"Unity" Roses? - The PASH Wedding Forums and Message Boards

DragonYoga · #1 07-05-2006, 06:45 PM

I was discussing this with my MoH a few days ago. Y'all know that my wedding is mostly chocolate themed, and I also want roses in it as an accent.

Anyway, here's the thing: Outdoors wedding, bad idea for unity candles and sand blendings. Those are too..."traditional" for me anyway! So here's the idea to do instead: Take a rose plant and have it displayed on the altar. When it's time to symbolically show our union, we each take a glass of water that's been dyed a color, like blue and yellow and pour it together into the pot. Hopefully this will turn the roses green... What do you girls think? Doable?

Marge129 · #2 07-05-2006, 06:54 PM

Are you sure the rose would change color? Somehow I just don't see it working properly.

DragonYoga · #3 07-05-2006, 06:55 PM

If they were pre-cut and in a vase, maybe? MoH is convinced it will work because the colored water will be sucked up by the roots and it's supposed to change the color of the petals

555Ann555 · #4 07-05-2006, 06:56 PM

I think it'd take hours for the roses to soak up the dye, sorry!

Marge129 · #5 07-05-2006, 07:00 PM

That's exactly what I was thinking, Ann.

555Ann555 · #6 07-05-2006, 07:10 PM

Yeah

When I was little my mum let me dye some of those big daisies, and they took days to change colour... It was hours before ever the tips of the petals changed.

Sorry DJ!

ljeagle · #7 07-05-2006, 07:28 PM

I agree with the others it's going to take days for the rose to change colors and then you don't know if its going to change the color u want.

DragonYoga · #8 07-05-2006, 07:39 PM

HMMM. I'm glad I brought this up on here! I guess I won't do this then... OR do something symbolic at the reception?

555Ann555 · #9 07-05-2006, 07:43 PM

I'm trying to think up other "blending" options that are a little more unusal...

Wine maybe? One goblet of red, one of white... Blended together to make a rose wine (and before you write in I know this isn't really how you make rose wine

) but it would be symbolic, plus you wouldn't be left with any knick-knacks that you didn't have house room for.

ETA: Do you really need to have a symbolic joining of lives? Surely the fact that you are actually combining your lives is powerful enough without your guests needing an visual aid?!

TheaterDiva1 · #10 07-05-2006, 09:15 PM

I would just get a couple of small bouquets, each representing your families. Then you each take one rose from your respective bouquet and put them together in a smaller vase (that's what I thought this was when I saw the thread title).

ljeagle · #11 07-05-2006, 10:39 PM

There is also a rose ceremony you can add to the wedding. I think it stands for the first gift you share as H & W.

555Ann555 · #12 07-05-2006, 11:27 PM

Oh I'm sure Michael'sbride is doing that one (I hope I got the right person there)...

You have a bud vase that you use to unite the two flowers during the ceremony, then after the ceremony you put it somewhere in you home, and everytime you need something from the other partner you leave a rose in the vase. Everytime you have something to discuss that is difficult to talk about, or you want to show support you leave a rose there....

breezy · #13 07-06-2006, 12:08 AM

I think it's Michaelsbride too.

these are the different ceremonies involving flowers from http://www.4wed.net/readings.htm#optional-ceremonies

The Red Rose Exchange View Photo
The Bride & Groom give each other a red Rose as their first gift as husband & wife. Two roses are all that is necessary.
______ and ______ your gift to each other for your wedding today has been your wedding rings - which shall always be an outward demonstration of your vows of love and respect; and a public showing of your commitment to each other. You now have the most honorable title that may exist between a man and a woman - the title of "husband" and "wife." In the elegant language of flowers, red roses are a symbol of love; the giving of a single red rose is a clear and unmistakable way of saying the words "I love you." For this reason it is fitting that the first gift you exchange as husband and wife would be the gift of a single red rose. Please exchange your first gift as husband and wife. You both have given and received one of the most valuable and precious gifts of life - one I hope you always remember - the gift of true and abiding love within the devotion of marriage. In every marriage there are times when it is difficult to find the right words, and the ones we love the most are the ones we can most easily hurt. There are times when it may be difficult to say "I'm sorry" or "I forgive you" or "I need you" or "I'm hurting." ______ and ______I would ask that wherever you may make your home, that you choose a special location. And at those times when words fail, that you leave a red rose at that spot you have both selected -- a rose that will say what matters more than all other words..."I still love you; The other should accept this rose for the words that cannot be found, and remember the love and hope that you both have shared today.

