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justnmary · #1 08-11-2006, 05:37 PM

Ok...here's the situation...

The other day I was by my dad and my aunt called. She had mentioned to me while we were on the phone that her son never received an invitation to our wedding and she had told him that she thought I had meant to invite them. Which I did intend to do ... but then she mentioned her other son and she wondered if he got an invite and got me to thinking. So I went home and looked and sure enough....I didn't send invites to her two sons....
I told her over the phone that I had every intention to invite them and if she could do a word of mouth invite just incase I had over looked them, I would appreciate it but now I feel terrible and don't know if I should still send the invites or what. What to do??????

wynelle · #2 08-11-2006, 06:22 PM

Mail the invites. Tuck in a small note of apology if you want.

AngelRoseFyre · #3 08-11-2006, 06:24 PM

That's a toughy, if your wedding was months away, I would deffinatly tell you to send an invite. But since it is a week away, I don't know if that would seem tacky. But not sending one and getting an invite word of mouth may seem rude. OK here is what I would do (please correct me if I am wrong - I am bad at the ettiquett things sometimes). I would send them an invite anyway, so they are 'officially' invited, and if for some reason they want to keep the invite for a keep sake they can, maybe throw a nice little hand written not in there too.

wembley · #4 08-11-2006, 06:27 PM

Since your wedding is so close and it is for two guys, I would probably just call them myself. I know that's a judgment call because they are men but typically they are not the ones to keep little things like invitations as a keepsake. Just my

Marge129 · #5 08-11-2006, 06:39 PM

I agree that if your wedding was further away you could get away with sending the invites... but since it's so close I would call each of them personally and apologize.

DavidsWife · #6 08-11-2006, 06:51 PM

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Originally Posted by wynelle

Mail the invites. Tuck in a small note of apology if you want.

I totally agree!!!

555Ann555 · #7 08-11-2006, 07:06 PM

I'd mail them, but I'd call them too..

I don't know how too many men feel about this sort of thing, but going by Moreno: he wouldn't attend if it was just a word of mouth invitation

But if you send it now & call then they might

labeadel · #8 08-11-2006, 07:41 PM

If it were me, (I'm not incredibly close with all of my family members) I would just send them a new one with a little note that said you double-checked and HAD mailed an invite but it must've gotten lost in the mail. So, you wanted to be sure that they felt invited, so you thought you'd send them one of their own.

My question is, how are you going to deal with their RSVPs? That may answer your question for you. If you need them in the next few days, which I am guessing that you do since you get married in 8 days, you may have to call them.

justnmary · #9 08-11-2006, 07:44 PM

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Originally Posted by labeadel

If it were me, (I'm not incredibly close with all of my family members) I would just send them a new one with a little note that said you double-checked and HAD mailed an invite but it must've gotten lost in the mail. So, you wanted to be sure that they felt invited, so you thought you'd send them one of their own.

My question is, how are you going to deal with their RSVPs? That may answer your question for you. If you need them in the next few days, which I am guessing that you do since you get married in 8 days, you may have to call them.

I'm only inviting aunts and uncles for the dinner and all cousins for the reception....I have such a huge family the cost would have killed us....so RSVP's are not an issue.

labeadel · #10 08-11-2006, 07:45 PM

Ok, then I would do the first part of my response.

Complicated Woman · #11 08-11-2006, 07:48 PM

I would just call, apologize, and let them know they are invited and you want them there. Tom would probably not go unless someone called, but not because he would be offended, just because he'd think he could get out of a wedding without an official invite!

I'm sure it will all be fine.

marywils23 · #12 08-11-2006, 10:07 PM

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I'd mail them, but I'd call them too..

what i would do

tryingtobegoodfmil · #13 08-12-2006, 03:23 AM

The ladies here have already offered you great advice, so I will add my redundant 2 cents. Call, send the invites with a lovely card or note explaining the mistake. Then follow up with your aunt. Maybe invite her for a tea or lunch if you are so inclined! Word of mouth with something as important (and apt to cause hurt feelings) as a wedding is never advisable. Good luck and let us know how it goes!

breezy · #14 08-12-2006, 05:16 AM

I'd mail and call them too.

I wonder what is *proper* in this situation? I'd love to here Sharons input just out of curiosity!

DragonYoga · #15 08-14-2006, 02:17 PM

fed-ex them to your cousins? That way they're SURE to get it before the wedding!

RACS218 · #16 08-28-2006, 12:54 PM

I suggest you call them then mail the invites as well. Offer an explanation if you think it's needed.. I am sure they would understand.. Goodluck!

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TheaterDiva1 · #17 08-28-2006, 04:58 PM

I would do a "word of mouth" just to make sure your cousins for the info in time, but I'd send the second invite anyway and say it must've got lost in the mail or something (chicken, I know, but there won't be as many hurt feelings).