| Pre-Wedding Parties! From Engagement Parties, Bridal Showers, Bachelorette Parties, to Rehearsal Dinners - discuss them all here. |
07-18-2006, 04:54 PM
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Who to invite to the Engagement Party?
I was wondering if it is ok to invite people to the engagement party who may not be invited to the wedding? My wedding is 2 years away, so I am far from finalizing the guest list, but my engagement party is August 19th. We had already planned to have a party that weekend before we got engaged, so it's really more of an engagement/housewarming/meteor shower viewing party. We've tried to make it clear that it's a casual get-together/BBQ and we don't expect gifts or anything.
So far the EP guest list is mainly my fiance's family, which ALL live in the area (my family does not), and a few of our friends from HS and college. I would like to invite some of my co-workers, but I have no idea which, if any co-workers I would invite to the wedding (depends how much it costs). I've only been at my job for a year and I'm still developing relationships at work, and I think this would be a good chance to get to know some of them better.
So do I invite them or not? I also live an hour from our office, so it might not be likely that they'd come.
Thanks in advance for the input!
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07-18-2006, 05:03 PM
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I wouldn't invite anyone not invited to the wedding. (Gifts aren't required or expected for an engagement party anyway.)
In light of your situation, I wouldn't even call it an engagement party - just call it a housewarming and invite whomever you would like.
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07-18-2006, 05:05 PM
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You are only supposed to invite people to pre-wedding parties if you are going to invite them to the wedding. The only exception is if co-workers host a bridal shower for you.
If you want to invite people who are not being invited to the wedding, I would not call it an engagement party. I would just call it a party or a housewarming (if you recently moved into the house).
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07-18-2006, 05:38 PM
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In light of your situation, I wouldn't even call it an engagement party - just call it a housewarming and invite whomever you would like.
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Agreed 
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07-18-2006, 06:06 PM
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Your e-vite calls your party a "Summer Bash" not an engagement party, so I wouldn't worry about it.
By the way... didn't you and I already have this conversation? Or at least something similar? 
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07-18-2006, 09:49 PM
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Originally Posted by Marge129
Your e-vite calls your party a "Summer Bash" not an engagement party, so I wouldn't worry about it.
By the way... didn't you and I already have this conversation? Or at least something similar? |
Maybe she didn't like your advice 
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07-18-2006, 09:51 PM
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Maybe she didn't like your advice
Just kiddin!! |
Or maybe she wanted to make sure that you knew what you're talking about!
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07-18-2006, 09:55 PM
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Marge - I don't remember discussing inviting my co-workers with you... I haven't even talked to Rick about it yet (not that he'll care :-P)... but maybe I did, I don't know.
I guess I'll invite a few of them, if only to have people on "my side" at the party :-P One of the girl's bf's is from Wheeling, so they may make the trip at least.
Thanks for all the advice!
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07-18-2006, 10:34 PM
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I would invite whoever.. I mean your wedding is 2 years away.. And, you don't even know who you are going to invite to the wedding yet, or how many you will be able to invite due to location size, etc. But, I have never claimed to be ettiqutely correct either!! 
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07-18-2006, 10:39 PM
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Originally Posted by Julz518
Marge - I don't remember discussing inviting my co-workers with you... I haven't even talked to Rick about it yet (not that he'll care :-P)... but maybe I did, I don't know.
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No... not that... we discussed that only people invited to the wedding should be invited to any pre-wedding parties. Remember the eloping conversation??? 
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07-19-2006, 02:02 AM
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David and I are also having an engagement party, July 22 (This Saturday) We are only inviting people we would have at our wedding and or reception...LOL, and we do not have a date picked yet! We just knew who we would and would not invite... Family and close friends
It's really your call though, Like you said it's sorta a 3-in-one deal...So you can do whatever you want...Plus your wedding is not for 2 years....
GOOD LUCK!!!
Let us know how it goes!!!
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