The Rose Exchange (Short Version)
In the elegant language of flowers, red roses are a symbol of love, the giving of a single red rose is a clear and unmistakable way of saying the words "I love you." For this reason it is fitting that the first gift you exchange as husband and wife would be the gift of a single red rose. Please exchange your first gift as husband and wife. You both have given and received one of the most valuable and precious gifts of life - one I hope you always remember - the gift of true and abiding love within the devotion of marriage. ______ and ______ I would ask that wherever you may make your home, that you choose a special location. And at those times when words fail, that you leave a red rose at that spot you have both selected -- a rose that will say what matters more than all other words..."I still love you; The other should accept this rose for the words that cannot be found, and remember the love and hope that you both have shared today.

Hawaiian Lei Exchange
In Hawaii, in the memory of the islands and their wedding ceremonies, the Lei has been a traditional MAKANA - a gift exchanged between bride and groom. LEI ALOHA – Necklaces of Love – are offered and accepted open-heartedly as they give of their beauty.

The Bride and Groom are given the opportunity to speak a few simple Hawaiian phrases: "Groom, please repeat after me, in Hawaiian": “Lei no, au ko, aloha” – “Please wear my love, like a beautiful Lei” "Please place the Lei around the neck of your beloved and give her a kiss on each cheek."

"Bride, please repeat after me, in Hawaiian": “Lei no, au ko, aloha” – “Please wear my love, like a beautiful Lei” "Please place the Lei around the neck of your beloved and give him a kiss on each cheek."

As your Aloha for one another, may these leis embrace your thoughts, your senses and your hearts.

White Rose Ceremony (May be used as exchange of vows)
Groom (as he hands his bride a long-stemmed white rose): "_____, take this rose as a symbol of my love. It began as a tiny bud and blossomed, just as my love has grown and blossomed for you"

Bride (as she places the rose into a bud vase filled with water): "I take this rose, as a symbol of your love, and I place it into water, a symbol of life. For, just as this rose cannot survive without water, I cannot survive without you."

Groom: "In remembrance of this day, I will give you a white rose each year on our anniversary, as a reaffirmation of my love and the vows spoken here today"

Bride: "And I will refill this vase with water each year, ready to receive your gift, in reaffirmation of the new life you have given me and the vows spoken here today".

Groom (as he and his bride join hands around the rose-filled vase): "And so, this rose will be a symbolic memory of my commitment to you this hour; I vow to be a faithful husband to you, to comfort you, honor you, and respect you and cherish you all the days of my life."

Bride (as they continue to hold the vase together): "And I commit myself to you, to be a faithful wife, to comfort you, honor you, respect you, and cherish you all the days of my life".

michaelsbride · #14 07-06-2006, 12:19 AM

Yup its me!!! We're doing one similar to the first one that breezy posted. if you want dragon, pm me your email addy and i can share my ceremony document since its long and will take up a LOT of space. (plus i think you wanted those guest book pages anyway!)

DragonYoga · #15 07-06-2006, 02:58 AM

OOO Breezy! I really, really like that last one, the White Rose ceremony! I'll think more about that one....!

ETA: Of course, I'd like to give him a White Rose as well...! Probably readjust that one to taste...

AngelRoseFyre · #16 08-04-2006, 11:45 PM

I'm posting late on this, but I agree that some larger flowers really do take quite a while to absorb the color. Maybe small ones, such as paper lilleis or something would absorb the color quicker. You may want to buy one or two of sever differnet types of flowers and try it at home and see how long it takes them to color.

If it doesn't take too terribly long, you may want to do that type of cerimony twards the beginning, so the color changes by the end of the service, that way the guests can watch the transfermation while the rest of the wedding takes place.

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Breezy had really great ideas as well. I was looking at some of those to usein our wedding as well. Great sight!!!