Engagement party

[Marge129]

My sister and her FH are throwing themselves a housewarming/engagement party. It's more of a housewarming, but they'll be celebrating the engagement, too. It's the weekend after Natalie's baptism... both of which are in the WV/PA area. Travelling 2 weekends in a row is not going to happen. If I go to her party, I'd be staying with my Mom for the entire week... which is fine.

My problem is that I just don't know if I want to stay for the week and go to the party. Since I'm her MatronOH, would it be REALLY bad if I didn't go? Her MaidOH will be there for sure.

Thoughts??

[Lizbet]

I'd think she'd be disappointed if you couldn't make it. There's no way to adjust either the housewarming or the baptism so they fall on the same weekend is there? If I were in her situation, I would be upset if you were unwilling to stay, unless you provided a valid reason. I know this isn't what you'd prefer to hear, but it's what I feel.

[michaelsbride]

I dont think it would be REALLY bad but think of how you might feel if your matron of honor wasnt going to be there? If i knew you were gonna be there the next weekend and knew you could stay with your mom so its not a money issue, i would be a little disappointed. If shes not attending the baptism though.... i would feel a little less guilty about not going to the party!

[555Ann555]

Although I can understand not wanting to stay away from home for so long I think you kind of have to

Have you spoken to her about it? If she doesn't mind then it'd be fine I guess, but I'd be a bit disappointed if I was in her position.

[ljeagle]

I would be up set but then I would also understand. Have you talked to her about it?

[labeadel]

Yeah, I think you should really go to her party. If I were her, I would be pretty bummed that you didn't come, especially if I knew you could've just stayed with your mom for the week.

[PlanetClaire]

Yep- I agree. You have your Mom's to stay at! She'll spoil and pamper you and Natalie. Sounds like a nice idea actually!!

If you didn't have that option and had to go back and forth , I'd say you could bow out but not with Mom as a fallback.

[Marge129]

Thanks everyone. You confirmed what I was already thinking. I guess my main reason for NOT wanting to go is because it would keep Natalie and me away from Jerry for a weekend... and since that's the only time we see him as it is I just didn't want to miss it.

BTW, my sis will be at the baptism... she's Natalie's Godmother!!

I talked to Jerry and he said he doesn't care if I stay for the week... my Mom said she'd bring me back home if she needed to. My sister said she'd LIKE for me to be there, but she'd understand if I wasn't. I think I'll plan on going.

[sparklesweetie]

I'll go wit' ya and keep you company!

[justnmary]

Just use this time as "Grandma and Natalie time" and give mommy some much needed relaxation!!!!! I'd be eating it up to have a responsible baby-sitter so I could spend some alone time without worrying about the 'lil one. I'm sure your mom wouldn't mind at all. Take advantage of it while you can!!!

[Marge129]

Originally Posted by sparklesweetie

I'll go wit' ya and keep you company!

She probably wouldn't care!!!!!

[feb-bride]

Sounds like you've already made up your mind. I would go to both if I was in your position.

[labeadel]

I think you've made the right decision. I'm glad to hear your sister is looking forward to spending time with you too!