grooms expenses of the wedding
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posted by tammi stocks
My son and fiancee are planning their wedding. what are the groom's expenses in financing the wedding
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posted by HeatherR
The groom? Or, the groom's parents?
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posted by syringa
Today, weddings are usually financed jointly by both sets of parents (if they offer) and the bride and groom. There are few "traditional" things that the groom or his family "should" pay for. If you are thinking specifically of the groom, he definitely pays for the bride's wedding rings and usually pays for the marriage license, his tuxedo rental and sometimes those of his groomsmen, and he may pay for the honeymoon. Other things are optional depending on his age and financial status. Bottom line, if the parents don't volunteer to help with the wedding expenses, then the groom and his bride are responsible for all of the costs of the wedding.
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posted by supernix
Here is the list of things that the groom is responsible for:
Bride's engagement and wedding ring
Groom's gift to bride
Groom's attendants gifts
Marriage license
Officiant's fee
Groom's attire
Boutonnieres for Groom's attendants
Honeymoon Expenses
And that is it according to custom. Now how you wish to personaly do it is another matter all together. You can of course split the expenses with your wife and or her family.
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posted by Chacha-Bride
This might be a regional thing (I live in California) but the groom’s parents usual take care of the rehearsal dinner. My FH and I are paying for the whole thing because both sets of parents are retired and we just want them to come and enjoy themselves. SO it really depends on what the bride and groom to be are planning.
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posted by bebe0315
Groom and I are splitting everything right down the middle, parents are not contributing financially.
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posted by Sereniti71
"Traditionally", groom's parents also pay for rehearsal dinner from what I have read. My hubby and I split all of the expenses and spared our parents. This is very common these days.
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posted by prunella
At my wedding we split the food and favour expenses according to the number of guests we had (my friend and family were 80, my husband's 55). My mother in law took care of my H dress and my bouquet(Italian tradition to be a present on her part for the bride)
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posted by CupieJen
My husband's parents gave us a check to spend on whatever we wanted--used most of it for the reception. They also paid for the rehearsal dinner and the usher's tuxes (ushers were husband's bothers). My family paid for the flowers, decorations, BM dresses (my mom made them), the cake, beer & wine at reception, the ceremony/officiant fee (my family are members at the church and the fee was just a donation/tip) and my dress & accessories.
We paid for gifts for BP and parents, my manicure, our honeymoon...and whatever was left over for the reception that the check IL's gave us didn't cover.
ETA: Forgot that we also paid for the photographer (well half, she was so expensive and my dad knew that i really wanted her so he paid the other half)
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posted by SuzyBride
Josh paid for my rings and the honeymoon. His parents paid for the RD and officiant who was my uncle so it was just a tip. His mom also paid for the decorations for the reception since the RD and reception were at the same place, we just used the same decorations.
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posted by Kim&Bob2004
Bob paid for the rings, honeymoon, tuxedo (i think he may have paid for one of the groomsmen too), officant, engagement photos, marriage license, a wedding gift to me (a digatal camera--he calls it my camera, I call it OUR camera, though I am the only one that really uses it.)
Me and my family did everything else, Bob's parents are both gone. Our rehersial dinner included all of our out of town guests, so it was big.... so my family paid for it. We did the flowers and everything ourselves, so Bob didn't need to take care of that, though I think tradtionally the groom buys the birdal bouquet too.
As far as favors, we made those and worked on them for three months! :-) Bob helped do thing like wrap silverware and napkins and helped my mom set up the reception hall the day before as well as the church it self. He decorated where we sat at the reception and he did such a lovely job.
Blessings!
Love,
Kim--WA
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posted by labeadel
My FH parents are paying for the alcohol at the wedding, rehearsal dinner, DJ and part of the photographer. My parents are paying for most of the rest of it. We together have paid for rings, favors, programs, marriage license, gifts (of course). We also are paying for the honeymoon together.
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posted by NovemberGal
We're splitting all the standard costs three ways--my folks, his folks, and the two of us. Then each has an "extra"--we've got the rings (I paid for his, he paid for mine), my folks have the dress, and his folks have the RD. Plus, FH and I are helping a couple of my financially tight BMs with their dresses.
It'll be an even split unless costs rise over what we've budgetted because the parents want to add guests. If that happens, we've set our upper limit, and the folks can split the rest.
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