How do I make sure children are supervised? - The PASH Wedding Forums and Message Boards

kimmey · #1 09-06-2006, 12:16 AM

Hi there,
You were all such a help before when I was having problems with the color of the bridesmaids gowns that I thought I'd run another one by you!
My FH and I have said all along that we want children to be invited to our wedding. The problem is that I have an aunt who, because of family reasons, I just met about a year or so ago and her children are very wild and uncontrollable. I don't feel it's right to exclude any of them from the wedding but, because of past performances am concerned about their behavior. Does anyone think that it would be rude of me to include something in the response card that states that children are expected to sit quietly and respectfully throughout the ceremony and be under constant supervision during the reception? Her children are the only ones that I'm concerned with and I've thought about only putting it in her invitation and noone elses.
I'd really appreciate some input!
Thanks!

labeadel · #2 09-06-2006, 12:48 AM

I know how awesome it would be to put that on her invite, but you just can't.

Are you expecting a lot of children? Many brides have had a separate area for children where a babysitter was hired to keep an eye on them throughout the evening. You could do something like that.

wynelle · #3 09-06-2006, 01:05 AM

Personally, I think you have every right to exclude children that are known to be major behavior problems. I just don't think you need the additional stress.

If you feel you can't exclude them, can your parent (to whom they are brother or sister) speak to them in advance? I know it will be a bit touchy.

Otherwise, just don't include them. Then when the aunt RSVPs for 4, instead of 2, your parents can call and explain why they aren't invited.

breezy · #4 09-06-2006, 01:07 AM

If your getting married in a church do they have a cry room? If so perhaps you could have the kids all go to that room and hire a babysitter.

As for the reception, I imagine they will be dancing. While they may be rambunctious and ill mannered. It won't ruin the day when they blend in.

My girlfriend son is a wild one. He was wild at our reception. DH told me after the wedding he pulled him aside one and talked to him. otherwise he was just having fun with all the other kids. Sometimes the other kids will help calm down the wild ones.