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Tena · #1 08-11-2006, 03:34 AM

I just have a quick question and I’d like your opinion, please. I am the wedding organizer for a friend. The church they will be married in, the Pastor does not marry with rings. They can wear them, but it won’t be part of the ceremony. The groom asked me what he should do with the bride’s ring in the meantime. Should he still give it to the best man to hold? What does he do with the ring until the ceremony is over?

Thank you very much.

Tena

Robyn Lynn · #2 08-11-2006, 03:47 AM

Will they exchange the rings at the reception, then, in a little ceremony or is he just giving it to her after the ceremony? If he is just giving it to her he can just hold on to it, but if there will be a ceremony he can give it to the best man.

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Tena · #3 08-11-2006, 04:51 AM

Good questions. I will ask them tomorrow. Thank you very much.
Tena

wembley · #4 08-11-2006, 04:57 AM

Maybe they could have either a private moment after they are married to exchange rings or they could do it at the reception and say a few words in front of everyone as they exchange. Either way, it could be a special moment for them rather than just handing them over like it's not a big deal.

Complicated Woman · #5 08-11-2006, 05:20 AM

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Originally Posted by wembley

Maybe they could have either a private moment after they are married to exchange rings or they could do it at the reception and say a few words in front of everyone as they exchange. Either way, it could be a special moment for them rather than just handing them over like it's not a big deal.

Ditto.

justnmary · #6 08-11-2006, 03:14 PM

I thought it was strange at our church that the pastor does not exclaim "you may kiss the bride" (they won't announce it but after they declare you husband and wife you're allowed a quick kiss), but I've never heard of not exchanging rings....can I ask what custom/religion does not exchange rings? Just curious....

Complicated Woman · #7 08-11-2006, 03:20 PM

I'm sure there are others, but I know some conservative Seventh day Adventist churches won't and there are a few independent Holiness churches that won't because they don't believe in displays of wealth like jewelry.

Robyn Lynn · #8 08-11-2006, 03:38 PM

In the Mormon church if you get married in the Temple you don't exchange rings (we usually have a little ceremony at the reception), but if you get married in the church building it is up to you. We did, but all it was was the Bishop said "you may now exchange rings" and we took turns putting them on each other (cute sidebar--- my SIL but the rings in RB's index fingers after taking them off pillow!!). He also told us when to kiss. He said "You may now kiss each other as man and wife". I thought that sounded kinda cool.

555Ann555 · #9 08-11-2006, 07:14 PM

I think I'd have to come up with some little ceremony

I don't think I'd like to be given my wedding ring like you pass someone the remote for the TV

Can I ask what they do do at their ceremony? I'm really curious coz I've never been to a wedding where they haven't...

BTW, our priest didn't announce about our first kiss either, but I already knew he probably wouldn't so Mo & I discussed it & decided to kiss anyway!

But the wedding I went to at the weekend was also a (Scottish) Catholic wedding & they didn't kiss at all because their priest didn't announce it!

I'd be a bit sad if I didn't get the first kiss as the bride...

Mrs.Levitt · #10 08-15-2006, 02:49 PM

They definately need a little special moment. Recieving your ring is a big deal and they should make it special. I agree with ANN dont pass off the rings like its a remote.