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mommy03bride · #1 06-30-2006, 05:29 PM

hey everyone, well i have a question. me and my girls have been talking and we decided were going to go to vegas for my bachelorette party. we want to leave on tuesday night or wednesday morning, and come back late thursday nite or early friday morning. my plan as of right now is to do this the week of my wedding but u know my fmil has to always put her two sense

in and she telling me that we should go the week before, just in case we get into a fight then we have time to make up. well i understand her point but doesnt that beat the purpose of going out my last night of being single??? yeah of course it wouldnt be the last night but i would still be hanging out with the girls on my last night. please give me your thoughts on this.

PlanetClaire · #2 06-30-2006, 05:34 PM

Well I don't like her explanation of WHY but I agree with her on the timing- especially if you're going out of town etc...

I would want to be well rested for the wedding week. I've always thought of bachelorette parties as more a time to hang with friends and celebrate your upcoming marriage rather than a "one last fling" sort of deal.

mommy03bride · #3 06-30-2006, 05:38 PM

oh i agree with u, i dont look at it as one last fling either. trust me him and i are going to have are rules in having these parties.

clairon13 · #4 06-30-2006, 05:45 PM

i agree w/ claire... timing is more of an issue if you are going out of town. i think it sounds like a really fun idea to hang w/ the girls in vegas, but i think the week before still lets everyone rest up the week of, do any recovering necessary, and be on their best leg so to speak physically and emotionally! i don't think the possibility of having fights w/ any of them is an issue, tho, b/cs surely then they wouldn't be going??? and do make sure that it's soemthing they can all afford to do so no one is being put out more than necessary (i don't know where you part of california is in relation to vegas), just fyi.

fallbride · #5 06-30-2006, 05:51 PM

I agree with Claire. My party is a month before my wedding. It was easier for everyone plus it is my birthday too. So they will be celebrating 2 things in one.

AshyBekka · #6 06-30-2006, 06:08 PM

I agree-I'm having my bach party (in Vegas!) in two weeks, but my wedding isn't until November. Part of this is that it's just easier to plan around schedules in the summer, but the other thing is that I know wedding planning is about to get NUTS again, and I don't want to be stressed trying to get out of town and all of that and then get home and recover while I'm trying to do a million other things. Just from past experience with other friends who have gotten married-and some of you married ladies can tell me if I'm wrong-but that last week is JAM PACKED with last minute things, and planning to get out of town that week may stress you out rather than lead you to have a good time. Just a thought!

555Ann555 · #7 06-30-2006, 06:12 PM

I don't think it is the best plan to have it the same week as the wedding, but it is do-able if you've set your heart on it.

There were a few reasons why I chose to have mine a month before:
1. My friends aren't rich, it is expensive enough going to a wedding (new outfit, gift, transport etc.) without having to attend another party in the same week.
2. I had too much to organise that week, logistically it would've been a nightmare.
3. I wouldn't want to look worse for wear at my wedding! I'd want to look well hydrated & rested

Lizbet · #8 06-30-2006, 06:45 PM

I also agree that a last week OOT trip could stress you more than relax you. I would seriously consider doing it a week or two ahead of time.

My bachelorette party was on the Wednesday before my wedding (on Sat). I did it in town, but I knew I wanted the couple of days right before the wedding to gather my thoughts and relax a little, as well as to be able to take care of the last minute stuff. I think I would have done it even further ahead if I'd gone OOT.

Clarity · #9 06-30-2006, 06:46 PM

Ann, you always use just the right wording.

I agree that the time would be better off the week before. Mostly because of timing and the toll such a busy schedule will take on you physically. A wedding is stressful and takes out alot of energy let alone add another major event on top of it so closely.

There is also the chance that something may need to be adjusted or fixed sometime during the week of the wedding. It would be much easier to do the week of the wedding than the day before.

labeadel · #10 06-30-2006, 06:49 PM

I find it odd that she thought that if you fought then you would have time to make up. Do you guys fight a lot? Where would she get this notion?

I had my bachelorette party in Vegas a month and a half before the wedding. He had his the same weekend. It worked out really well that way. I would never want to do it so close to the wedding. It just causes too much stress. I wanted to be able to get away and not worry that there was too much that still had to be done. I don't know about you guys, but the week before the wedding was crucial to me for getting stuff done.

mommy03bride · #11 06-30-2006, 08:54 PM

no we dont really fight. she just said that everyone that she knows does it before because of that reason. i really am leaning towards going the week of. were driving so no worries on flying and i plan to have everything done before.

sparklesweetie · #12 06-30-2006, 09:29 PM

As long as you're comfortable with it, do it when you want, even if it's the week of.

I had mine the weekend before, but now in hindsight....it would have been ok to have it sooner than that. I was going nuts trying to get everything done, even the week before. Then again, I was the one planning my party....but that's another soap box.

I say go for it! If you and your girls are ok doing it during the week, have fun!

justnmary · #13 06-30-2006, 10:24 PM

Good luck, have fun and DON'T WEAR YOURSELF OUT BEFORE THE BIG DAY!!!! lol....have a blast!

AugustBride · #14 07-10-2006, 02:52 AM

Personally, I wouldn't want to do the bachelorette party a few days before the wedding, but that's just me. There are too many things going on that week that I know I'm going to have to take care of - especially the day before: meeting with the florist to make sure bouquets are the right size, nails and pedicure, rehearsal, rehearsal dinner. It would be way to crazy for ME the week of the wedding to even think about doing any partying.

On the other hand, if you think you can handle it, why not? Who cares what other people say, it's your party and you know your own limitations. The bottom line is that you and your girls have a great time. Whether it be a month before, a week before, or the day before the big day shouldn't have any bearing on anyone but the immediate people involved. If you all can handle it, I say go for it.