fmil wants me to write 3 positive qualitites about her and im stuck! - The PASH Wedding Forums and Message Boards

mommy03bride · #1 08-03-2006, 06:31 PM

Im sorry if I posted this in the wrong place. Im kinda in a bind and I need help. First off im really not good with words sometimes especially when im put on the spot. my fmil and i have had are differences but she is a great person. i just hate when she butts in which is a lot. anyhow she called me and told me not asked me but told me that me and her son have to write 3 positive qualities about her and give it to her tonight. oh and thats 3 each. okay so im stuck! i know that sucks. she helps people on a everyday basis. i mean thats her job she works in a rehab and helps people with drug problems. she is a very caring person but i have to put these in sentences. any suggestions??????

TheaterDiva1 · #2 08-03-2006, 06:47 PM

Okay, I have to ask... what kind of person tells someone to write stuff about them like that?!? I mean, is she in desparate need of an ego boost or what? And if she's soliciting compliments, how sincere would they be anyway - should that be doe voluntarily?

Sorry - I'm just trying to grasp this concept. I know - I'm not being much help, am I?

mommy03bride · #3 08-03-2006, 06:56 PM

im sorry i didnt explain. its for some class she taking. but i do feel the same way. i think she should had called me and told me about it and if i volunteer then okay but no she left me a message and told me that we needed to do it. my fh called her and told him he needed more time

i really dont know what to write. everytime i start thinking about it i want to put she is a pain in my a$$, but i cant.

555Ann555 · #4 08-03-2006, 07:18 PM

You could always use these:

1 She is incredibly forward. She has no problem in demanding what she thinks is her due.
2 She can delegate well.
3 She is very clear on what she wants.

Clarity · #5 08-03-2006, 07:27 PM

Assertive, take charge, and domineering come to mind.

breezy · #6 08-03-2006, 07:29 PM

Something about her care and caring of others as is revealed by her job.
What kind of mother she was/is to produce the love of your life.

AshyBekka · #7 08-03-2006, 09:45 PM

HAHAHAHA-you girls are hysterical! That was a definite LOL!

mommy03bride · #8 08-03-2006, 09:59 PM

well she called me again and left a message. she wants to know if i have my 3 things written down. so i called her back and asked her can they just be the word or do i have to put them in a sentence. so this is what i came up with.................
1. pushing
2. nosey
3. pain in my a$$

okay okay i know i have to be nice cause she is going to be my fmil so i guess im just kidding........ i put down loving, caring, and intelligent. with my luck when she comes over my house tonight she will probably want me to put them in sentences, and then i will be back to square one again. she really is a nice lady sometimes but she just gets on my nerves with she trys to be so damn pushing and pops over my house without letting us know okay im going to stop cause i can go on for days with why she bugs me so much.

SuzyBride · #9 08-03-2006, 10:45 PM

Ok, this may be a stretch!

1. She is patient. Working in rehab you have to be patient. Substance abuse is cyclic. She probably sees the same people over and over again because they keep screwing up and still helps them. Trust me, I'm in rehab also and you will not survive in the field if you aren't patient.

2. She is caring. She wouldn't butt into your life if she didn't care. She is always concerned about those around her and is interested in the details of their lives.

3. She is motivated. You said she is doing this for a class and I am assuming that she is not the traditional age for a college student. I think it takes a great deal of motivation and determination for someone to return to academia later in life.

Hope that helps some!

555Ann555 · #10 08-03-2006, 10:53 PM

Well done Suzy!

I'd totally steal those! You may even earn some brownie points with those!

Heather · #11 08-03-2006, 11:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 555Ann555

You could always use these:

1 She is incredibly forward. She has no problem in demanding what she thinks is her due.
2 She can delegate well.
3 She is very clear on what she wants.

Ann you're too funny.

It's hard to think of something when you don't know personally know the woman. I would maybe talk about how she raised your FH, is open to having a daughter and her ability to help people in her profession.

Oh - Just scrolled down to see Suzy's - use those.

Kim&Bob2004 · #12 08-03-2006, 11:45 PM

Ann and Gertie!!

How about:

A wonderful, caring and loving mother and friend. She cares about those she loves and wants to help them, it's not just a passing thing but she feels like it is her duty, what she was created for. People are better for having her in their life.

She is a go getter. She sets her mind to something and makes sure it gets done and done right.

She is intelligent. She doesn't give up, even when things might be difficult to attain. her perseverance in the face of adversity is remarkable.

DragonYoga · #13 08-11-2006, 12:53 PM

Hey Mommy, I want an update! What did you finally decide for the 3 things???