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mommy03bride · #1 07-05-2006, 10:32 PM

need to no if anyone has done/plan on doing this. well i have 2 other kids from my ex. my fiance loves them like his own and he wants to include them in the wedding. there already going to be junior bridemaids. they will be 13 and 11 will anyway he was talking with his mom and she brought up that after we are done at the church he could turn to them and read some vows to them. i thought it was so sweet that he wants to do this. he went online to read more about it, but i want to c if anyone has done it yet.

555Ann555 · #2 07-05-2006, 11:29 PM

Breezy is having a sand blending ceremony representing the blending of their two families... Breezy you out there???

breezy · #3 07-06-2006, 12:02 AM

Our wedding hasn't happened yet, so we haven't done this... but this is our plan and our vows.

We plan on having a sand blending ceremony to blend and bind our family together. Because we want a quick wedding ceremony (and are required to have a quick ceremony due to use of public beach) we decided to do this as one of the 1st things at the ceremony. My best girl friend is officiating

To be done at reception.

Officiant will say:
Today, you have not only committed your love to one another, but to your children as well. Today you are promising to love and support Kacie, Julianna and Samantha. They have watched your love grow from the start. As adults you both have shown them that love can and does work. Today you bind not only your own union as Husband and Wife but you unite your families together as one.

SAND BLENDING:

Each of you holds a separate container of sand representing your lives to this moment.

Each container holds it's own unique beauty, strength, and character. Each can stand on it's own and be whole, without need of anything else.

However when they are blended together they create and entirely new and extraordinarily more intricate entity.

Each grain of sand brings to the mixture a lasting beauty and forever enriches the combination.
Please pour your sand into the (this?) common container to symbolize your union as a family.

As each container of sand is poured into the family's container, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one.

Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so will become the bond with your family.

FAMILY VOWS: (Alan and I's to the girls) I will say line 1, then Alan will say line 2 and then the 3rd line we say in unison.

Each of you are preciouse to us both, and today we promise to be there for you always.
To comfort you and care for you, to protect you and provide for you.
We each promise to guide you and listen to you and most of all to love you with all of our hearts from this day forth as a loving family.

555Ann555 · #4 07-06-2006, 03:26 PM

I'd be crying my eyes out at those vows!

mommy03bride · #5 07-06-2006, 03:33 PM

awww breezy that is going to be so sweet, like ann said i would be crying my eyes out as well.

were having a church wedding. i think he wants to say his vows to the girls in front of the father. i talk to my daughters about it yesterday and they got all excited. i asked them do you want to say something to junior as well (only cause i dont want to make them, i want them to want to do it) and they both said yes. im so proud of them.

i no im going to be crying the whole time

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Lizbet · #6 07-06-2006, 03:57 PM

That's so sweet that they want to be involved.

555Ann555 · #7 07-06-2006, 03:58 PM

Yeah, you'll need a whole box of tissues

DragonYoga · #8 07-06-2006, 04:31 PM

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Originally Posted by 555Ann555

Yeah, you'll need a whole box of tissues

JUST one, Ann???? Here - Here's a small hill of boxes of tissues!

breezy · #9 07-06-2006, 05:39 PM

Tissue is manditory. I was out yesterday with another Mom, her hubby is step dad to her oldest. We were looking at their wedding pics, her hubby exchanged bracelets with the oldest and vows.... HE was bawling through the whole thing.

I know I'm going to bawl... the whole thing means so much to me. It makes me cry just to read it. It really is how I feel. Our family has been intact for so long, but for some reason this is the cement *to me*.

You can do a search for "family vows" or "blended weddings" and see what inspiration you get

syringa · #10 07-07-2006, 12:25 AM

I have had couples who shared a family medallion or another memento with the children during the ceremony. It is really touching. After the bride and groom exchange vows and rings the children are called forward. Then, the new parent presents them with the medallion or other item and reads a vow to them. Family medallions can be purchased at www.familymedallion.com.

michaelsbride · #11 07-07-2006, 02:10 AM

my parents gave my brother and i each a medallion at their wedding... we both still have them tucked away very safely.

555Ann555 · #12 07-07-2006, 10:20 PM

Oh MTGH was doing something along those lines except her kids weren't too keen on those actual medalions so the two kids each got a chain with a pendant that had three things (I think one was 3 dolphins) that represented the new parents & the child... Though I guess if you were doing 3s they could also represnt the past, present & future to help the child understand that just because things are changing doesn't mean they have to give up who they were...

AngelRoseFyre · #13 07-13-2006, 05:39 AM

We are planning on using the family medallion as well. I think we may do some sort of vows to my son, even though he is mine and Ian is the step-parent, I still think we may both say a little something. It will have to be short and sweet since he will only be 5 years old when we get married. Is it ok for the parent of the child to say a little vow along with the step-parent?

555Ann555 · #14 07-13-2006, 12:47 PM

I would think so. It would be kind of whole new family vows, rather than just the step parent... Actually, I could be wrong, but I thought the natural parent had something to say in all of the options Breezy posted.

AngelRoseFyre · #15 07-13-2006, 04:04 PM

Are all three of the kids Breezys kids, or is it a mix between hers and her FH's? I was thinking, for some reason, that at least 1 of them was his, so it was a mixing of vows (between both parents and both step-parents). It is VERY possible though, that I am mistaken. In which case I apologize

In my case there is only my son, Ian doesn't have any of his own . . . Yet

Complicated Woman · #16 07-13-2006, 05:07 PM

Breezy is the step-mom (to be) to two girls, I think. I don't think she has any bio-kids.
(Breezy?)

breezy · #17 07-14-2006, 07:22 PM

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Originally Posted by AngelRoseFyre

Are all three of the kids Breezys kids, or is it a mix between hers and her FH's? I was thinking, for some reason, that at least 1 of them was his, so it was a mixing of vows (between both parents and both step-parents). It is VERY possible though, that I am mistaken. In which case I apologize

In my case there is only my son, Ian doesn't have any of his own . . . Yet

None are my bio childern. All three are all his by DNA!

CMK · #18 09-07-2006, 03:20 AM

My dad divorced my mom & remarried another woman when my sister & I were teenagers. We were Jr. Bridesmaids, along with my new 3 step-sisters. (Ya, LOTS of girls in our house!) We had similar "Family Vows" after they said their marriage vows. We were also each presented with a ring with our own birthstone in it. Our ring bands were all made from the gold that was melted from our parent's old wedding rings- they sure weren't wearing them anymore but couldn't bring themselves to sell it. I still cherish the ring & wear it often because it's made of something that symbolized my old & my new family dynamic, and was personalized for each of us. Plus, with 5 teenage girls in the house, it was great that each ring had a different stone cause we would've fought big time if they were the someone misplaced one & tried to take someone else's! :0)

AngelRoseFyre · #19 10-06-2006, 05:05 AM

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Originally Posted by wilford

I was really amazed as I saw my wife-to-be walking along the aisles of the church..She's so gorgeous..Wow, I can't believe that she'll look that way..It was like a fairy tale..I thought I was dreaming that time..

I think he's a bot. If you guys notice, most if his post either make no sence or they have have no relevance to the post, and he never reponds to any of our insults. hmmmmmm

DragonYoga · #20 10-06-2006, 02:46 PM

He probably is a bot, look at his links.

Leslee&Jake · #21 10-07-2006, 05:03 PM

I think it is very important to include the kids. Any way possible. When my dad got remarried we were just in the wedding party. they didnt include us in the ceremony, we were all kinda hurt by this!