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munchkin · #1 09-12-2006, 04:45 AM

This is the beginning of my second wedding planning adventure, in that I called off the wedding for next year and am instead planning it for the year after.
Originally I had asked two other girls to be in my wedding as bridesmaids. One of them is one of the bitchy girls from my journalism class that I mentioned in my thread in the Venting section. The other is a girl who was my best friend in high school, but we have now fallen out of touch, though we're still friendly and I would love to rekindle the friendship if I had time.
Now, I'm planning my wedding again. I have no desire for the bitchy girl to be included, and I doubt that I will have time to spend with my former best friend any time soon unfortunately. I don't know if they will still be expecting to be included, but if they are, what do I do? I have a Maid of Honour, a Man of Honour, and two bridesmaids already. I don't want more than that. Help ladies!

deputysgurl · #2 09-12-2006, 04:52 AM

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Originally Posted by munchkin

I don't know if they will still be expecting to be included, but if they are, what do I do? I have a Maid of Honour, a Man of Honour, and two bridesmaids already. I don't want more than that. Help ladies!

I don't expect the b!thcy on to really want to do it, but your other friend may. You just have to explain to her. Or set up a wedding website and make sure you send out a link to you site through email and make sure those two get it as well. Have the Bridal party listed on there so that it is easy to find.

AngelRoseFyre · #3 09-12-2006, 04:52 AM

I would just tell them nicely that you want a small bridal party and you are very sorry but you have already chosen these other people, but they are still welcome to come to the wedding (if infact they are).

It is your wedding, you do have a right to say who is and is not included.

AngelRoseFyre · #4 09-12-2006, 04:54 AM

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Originally Posted by deputysgurl

Or set up a wedding website and make sure you send out a link to you site through email and make sure those two get it as well. Have the Bridal party listed on there so that it is easy to find.

Weddingchannel.com offers free websights and there is a page to put in the wedding party

DavidsWife · #5 09-13-2006, 01:36 AM

WOW, I just had this somewhat same situation yesterday! Nadine, my bestfriend (or was about 2years ago) called me up and asked if I would go to lunch with her.

I did, yesterday! I know she is expecting me to have her in my bridal party, I staright told her yesterday (and she didn't even ask if she was in the wedding.) I brough it up.
"I have decided to have Dave's sister Alyssa as my MOH"
Nadine "Oh yeah..."
" At this point I don't feel I have a close friend that I would choose to have in our wedding"
Nadine "I can understand that, I feel the same way about my friendships" (She too is getting married)
" So I have decided to have the two people that are closest to me, besides we are keeping it very small"
Nadine "That sounds great Jayme"

She was very good about it. I know she may have been smewhat upset, but the way I see it...She is my friend and I still care about her and want to be straight-up and honest with her....

It's gonna work out.

Be honest, Will u be inviting them both to the wedding?

munchkin · #6 09-13-2006, 01:44 AM

I will definetely be inviting my former best friend. I don't think I'll be inviting the other girl, but her sister is doing my hair, so I'm not sure now. AHHHH.

Heather · #7 09-13-2006, 03:05 AM

Yikes - the sister hair thing throws a bit of a wrench into the works.

This is a tough one emotionally -

but trust me on this one Munchkin... <---- I don't say that too often

I look at some of my wedding photos now and I just get this sick feeling in my tummy. There is a girl I asked totally out of obligation and I regretted it the moment I asked her. I didn't have the balls or the heart to ask her to step down so I just rolled with it. If I had to choose one thing to change about my wedding, that would be it.

Your wedding day will hopefully happen only once and you'll have those beautiful memories, but you're also going to have those beautiful pictures. Don't make the mistake that I did and ask because you feel you have to. It's not something that's just over and done with when your wedding day has passed.

I know it's a tough decision, but trust me on this. If you're having doubts about having her there, then don't say a word to her until you've really, really made up your mind.

No regrets sista. No regrets.