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DavidsWife · #1 07-26-2006, 04:05 PM

Hey Everyone,

Sorry if Iam posting in the wrong spot...But I cannot think of anywhere else this should go...

As some of you know, I have found my wedding dress (Very exciting). The thing is...David and I have not yet finalized a wedding date (Almost POSITIVE it will be next summer ***Hopefully August***. My Dad did tell me that he did not want to buy the dress until the day has been finalized...

I was wondering, How far in advance should I be buying my dress (After the date has been picked)???

Please keep in mind the dress is hand made and takes approximatly 6months to be made. This is not including alterations. That is done once I have recieved the dress???

Thanks for all of your help ladies!!! It means alot...

Jayme

Marge129 · #2 07-26-2006, 04:09 PM

I ordered my dress 6 months ahead of time. Ask the people that you are ordering from... they'll be able to tell you exactly how far in advance you need to place your order.

DavidsWife · #3 07-26-2006, 04:13 PM

Yeah, 6months is what they told me which is GREAT!!!

The only thing that I continue to struggle with is... David and I said we would NOT PICK A DATE Until March '07. This is means August may NOT be an option....LOL

Sh@ks18 · #4 07-26-2006, 04:28 PM

I just went through wedding planning and the best advice i can give you is: DO NOT tell the salespeople your EXACT wedding date. Always tell them a date 1 month before the wedding.

My SIL dress supposedly came in 3 weeks before the wedding and they couldnt schedule her fitting for a week and a half in advance, then when she got there, they told her alterations will be minimum $350 depending on what needs to be done, so there she goes trying to find a cheaper seamstress a week before the wedding. So make sure you dont run into unnecessary stress.

AshyBekka · #5 07-26-2006, 04:30 PM

Welll-I found my perfect wedding dress last October, which will have been a full year before our wedding this upcoming November. I haven't once regretted my decision-and it was such a great deal I couldn't wait! Make sure you allow yourself enough time, but even without settling on a date, if you found "the one" I don't see any problem with ordering, especially if it will take six months from the time you order. But I also don't think you're in any danger of running out of time, so I guess it's up to you!

Lizbet · #6 07-26-2006, 04:36 PM

Maybe if you explain to your Dad that you have the dilemma of needing to order the dress earlier so that it will be ready in time for your "most likely" choice of wedding dates, he will go ahead and allow you to order sooner.

SuzyBride · #7 07-26-2006, 05:48 PM

Maybe you already mentioned this somewhere else and I missed it or don't remember, but why are not picking a date until March 07? Can't you at least decide what season (fall, winter, etc) or even narrow it down to a timeframe of a certain few months? At least that way you could start thinking about different things.

555Ann555 · #8 07-26-2006, 05:55 PM

Suzy: The post is here...

They agreed not to discuss it till after their schooling is finished...

On the dress issue, I'd leave it for now. You'll only freak out your FH again if you tell him you've ordered your dress. I don't think it'd be worth the hassle it'd probably cause

SuzyBride · #9 07-26-2006, 06:13 PM

Oh, I remember that thread! But I skimmed through it again and couldn't find anything about waiting until schooling is finished.. Maybe I am losing it....

I don't know, I guess I just see things differently. I totally respect the decision you have made to wait to decide on the date, but its seriously holding you back IMHO. You need to book the church because there is usually a 1-2 year waiting period as was mentioned in the thread Ann posted a link to, you have found your dress, but can't do anything about it.. To me it just seems like the options are A) don't not think about or plan any of it until you have a date set so that you can actully move forward and maybe have to wait longer to get married in order to get the things you really want, or B) go ahead a get somewhat of a rough timeframe so that you can start doing things that you want and need to do so that you do get to have everything you really want. It just seems that right now your hands are completely tied.. And if you can't decide or even discuss a date until March and want to get married in August, then that really puts getting the dress you want in jeopardy. I hope you can get all of this figured out...

PS - I don't mean to be a downer, but I just wanted to offer a different outlook!

wembley · #10 07-26-2006, 06:59 PM

Would it be possible to set a date now so you can do things like get the dress and the church and then wait for the other things until March? I agree with Suzy that it sounds like you are stuck right now and if you wait you will probably have different options available to you. It's a good chance that you won't have the options that it sounds like you want. It can still be beautiful, just maybe not in this church and in this dress.

michaelsbride · #11 07-26-2006, 10:18 PM

Honestly i think if she sets a date and books a church (meaning no offence to you at all because i would do the same) it would be hard holding back on doing all of the other wedding stuff too... i remember last january, i said i was gonna wait till after school was over to start doing wedding stuff... TOTALLY didnt happen to the point i started blowing off school stuff so i could work on wedding tasks. If her and FH have an agreement, i think she should try to stick to that... if the dress has to be made anyway, and if shes looking at august, perhaps in january she can approach fh about it being started since its almost time for them to discuss the wedding stuff anyway.

Kim&Bob2004 · #12 07-27-2006, 12:53 AM

Yeah in Jan or Feb it should be close enough that FH doesn't mind discussing a date. If he still has a cow, find out why. Or at least I would be finding out why a few weeks before March 1 he is still upset to be talking dates. Bob left all the date thing to me because I knew about the church and how soon I could get it done. I just made sure I talked about the possible dates with him. Bob's feelings are that the wedding is all about what the bride dreams of. I guess men don't dream as little boys about their wedding day.....

go figure....

DavidsWife · #13 07-27-2006, 03:15 AM

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Originally Posted by michaelsbride

... if the dress has to be made anyway, and if shes looking at august, perhaps in january she can approach fh about it being started since its almost time for them to discuss the wedding stuff anyway.

LOL, It's amazing how those sorts of idea's slip my mind!!! What an awesome suggestions!!!! Thank-you so much! And this is DEFFINATLEY something I will do!!!
I do not want to put pressure on Dave! He wants to enjoy being engaged, and I get that!
I want him to be relaxed about the whole things and not discuss dates until Marchish!!!!

Thanks everyone! You guys are amazing!!!