who to put a rose?

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posted by Fallbride

I would like to place a rose where my mother should be sitting, but I was going to have someone place it there right before the ceremony begins. Shold I have her first grandchild (my nephew) do it or should I ask my FH's mother to place it there? I thought it would be nice for my nephew but then it would be nice for my FMIL to do that too. I can not have my brothers do that...they are all in the wedding. What do you girls think?

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posted by HeatherR

I think either would be fine, but it may mean just a little more to your family if it was her first grandchild that did it.

Maybe he could come down the aisle holding her hand, and she could walk to the seat with him while he places it there? Or, since it's odd for a child to "escort" an adult, maybe he could walk down with the rose, and she could stand up and then walk over with him?

Just trying to throw out ideas. I'm sorry you even have to think of this Fall.

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posted by 080605bride

I think it would be more meaningful to have her grandchild place the rose.

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posted by Fallbride

I am sorry I should of made it more clear... my mother has passed away 14 years ago, but I always said that there will be a rose sitting where she would of sat.

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posted by Fallbride

My nephew is married now and is about 24 years old. So he is an adult himself. I come from a big family and I am the baby of the group!

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posted by HeatherR

How about if you pull a rose out of your bouquet when you get to the altar, and you place it on her chair?

Sorry for assuming your nephew was a child! If it's not you that does it, then definitely have your nephew do it.

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posted by wedbyjean

I agree that your nephew should be the one to place the rose, as it would hold more meaning to the memory of your mother.

Heather's idea for you to pull a rose from your bouquet is just beautiful!

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posted by Fallbride

I have plans to dedicate my bouquet to her.

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posted by doodlebug1981

Fall, how do you plan on dedicating it to her?

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posted by ljeagle

I think it would be nice for your nephew to place the rose on the seat. I think it would mean more...

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posted by Fallbride

doodlebug1981.... I plan to read a poem at the reception and the day after me and my FH (well husband at that point) will take it up to her site and place it there. I am not having the bouquet toss.

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posted by Marrying the Good Husband

Oh, the tears started to well up with that one! That's beautiful! I'm so sorry fpr your loss. I'm sure it won't be easy for you. I agree with the nephew being more meaningful than your FMIL.

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posted by prunella

I would let the granchild do it

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posted by Cirig

Oh, the tears started to well up with that one!

It must be contagious!

~L

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posted by Fallbride

sorry ladies...did not mean for the tears to start.... I was thinking my MIL only because of the whole "mother" thing.... IF she would put the rose there, it would be her wishing she was here for this and his and mine (including her) will be a big family now. I have no problem with my nephew doing this... I am sure he will do this for me. Some of things that I am doing for my wedding brings tears in my eyes but I am a very emotional person as it is.

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posted by Fallbride

my FH has 2 older boys (16&14) What about them putting the rose there? I am not sure if that is a good idea... since they never met her. I am glad I have time to think of who should do this for me.