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posted by bebe0315
We are getting ready to send our save-the-dates in a week or two. Yesterday I came across a save-the-date that was sent to us for a wedding last year. There were 3 pages included. The first page was the save-the-date announcement, pretty standard stuff - it was on nice paper and in a coordinating envelope. The next page gave info about their wedding website, local hotel info, airport/travel info and what to expect for the day. The 3rd page was a list of area attractions. (Monterey/Carmel) I have never seen a save the date like this, but I actually thought it was a good idea. I was thinking about doing something similar especially considering that our wedding will be out of town, and we do have something planned for Friday, Saturday (wedding day) and Sunday. And there are a lot of things to do in the area where we will be married (North Lake Tahoe). I actually thought it was very considerate for my friend to include all of that information with her save-the-dates, but I don't know if it is appropriate to send something like that. I would love to hear your opinions before forging ahead with a plan!
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posted by bebe0315
OH! And one more thing. Is there a way to mention on the save-the-date that the event is adults only? I would hate for someone like my cousin and his wife who have 5 children to make a reservation for a giant hotel room or a 2 room suite only to find out when the invitation comes that they only needed to book a room for the 2 of them.
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posted by feb-bride
First - I think the three-page thing is a nice idea for the save-the-dates.
Second - Just list the "adults only" information on the second page of the save-the-date (when you're talking about what to expect for the day).
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posted by catina
Is it just the wedding that is adults only? If so, they may sitll want to bring the children anyway and arrange for a sitter or some older children in the family to baby sit the day of the wedding.
My daughter's wedding was adults only (except the ceremony where anybody could show up), and we had a couple of family members bring their kids for the weekend, staying at the hotel. There were a couple of older kids (14 & 16) who also weren't invited to the wedding, and they took care of the younger ones in one or two of the rooms.
I think it's a very good idea to include as much info as impossible with the save the dates.
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posted by bebe0315
Unfortunately, both the ceremony and reception are adults only - limited seating!
Okay cool, I wasn't sure if there was proper etiquette for save-the-dates, of all the weddings I have been to, I have only ever received 2 save-the-dates, so I haven't really seen many examples. Your comments/suggestions have been very helpful, thank you both!
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posted by suechick
I think that is an extremely nice idea! I love the idea of 3 pages, and I agree with Feb Bride, put it on the "What to Expect" Page.
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posted by TheaterDiva1
And aren't STD's address the same way as an invitation, with only names of people actually invited appear on the envelope?
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posted by syringa
You mention that the ceremony and reception are adults only, but could children be included in the activities on Friday and Sunday? If so, then your cousin and others might want to bring the children and make it a family vacation. You could mention in the info sheet that the activities on Saturday are adults only, but children are welcome on Friday and Sunday if they are.
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posted by bebe0315
Thr Friday evening activity (b-day party in the Lodge for the Groom) would by all means be appropriate for children to attend, so I can state that Friday is 'all-ages.' Sunday after brunch we are planning to head into Incline Village to watch Sunday football in the hotel sports bar, and gambling for the folks who like to do that. I don't think the kids will be doing that part!
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posted by feb-bride
All in all, it does not sound like the weekend is very kid-friendly. Most parents will see the fact that the ceremony and reception are kid-free, and the fact that the Sunday activity is not for kids, and will decide to either come without their kids or not come at all.
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posted by bebe0315
I think you are right again feb! I will just put as much info on there as possible, and they can decide from there what would be appropriate/convenient for their family.
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posted by suechick
One of my friends sent out a save the date with one page attached that said:
Want to Escape the Wedding for awhile??
Then, they listed events that would be held around the dates: bands, sporting events and comedians on Thursday, since some out-of-towners may come in a night early. They also provided their favortie "lunch spots" for Friday....I thought that was clever, since if people want to make it a mini-vacation they may need to purchase tickets to some events.
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posted by HeatherR
Sue, that's pretty similar to what we did & out of town guests loved it.
Bebe- I did a tri-fold with one 8x10 card stock sheet. The reason I did this is b/c I received a Save the Date that had several thick card-stock pages (3x5) and there was different information on each one. It was tied with a ribbon. It was such a pain in the arse to keep flipping through to find what I needed.
Regardless of how you do it, I think Save the Dates are a must for out of towners, so go for it!
Heather
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posted by feb-bride
Yet again, I have to say I am soooo glad I found this site. I swear, you guys give me the best ideas! I am totally going with the trifold! THANKS!!!
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posted by gymrat
If you are interested, Michael's has tri-fold programs in packs of 50's that have an embossed border (see below) if you want something a little fancier and it goes with your other wedding stuff.
http://www.michaels.com/art/online/d...011&channelid=
There are two others:
A rose though not sure how that would work for a tri-fold:
http://www.michaels.com/art/online/d...ductNum=wd0085
A double heart:
http://www.michaels.com/art/online/d...ductNum=wd0082
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posted by labeadel
The ideas you guys listed sound awesome! My little cards with the hotels only sound lame now!! No really, if you have the patience for it, I would include as much info as possible. People will definitely be impressed, and know they won't be bored while in town!
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posted by HeatherR
labeadel, your guests won't miss what they never had lol! Your Save the Dates will be fine.
Heather
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posted by bebe0315
Hey all!
I am looking for another opinion! I finally have all the info compiled that I want to include on our save the dates. My question is, do the save the dates have to match the invitations? Do I have to print on a similar stationery, or can I use something completely different?
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posted by labeadel
I used something completely different. My Save-the-dates look NOTHING like my invitations. But I believe they should have the same feel. If your invitations are more formal, you should try to keep the save-the-dates formal. All in all, they should still go with the style of wedding.
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posted by HeatherR
Your save the dates should be more casual than your invitations, more conversational from what I was told. Mine were different from my invitations, but they did have the same design and picture as my programs.
Heather
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posted by bebe0315
Thanks again girls - with your input I was able to order my save-the-date stationery last night! Next Saturday will be 6 months exactly, I plan to send them out then. Yay!
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