney1976, I just went back and re-read your original post. I forgot to mention before that the songs you originally picked are very unique. I've been to plenty of weddings, and I've never heard any of those songs used during the ceremony.
The most commonly used songs are probably "The Wedding March", "Canon in D", and "Trumpet Voluntary."
I'm going to have to disagree with your fiance that the songs you originally wanted are "not "original" enough and we should think of something less common that hardly or noone ever used." I think those songs are less common than anything else we've come up with!
Here are a few links that have lists of songs that can be used for the different parts of your wedding day.
http://www.topweddingsites.com/wedding_music.html
http://www.intac.com/~energize/CMRP/
http://www.wedalert.com/songs/ceremony/index.asp
Margie
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posted by SoonToBeMrsThatcher
My fiance and I have agreed that when I walk down the aisle it will be to 311's "Love Song" and the processional will probably be something similar....we kind of want an "original" music theme to our wedding, however our first dance will be to "Wonderful Tonight" by Eric Clapton.
processional song problem
)....I haven't forgotten you. Let me do some more research today and I'll let you know what I come up with later today...
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