Another round of invite situation(s)... - The PASH Wedding Forums and Message Boards

MattandMegan · #1 08-06-2006, 10:50 PM

Should I feel obligated to invite the parents of Bridesmaids? They don't really know anyone else at the wedding, so it would probably be a "Show up, eat, leave" situation. But do they feel left out of seeing their daughter as a bridesmaid? (I'd like to know how bridesmaids have felt about their family being there/not being there, too!) I only know them through their daughter, of course, and they've never really hung out with my family at any events.

A high school friend invited me and my parents to her wedding two years ago... we were unable to go at the last minute. We haven't really talked since high school graduation ('99) until recently because of Myspace and it's ultimate addiction!! Should I feel obligated to invite her and her parents because they invited me?

(I know this is a reptitious topic, so I apologize if these have been answered recently!)

SuzyBride · #2 08-06-2006, 11:14 PM

I invited my BM's parents and when I was a BM my parents were invited, but we were all childhood friends so we were all also close with each others parents. I don't think that you are obligated to invite your BM's parents if you aren't close with them also.

Heather · #3 08-06-2006, 11:16 PM

I only invited the parents of 2 BMs because they were like family to me. I didn't invite the parents of those that I didn't personally know well.

fallbride · #4 08-06-2006, 11:19 PM

I am with Heather on this.

kenzies_mama · #5 08-07-2006, 05:47 AM

I'm haven't decided about inviting the parents of my BM who isn't family yet. But as far as the GM we are only inviting 2 of their parents adn that's because FH and those 2 GM have been friends since he was 7 so their parents did see him grow-up and are very family like.

MattandMegan · #6 08-07-2006, 07:10 AM

Thank goodness most GM's are FH's cousins!! Only one GM isn't a relative and we are not close to his family at all.

One BM is a friend from high school, so i know her parents as a result of the years they had to drive us to and from activities and events during our school years. Another BM is a college friend and I know her parents from hanging out during those college years and visiting her in the summers. The MOH is my sister, so no worries there.

I just feel weird having someone's daughter as my BM and then saying "Your daughter can be a part of my day, but I don't think I know you well enough to have you there." I don't like this situation!!

Complicated Woman · #7 08-07-2006, 03:23 PM

We're not inviting the parents of our BP unless we have relationships with them in our own right. I wouldn't sweat it.

justnmary · #8 08-07-2006, 04:55 PM

Don't lose sleep over it....I'm only inviting 2 sets of parents, one of which is attending to the guest book, so the mom has a job of her own (also they are close friends of the family) the other is being invited because my Matron of Honor with out permission invited HER mother-in-law to my shower (I know her but am not close to her) so I'm obligated to do that one....which I wasn't to happy about but oh well...the more the merrier! NOT.

555Ann555 · #9 08-07-2006, 07:04 PM

I didn't invite any of the parent of the BP who weren't already either of our relatives.

However, we did have 4 of our friend's parents turn up on the day!!!

But (as I covered in another topic) it is fairly normal here for people who know you (and even strangers sometimes!) to turn up at a religious marriage ceremony just so they can see you & wish you well

I was really surprised how many did show up & felt a tiny bit guilty about not inviting them, but we only had 40 guests!

*ahem* please excuse my rambling!

To answer the question, unless you hang out with them regularly or are having an enormous wedding, I wouldn't bother inviting them.

labeadel · #10 08-08-2006, 12:45 AM

I would only invite them if you would invite them aside from their daughter being in the wedding. What if the daughter was just a guest, would you invite them then? I don't think many parents would feel slighted that they didn't get to come watch their daughter be a BM.

MattandMegan · #11 08-08-2006, 04:53 AM

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Originally Posted by labeadel

What if the daughter was just a guest, would you invite them then?

That's a great way to think about it. Probably not!! The high school friend's mom may be investing time into the wedding as a seamstress, but I haven't quite asked her for her services just yet!! But, that's a good indication of whether or not to invite them.