How do I ask my BMs? GMs?

[Julz518]

Does anyone have any creative ways to ask your MOHs/BMs to be your MOHs/BMs? I live relatively close to mine and see them all regularly, so I can do it in person, but I'd like ideas for sedning them soemthing too.

Also, has anyone heard of Groom's doing this for the GMs? I can't really see my FH being that cheesy, but I'll feel bad getting "my girls" something and not "his guys"... Any suggestions? He doesn't live anywhere near them and doesn't see them but once a year (or less - one lives in England), so taking them all on a sports outing is out of the question, and that's the only idea I have...

Thanks in advance!

[feb-bride]

I posted this in another thread today, so this is a cut-and-paste:

The way I asked my best friend was to take her to one of those free bridal fairs at the mall. We had plans to go out to lunch (she didn't even know I was engaged yet; she just knew that I had something "important" to tell her). She picked me up at my house. I put my engagement ring in my pocket because I knew she'd look at my finger (which she did because I caught her). I told her that I needed to stop by the mall first to pick up something. We got to the mall, and while we were walking in from the parking lot, I put my hand in my pocket and worked the ring back on my finger. When we got in the mall, she commented on the fact that a bridal fair was in progress. I said, "I know" and pulled my hand out of my pocket to show her the ring. That's when I asked her to be in my wedding.

No ideas on how to ask GMs; my husband didn't do anything special.

[Lizbet]

I didn't do anything special. I just up and asked. Same for DH. We're not very creative.

[Kim&Bob2004]

Originally Posted by Lizbet

I didn't do anything special. I just up and asked. Same for DH. We're not very creative.

Me too.....

[ladedah]

All of my BM had been my friends for years and years and years, so I had some really old funny pictures of each of us together...so I got them a wooden frame that had girlfriends forever engraved into the wood and put our picture in it...on the back of the photo I wrote a note to each of them telling them exactly what they had meant in my life and in the relationship between me and my now husband and how honored I would be for them to stand next to me on my wedding day...so the back is now covered right?...I went to Wal-Mart and bought a whole bunch of different kinds of mints...I put the frame in the bottom of a mailing box with a post it note that said "Our Friendship was "mint" to be, now please be a "mint" and look at the back of our Photo....

then I packed the box with Mints and mailed it to them, every single one of them called me laughing and crying at the same time...it was fun. And still they tell me that sometimes they open the back of the frame and just read the note...


The Groomsmen, however, I have not a clue.

[Heather]

I just posted this in another thread...

My friend asked me to be her MOH by giving me a handmade card with the following poem inside:

You welcomed me with open arms
When I was strange and new.
A smile so warm and so sincere,
Caring, trusting and true.

A friendship would blossom
With each passing day.
Growing stronger and brighter
In many a way.

Engaged am I now
To be married at last.
And for you, Heather, I have
A special question to ask.

When Fall 2006 is here
And I will be a blushing bride.
Would you do me the great honor
Of being on my side?

ETA: She did the same for the BMs, just put "As being a maid on my side?" Or maybe she wrote Bridesmaid, can't remember...

[SuzyBride]

My MOH was my SIL and just up and asked her. She was so shocked and excited that she started crying! My 15 year old sis was a BM and I just said 'alright girl, you gotta help me pick out the BM dresses, which one do you want to wear?' I didn't ask my two best friends! They already knew they would be BMs, we'd talked about it before. They just jumped in and started helping and planning showers and stuff!

[555Ann555]

My asking was terrible We were on a girl's night out with a group of friends when my MOH asked who I was thinking of for my BMs... She thought I'd choose family, so it's not like she was hinting for the job! But I had about 2 seconds to decide whether to ask her in front of everyone, which wasn't very fair, or the lie & say I hadn't considered it, or was thinking of someone else... So I blurted it out in front of everyone

I was a little more creative for the FGs. I make a lot of home made stationary, so I made them each a little "will you be my flowergirl card" They're only 8+9 yrs, so it's not like they normally get a lot of mail!

We didn't do anything creative for the guys...

[labeadel]

I'm an "ask in person or over the phone" kind of person. I wanted to personally ask them to do me the honor of standing next to me on that day.

I don't know that guys would really go for something like what some ladies have posted. I would just leave that up to your FH.

[michaelsbride]

lol ya know... we're two months away from our wedding and i dont think michael has asked his groomsmen yet lol... he said they know and would be there no matter what anyway so when we get their rsvp he might call em up and mention to show up in a black suit. MEN!

[ljeagle]

Originally Posted by michaelsbride

lol ya know... we're two months away from our wedding and i dont think michael has asked his groomsmen yet lol... he said they know and would be there no matter what anyway so when we get their rsvp he might call em up and mention to show up in a black suit. MEN!

You sure you are not talking about my DH! My girls new so there was no need in asking.

[Marge129]

Do you REALLY feel the need to ask me?

[Complicated Woman]

We just asked our friends pretty straight out. But it worked, they all said yes!

[555Ann555]

Originally Posted by Marge129

Do you REALLY feel the need to ask me?