Your Role as a Best Man

[Cheryl Galvez]

Your Role as a Best Man
by Cheryl Galvez

You and your older brother are as close as any siblings could be and now he has asked you to be his best man. The following list outlines your duties and responsibilities as the groom's "right-hand man."

• Organizes the bachelor party
• Holds the bride's wedding ring
• Make sure vendors receive their payments
• Make sure the groom is dressed and on time
• Welcomes guests as they arrive at the ceremony location
• Offers the first toast to the bride and groom at the reception
• Witness the signing of the marriage certificate
• Attend pre-wedding parties, if feasible
• Pay for your tuxedo and shoe rental
• Pay for transportation and/or lodging to and from the wedding city
• Help the groom in any tasks or errands
• Participate in the garter toss, if single

Feel free to add or to comment.

[Robyn Lynn]

The only thing I told the best man to do was stay with the groom

[Dr. Nic]

Here are the duties of the Best Man, as outlined by the Garnet and Gold, published in 2006:

• Assisting the groom as advisor, messenger, valet and secretary in the wedding preparations;
• Accompanying the groom to be fitted for his wedding attire;
• Conferring with the bride on flowers for the male members of the wedding party, for which the groom pays but the bride usually orders;
• Confirming accommodations for nonresident members of the wedding party;
• Coordinating the rehearsal of the wedding ceremony to ensure that it begins on schedule;
• Assisting the groom on the wedding day to prepare for the ceremony;
• Driving the groom to the ceremony;
• Arranging transportation for the bride and groom from the ceremony to the reception;
• Confirming that the marriage license is in the groom's inside pocket and that he has the bride's wedding band;
• Delivering the minister's fee when the best man acts as witness to the ceremony;
• Getting the ushers to the ceremony one hour in advance of the ceremony;
• Getting the groom to the ceremony at least 30 minutes in advance of the ceremony;
• Escorting the maid or matron of honor during and after the ceremony;
• Offering the first toast to the newly-married couple;
• Reading any messages, which customarily come from invitees who could not attend, during the toasting section of the reception;
• Assisting the wedding couple in their departure from the reception;
• Supervising the couple's luggage for the honeymoon and ensuring it is ready for the honeymoon trip;
• Making honeymoon reservations in some cases; and
• Arranging to have wine or flowers waiting in the room when the couple arrives.

This is all pretty traditional stuff. I know not everyone does everything this way. But there is a list of stuff to consider. I also have the responsibilities of the groom, and of the ushers, also from the same book; if anyone is interested in such information, let me know.


Nic

[Heather]

Originally Posted by Dr. Nic

Here are the duties of the Best Man, as outlined by the Garnet and Gold, published in 2006:

Well, looks like it was published around the same time as this post, lol.

I know, I know... anyone can respond to these types of threads - but I couldn't resist.

[todaysdestinationwedding]

and...returning his tux, and others if need be the day after the wedding.