favor etiquitte

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posted by ellen bride

During a recent dicussion there was a divsion on the etiquette of giving favors at the wedding .... some seem to think this is no longer proper etiquette while others felt it is a given because as a guest they felt they should receive a thank you in the form of a favor. I feel the thank you is the thank you card and the favor is optional. please help.

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posted by Sasha Souza

I don't think that a $3 favor is appropriate thank you for the guests for taking time from their busy lives to celebrate with you.

I think that favors are cliche and a little outdated and a waste of $. But that's my opinion. Unless you're giving them something really fabulous they are cluttering to the table top, half the people never take them home and typically get thrown away. Save your money and put it towards more beautiful things like linen, lighting or flowers or food.

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posted by guilgas

If you do decide to go with the favor route, you might want to consider some sort of candy. It can be pretty cheap and it will get eaten (most likely) so it's not like they're taking home a knick-knack.

What I did was get jordan almonds and wrap them in a little piece of tulle. I did jelly beans that way for my cousin's shower. It wasn't very expensive especially if you get the tulle from the fabric store instead of the pre-cut ones. An even cheaper option is getting the colored cellophane from the supermarket. I don't know how much that costs but I imagine it's cheaper than the tulle. Or even little lunch baggies with a pretty ribbon. Just some suggestions if you feel you need to do something.

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posted by scotty

I used our favors as a placesetting. If you chose to do a favor, just make sure it blends with your table setting.

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posted by Whitters21

I live in Texas and I've heard that it is more popular in the Northeast to give favors. I won't have them at my wedding. Candy can be cheap but Jordan Almonds are not unless you find a good deal or get them on clearance. (or you have a small wedding) Another thing you can do is hand out bubbles for the guests to blow as you leave (about $3 a case of 24 at Wal-Mart).

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posted by wynelle

When I lived in Italy, I was amazed at the expense of the favors. The brides there gave things like sterling silver minature salt cellars, and crystal napkin holders. And I've attended weddings here where the favors ranged from lovely silver picture frames, to candies and almonds to plastic minature champagne glasses filled with potpouri. I believe that every bride has the best of intentions in her heart if she choses her favors or if she chooses not to give them. Personally I would rather put the money towards the bar costs or photography.. (but I did find a lovely chocolates maker who is making monogramed chocolates, and chocolates in the shape of Shamrocks and claddaughs.. at a very realistic price, so I did get some) oh well, so much for intentions...

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posted by Martha

My husband's brother had died from cancer about a year before we got married so we decided to spend the money in the form of a donation to the cancer center where he was treated and the cancer center actually gave us little cards to give to our guests to say that a donation had been made on their behalf. It meant a lot to my husband and his family to be able to honor his brother in this way.

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posted Rashelle

I don't think favors are outdated. I like to think of them as an added touch. We are putting candy, nuts, and chocolates in small white ribboned boxes at each place setting. The cost isn't that bad, if you handle it yourselves.(I got the 3 inch boxes for $50.00/250) We are also having things for the children to do-baskets of coloring books,crayons,games etc...I think people appreciate the small things that you do.