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Marge129 · #1 07-28-2006, 02:23 AM

I've mentioned before that Jerry's ENTIRE extended family lives within a 30 mile radius. Every holiday, event, etc everyone gets together for one big celebration.

To the point... Jerry's sister just called me. She wanted to know how to find a registry online. When I asked her what for, she said "M's" shower. I asked what shower? Well... apparently Jerry's cousin is getting married in August and her bridal shower is this weekend. SIL assumed I was invited, but I wasn't.

I don't get it. I was invited to her sister's shower, and I went. I've gone to every family event since then. She was invited to my baby shower. She couldn't make it, but she sent a gift. So, why wasn't I invited to her shower? Every other woman in the family will be there... except me.

And Jerry wonders why I feel like an outcast in his family.

ljeagle · #2 07-28-2006, 02:26 AM

Maybe it got lost in the mail? My oldest sister sent me a b-day card and it's posted on the 17th I got it in my box today.

michaelsbride · #3 07-28-2006, 02:28 AM

It sucks to not be invited and to know everyone else was... i suggest just giving her a call... it could be like lj said... or maybe the sister can probe for you!

Heather · #4 07-28-2006, 02:54 AM

Send her a gift and make her feel guilty as hell.

Seriously, I wait a bit. It is very possible you just haven't received it yet, or it could be a simple oversight. If you've gone to every other event then it could be an honest mistake.

michaelsbride · #5 07-28-2006, 03:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Heather

Send her a gift and make her feel guilty as hell.

Seriously, I wait a bit. It is very possible you just haven't received it yet, or it could be a simple oversight. If you've gone to every other event then it could be an honest mistake.

yeah but the shower is this weekend... if she waits she may not get to attend if it was just lost in the mail or something... shouldnt she clear it up so maybe she can still attend (if ya want to of course margie)

mommy03bride · #6 07-28-2006, 03:05 AM

marge

, i really agree with the other girls on this. either it got lost in the mail or maybe with stress and everything it slip her mind. i dont think she meant to not invite u. we all know how stress gets the best of us and sometimes makes u forget certain people or things. if she didnt send u a gift for your shower then i would think diffenently. so either call her or just send her a gift.

mommy03bride · #7 07-28-2006, 03:05 AM

marge

, i really agree with the other girls on this. either it got lost in the mail or maybe with stress and everything it slip her mind. i dont think she meant to not invite u. we all know how stress gets the best of us and sometimes makes u forget certain people or things. if she didnt send u a gift for your shower then i would think diffenently. so either call her or ask the sister if u could just go with her.

Complicated Woman · #8 07-28-2006, 04:53 AM

I'll bet it was just an oversight.

Robyn Lynn · #9 07-28-2006, 04:58 AM

Hopefully it was an oversight and SIL will mention something and they will call you.

A few years ago my mom and I did not receive an invitation to a cousin's wedding. I feel in my heart to this day that the mailman accidentally delivered to our next door neighbors that we had problems with and they threw it out!! I know my cousin didn't mean to slight us (especially since we were invited to the shower!!)

Have wedding invites gone out yet? If you don't get one of those, then there may be a problem(or, maybe they have your address wrong!!)

kenzies_mama · #10 07-28-2006, 05:25 AM

Hopefully it's something with the mail, it seems to be pretty screwy lately. Several of my bill payments have taken like 25 days to post! Also for Mothers day I sent my grandmother something and recieved it back like 2 weeks later, I had messed up the zipcode or something.

I'll bet it's jsut an insight I don't know why they'd nto include you on purpose.

Marge129 · #11 07-28-2006, 01:54 PM

I talked to my SIL again. She called the MOH (also Bride's sister) right after we hung up. Apparently, the MOB took care of sending out the invites for the shower. The MOH said I can come to the shower if I want to (I already have plans to have a garage sale with my neighbor this weekend) and that I'm on the invite list for the bachelorette party.... which I won't be able to go to cause I'll be OOT.

We haven't gotten our wedding invite yet either, but neither has my SIL. She asked the MOH when they'd be sent and she said the bride sent them this week. If I don't get it soon I'll have Jerry call one of them.

So it turns out it was a mistake. I'm sure my MIL and SIL will make my MIL's sister feel crappy about it.

Lizbet · #12 07-28-2006, 02:45 PM

See everything's hunky dory!!

Just an honest mistake.

labeadel · #13 07-28-2006, 06:42 PM

I'm so glad you weren't left off on purpose.