BM's jewelry - The PASH Wedding Forums and Message Boards

ldwright54 · #1 08-06-2006, 02:18 AM

I am getting married October 2006 and I'm trying to make it through this event as close to budget as possible and less out of pocket expensive for the BM's (7). I've already had a battle with my future MIL over their shoes, she thinks everyone's shoes should match the dresses (claret red) and I think black will be fine. She now thinks they should all wear matching jewelry. I couldn't care less if their jewelry matches or even if they wear jewelry. What do you think?

SuzyBride · #2 08-06-2006, 02:24 AM

If you don't care then you should tell the BM's to wear or don't wear whatever they want!! You are the bride and if you don't care then your MIL shouldn't either. Tell her that if she's that worried about it then she can purchase matching jewelry for all the girls!

sparklesweetie · #3 08-06-2006, 03:09 AM

What Suzy said. My BMs had navy blue for their dresses, and I left it up to them whether they wanted to wear black or get shoes dyed (two of them had some from a previous wedding). They all had on black....personally, black makes more sense b/c you're more likely to wear them. Anywhoo, same went for the jewelry. I left it up to them what they did or did not wear, and it looked fine.

Do what you want, it is your wedding, not your MIL's.

deputysgurl · #4 08-06-2006, 05:14 AM

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Originally Posted by sparklesweetie

Do what you want, it is your wedding, not your MIL's.

I totally agree with this statement. I gave the girls jewelry for their BM gifts, but they were all different. Their shoes were all different, all white but different styles. Go with what you want girl.

555Ann555 · #5 08-06-2006, 07:43 PM

I think black shoes would be fine.

Do you have a Claire's in your area? I know that Claire's almost always have pretty, black jewellery and that would help tie it all together. And It's not expensive either.

Can I ask a kind of rude question though? (and feel free not to answer coz I know it's not really any of my business) but why did you choose to have 7 BMs when you have to stick to a budget?

labeadel · #6 08-08-2006, 01:04 AM

If you don't care about shoes and/or jewelry matching, then just tell the girls what you'd kind of like them to wear, and forget about it! I bought my girls their jewelry from Target (as one of their gifts) and they each wore their own shoes. I only asked that they wear black strappy shoes. It looked cool that they weren't 100% identical, IMO.

bridalbonnie · #7 08-28-2006, 02:24 PM

I think that it is your wedding, you should do what you want. I've been in several weddings where the bride had the same opinion as yours and everything worked out fine. It sounds like your MIL needs to pick her battles a little bit more wisely. Is it really worth it to her to fight over something as silly as jewelry when it is not even an issue with you at all...

feb-bride · #8 08-29-2006, 04:25 PM

Honestly, I am NOT a fan of having all of the bridesmaids wear matching jewelry, especially if you are making this their gift for being in the wedding. Everyone has different tastes in jewelry. I was in one wedding (for my best friend) where matching necklaces/earrings were the bridesmaids' gifts for being in the wedding. I only wore that jewelry ONE TIME - at the wedding. I never wore it again because it was totally not my style.

As for the shoes - there's nothing wrong with having the bridesmaids wear black shoes because it's not like black will clash. My bridesmaids did wear dye-to-match shoes, but they didn't mind the expense ($35 per pair) because I paid for the dresses.

justnmary · #9 08-29-2006, 05:40 PM

In my wedding, all the girls wore what shoes they chose: 3 wore slippers, 2 wore black everyday pumps and one spent the extra money at David's Bridal and wore a fancier style dress shoe....they all looked fine, especially since they all wore floor length gowns....whose going to see them anyway? As for jewelry...that's totally up to you...I bought the 3 younger girls matching chokers that they could wear again, and I bought the 3 older girls the same necklace from Lia Sophia that they could wear with a casual outfit or something more eleborate. They all loved them and I made it very clear to them at rehearsal that I did not expected them to wear them for the wedding if they had already picked something else to wear, only if they so chose to wear it....so I think you should just tell your FMIL that it has been taken care of and she should not let it bother her.....good luck!

Julz518 · #10 08-29-2006, 07:10 PM

I think it is totally fine to let the girls get their own shoes & jewelry - anything I've ever been given/bought for a wedding I've never worn again (except for the cute silver heart necklace I got 20 years ago when I was a flower girl in my sisters wedding - I wear it all the time now!)

However, if you want to compromise with your MIL, you may want to just request that IF your BMs want to wear jewelry that they all wear a specified type - like pearls, or simple silver or gold neckalces, or an accent color. That way they can wear what they have or go buy soemthing if they want.

And if your MIL still makes a fuss, by all means let her spend her money on their matching jewelry!